Meritamen
On a happy hair journey
LOL. I am being super lazy when it comes to my hair. Probably a good time to start wearing wigs again until I can get my act together.OK. Get it together. I don't understand any of what you are doing
LOL. I am being super lazy when it comes to my hair. Probably a good time to start wearing wigs again until I can get my act together.OK. Get it together. I don't understand any of what you are doing
What color? I'm thinking of doing jet black. What style did the stylist suggest! That maybe helpful!took those crochet braids out. Wasnt feeling it. Did a color and a wash and blow. Stylist is telling me to cut hair into a style.
You feel like you feel.Hey guys,
I didn't want to post this as a separate topic as I want to decrease the number of 4b naturals who see it and become disheartened, although I'm sure many will regardless. I'm feeling kind of discouraged about my hair texture. I know it's a mortal sin, but I'm kind of starting to wish I was a 4a. It was something I could never admit, because of the whole anti-black/ self hate issue. I never wanted to be that person so I'm reluctant to post this.
And I didn't even feel this way until recently, when I started being active on this board. Every time I get exited to see someone, with long type 4 hair, they are almost always a 4a. I've seen very few 4b/c people. It's like I never realized how much more of them have longer hair until now. I wish I had their coils and versatility as well. Also, looking at YouTube videos on growing long natural hair doesn't help, as many of them are also 4a. I feel like when it comes down to topic of long natural hair, 4as and up are always the default. I have to be specific and say 4b/c to get any useful information/ encouragement. I know that not everyone with a higher hair type has a easy time growing their hair, or this site wouldn't exist. It's just that from my own perspective, I have less hope than they do, so to speak.
I'm not going to stop trying to grow my hair long but part of me feels like the equivalent of keeping someone on life support to keep them alive, when they would otherwise die. And I'm already aware of everything regarding this topic/ issue, and possible counter-arguments against the life support analogy. I wholeheartedly agree with all of it, but it's not an argument, it's just how I'm feeling. I think I just needed to vent and be honest about how I feel, so that I can move forward with my journey.
I decided to look at it this way: Some things are very rare and/or difficult to achieve but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be attempted. It will be even more stunning and amazing to see.
If you can't be negative in here where can you be negative?Thank you @faithVA! Your post was exactly what I needed to read. Sorry for the negativity on what should be a positive thread, but I'm over it now. Just needed to get that out, but now I'm suddenly more optimistic and ready to move on.
So anyway... I did a roller set the other night and it came out nicely. I think that doing it tapered on one side makes it really cute. It's still going strong but if it's no good tomorrow, I'll see what will happen if I comb it out.
See I'm the opposite. It's either folks in the 3s, or 4b & c that I have seen growth rentention. I'm 4a, and the coils can be a blessing, an a curse! The shrinkage is out of control, it's prone to tangles and knots (likes to curl up) etc... don't feel bad, we all have our struggles!Hey guys,
I didn't want to post this as a separate topic as I want to decrease the number of 4b naturals who see it and become disheartened, although I'm sure many will regardless. I'm feeling kind of discouraged about my hair texture. I know it's a mortal sin, but I'm kind of starting to wish I was a 4a. It was something I could never admit, because of the whole anti-black/ self hate issue. I never wanted to be that person so I'm reluctant to post this.
And I didn't even feel this way until recently, when I started being active on this board. Every time I get exited to see someone, with long type 4 hair, they are almost always a 4a. I've seen very few 4b/c people. It's like I never realized how much more of them have longer hair until now. I wish I had their coils and versatility as well. Also, looking at YouTube videos on growing long natural hair doesn't help, as many of them are also 4a. I feel like when it comes down to topic of long natural hair, 4as and up are always the default. I have to be specific and say 4b/c to get any useful information/ encouragement. I know that not everyone with a higher hair type has a easy time growing their hair, or this site wouldn't exist. It's just that from my own perspective, I have less hope than they do, so to speak.
I'm not going to stop trying to grow my hair long but part of me feels like the equivalent of keeping someone on life support to keep them alive, when they would otherwise die. And I'm already aware of everything regarding this topic/ issue, and possible counter-arguments against the life support analogy. I wholeheartedly agree with all of it, but it's not an argument, it's just how I'm feeling. I think I just needed to vent and be honest about how I feel, so that I can move forward with my journey.
I decided to look at it this way: Some things are very rare and/or difficult to achieve but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be attempted. It will be even more stunning and amazing to see.
I thought I was the only one that still greased their scalp! I've read so many things about how bad it is to do that I never mention it, but once a week I grease my scalp with the light version of sulfur 8. I would never be able to go a full week without washing again if I didn't. My scalp gets so dry and itchy if I dont.I washed my hair last night.. at 10:15pm lol
Did a shampoo with diluted VO5 Strawberries and cream shampoo. Added a few drops of peppermint and Eucalyptus oil to it. Then quick conditioned with the VO5 matching conditioner.
I detangled in the shower, hopped out and greased my scalp then did flat twists.
I will be sure to deep condition the last 2 washes of the month.
Nope, you are not alone sis.I thought I was the only one that still greased their scalp! I've read so many things about how bad it is to do that I never mention it, but once a week I grease my scalp with the light version of sulfur 8. I would never be able to go a full week without washing again if I didn't. My scalp gets so dry and itchy if I dont. What grease do you use?
They have a line for naturals! I used my shampoo and humecto conditioner last night. I used DE Oat Protein shampoo first since it has sulfates.I'm going to have to try this KeraCare line in the spring or summer
I'm so out of touch! Didn't know they had a natural line. I used to love humecto when I was relaxed. Think I'll try Keracare when I come out of these braids. Wonder if they still sell the big tub of humecto.....They have a line for naturals! I used my shampoo and humecto conditioner last night. I used DE Oat Protein shampoo first since it has sulfates.
Wonder if they still sell the big tub of humecto.....
Jcpenney has it on sale right now.I'm so out of touch! Didn't know they had a natural line. I used to love humecto when I was relaxed. Think I'll try Keracare when I come out of these braids. Wonder if they still sell the big tub of humecto.....
For some reason, the hair in the very center of my head is shorter than the rest of my hair. I cannot for the life of me understand why. My left side has the same issue. I just did a pretty decent trim a few weeks ago, and I'm paying special attention to those areas so I'm hoping they flourish. But it's quite frustrating.
I'm almost out of my Mane Choice scalp oil and I'm trying to decide if I'm going to repurchase or buy something new. I like having something on my scalp to nourish it, and I do want something that will promote growth but I don't think there are any miracle oils out there (if y'all know of miracle oils, holla at me ). I was using NJoy's oil at one point, I can't recall if I saw growth.
I've noticed that a lot people have this issue. But for me, the hair on my crown has always been the longest. Have you tried Jamaican black castor oil. I know some people have problems with itching, but I never have. A lot of people use it to grow their edges back, although it's no miracle oil. If only.....
What color? I'm thinking of doing jet black. What style did the stylist suggest! That maybe helpful!
Are you going to do it?She mixed it up, its only two shades lighter than my natural non-descript brown hair. Sorry nothing fancy bc of the henna I did for 6 years. LOL she just told me layers and shorter at the nape I'm desperately trying to go out!
tbh, I've always had layers, but they've mostly grown out. my crown is pretty lunch my longest layer and is just brushing shoulder length. My problem child, aka the nape, is the shortest layer. I'm backwards.Are you going to do it?
A lot of the times I see ladies on this board regretting they got layers when they are trying to grow their hair out. I guess it depends on how fast you want to get to your goal or if you are cool get there whenever.