Anyone meet their husband through on line dating sites?

[MommaMayhann]

I check the classifieds sections periodically on Craigslist. I've thought a time or two about replying to one of the ads about going out to dinner or hanging on a Saturday afternoon, but I talked myself out of it. This is a really cute story. Now I wanna just try and see what might happen. You never know...

My advice if you do happen to go out one afternoon... Keep it simple. Coffee, Lunch... Dinner. Something like that so if you can't stand the person you're not already "committed" to a whole evening. If it happens to go well you can always extend it with another cup of coffee, dessert etc... If it sucks then you can tell him to kick rocks and you haven't lost anything. Make sure you have cab fare, a fully charged cell and a BFF that knows what your plans are. But I did those things no matter how I met the guy... You never know... Cats get foolish these days.erplexed

Good Luck!

 

[Kookie]

Hello All!

I’m glad I came across this thread! This is fun!

Let’s see…..
Way back in the day….maybe about 6 years ago now….I used Black Planet for the VERY first time! It sucked! But I kept on using BP because…that was really the only date site I knew about. During that time…I was trying to get over a current-relationship gone bad---and kinda wanted a quick fix to heal from it.
I was not really looking for a “date”—but more so a friend (to help take my mind off of my Ex). But each one I met off of BP was just TERRIBLE! I THOUGHT I was filtering all of the jerks and playas out---but I still came up with ZERO’s! I probably met about 5 guys or so thru off/on years of being on BP!
- 2 of them never got a call back after the first date.
- One of them—we hung out a little bit; but he wasn’t MY type….although he thought I was his erplexed
- Another one---we hung out, but at the second or third date, I realize his personality wasn’t meshing with mine.
- And finally, there was another one. He was actually quite normal….but I think he was toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo boring for me (not that I’m the most exciting person in the world though).

So then….
About maybe 2 years ago now….I found a site called: Black People Meet for singles. I REALLY liked this site like 50 times better than Black Planet! It “seemed” like the guys were a little more intelligent and serious about achieving the goals of the date site. Like many have mentioned….you still get your share of good ones and bad ones…..you just have to kinda filter them in and out. I vibed with a LOT of people on here though! But I only met like…2 of them in person. And this was only because I didn’t want to be lonely on Christmas….LOL! So I really got more aggressive to exchange numbers and arrange a meeting.
- Guy #1: he was VERY short—and not my type (it’s funny how you can click so well in writing…but not on the face2face).
- Guy #2: BIGgest jerk you’d ever want to meet. After meeting him…I understood why the man was single…and will probably REMAIN single. I had never met a man like him before in my life (had only seen them on television)! LOL!

So….
I figured….I’m THROUGH with online dating!
But at the same time….I KNEW the man of my dreams wasn’t sitting here waiting for me in the ATL! The ATL is a very tourist-y city. I know a lot of people who are from other places that come here strictly for the party life—NOT to settle in a committed relationship. And some of the people I knew who were in committed relationships with their ATL men…were extremely UNhappy!

I toyed with the idea of going to some of the White (more varied) date sites and mixing/matching with people from all over. I figured…maybe I’m limiting myself by just searching for Black Men.
But one thing was certain in my mind: My Love was definitely in another state—maybe even another country!!!!

Well……
I’m a full time student right now (hope to graduate early next year) – so I said to myself…I’m just gonna concentrate on my school work right now and worry with love later!
But….
As it turned out, I was on vacation from school during one period—and the lonely bug called out and told me to search some more! JUST once more! I don’t do clubs (stopped that mess about 5 years ago)….and I just don’t hang out any more like I used to. So “shopping” for men online was the most convenient. (no offense intended at using the word “shopping”.)

So….
I surfed and found a site called SoulSingles. This one isn’t as advertised as the other sites. I know I had NEVER heard of it before. But that’s also what made me curious and want to get more info. I checked out the profiles of several people—and liked what I saw and read!!! If I thought Blackpeoplemeet had some quality men---SoulSingles had them beat! I had joined on Dec 15th and my current SO reached out to me on Dec 21st. He lives in North Carolina and I live in Georgia (just as I figured: different states). He’s flown out several times since to see me. He’s even met my parents (that’s big for me!). Once I get my holiday breaks in from school…I will be flying up to see him as well. After I finish school for good—I will be moving there permanently. Long distance relationships are tough—but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m so in love with this man…it HURTS!

 

[sky_blu]

Im glad those sites worked for you ladies because I have no luck with online dating. I did meet one guy offline from online and thats still.......I think we'll just be friends eventually.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

Any recent hookups? I ask because the quality, honesty on the sites seems to have seriously dropped recently!

 

[SEMO]

Any recent hookups? I ask because the quality, honesty on the sites seems to have seriously dropped recently!

I'm interested to hear recent success stories too. I didn't think there'd be so many.

I've thought about it, but I keep thinking I'll end up meeting an axe murderer (not that you can't meet crazies in real life). I'm scared that online dating just has a higher concentration of crazies (like NYC ...j/k ).

But I'm 23 now. If I have no prospects by the time I'm 25 I will give online dating a serious chance. Right now I'm too shy about it (heck I don't even have a face pic on LHCF).

 

[sydwrites]

I totally understand your point, im covered up too. Im interested in knowing if people have found good people on these sites recently too. Im already past 25 and i normally would not have considered it, but it seems so many people have had success maybe i should erplexed

 

[SugarBaby]

Great thread with really wonderful hope for the online daters...Who knew there would be so many marriages from online dating. Very cool.

 

[song_of_serenity]

Met my S.O on myspace! Just started out as a random seach for new people and his face stood out...I sent a friend request, he found my yahoo and IM'd me. We spoke until 6am the next morning even though he had work at 7.

And he moved all the way from Missouri to be with me in N.Y! 2 years as of yesterday and going strong, God willing!! All these stories are inspiring.
~*Janelle~*

 

[chocolat79]

I'm not married, but I've met a few QUALITY guys from craigslist. Hard to believe, I know. I've dated 3 guys from there and they were all quality, it just didn't work out for one reason or another. But I was in a rlp for 10 months with a guy from CL.

 

[TaurusAngel]

Well, i met my newly fiance on Yahoo. We've been together for almost 2 years.

 

[Tayw29]

I met my SO on BP initially 2 yrs ago, we spoke back and forth for a while never met and lost contact. Then he found me again on BPM a few months later and finally we met and we have been together since. My BFF also met her SO on BP. Although i did meet plenty of jerks, I also met a few who were very cool guys. Its ironic becuz I was so not feeling my SO when we first began to speak, not that anything was wrong with him but from his pics he had posted he wasnt my type, so I thought but the moment I layed eyes on him in person I was in and cant see myself with out him.

 

[Dposh167]

guy #1) i met my ex-boyfriend (he was my first real relationship) on BP. We didn't meet intentionally to date each other. He imed me about how to put a song on his page and we just started chatting from there. we instantly clicked and talked online alllll the time. after 1 month we exchanged #s and talked for HOURS every weekend. then 6 mos. later we met in person and we started a relationship that lasted 1 1/2 years.

guy #2) i met last summer. he worked as a personal trainer by my job so i took the subway to meet him. nothing special about him. we met once, it was blah...and stopped returning his phone calls.

BTW: i didn't like blackpeoplemeet.com. I felt like it was just a bunch of older men (30+ and waaay older...no offense). I'm 23 and was not feeling that older crowd one bit. so i stopped going on there.

and let me tell u about eharmony. apparantly i'm too complicated of a person so after their 25 minute survey they have u fill out about urself, they send me an email saying that there is NOBODY who they can match me to. I think it was my fault tho cuz i got soooo annoyed with how long the survey was, that i just started checking ish off to be done with it...so maybe i'll try it again.

 

[cocoaluv]

I met a few guys online and dated two seriously. One ex from BP he was pretty decent....not the man for me though. My last boyfriend was from a message board. I am giving myself till the end of the year to see if my ex and I will get back together or not. After that I am gonna seriously do Match.com. I work and am in school and have never met a guy at either place thats worth dating. so I'm gonna continue giving online sites a try.

 

[GeorginaSparks]

eharmoney rejected me. That was like when i was 18.....

 

[sky_blu]

Im glad those sites worked for you ladies because I have no luck with online dating. I did meet one guy offline from online and thats still.......I think we'll just be friends eventually.

3 months later things went downhill...Definitely a learning experience.

 

[Spongie Bloom]

this thread has been fascinating to say the least, i think as time goes on meeting bfs online will become the norm because well we live the the technological era so pple are not going to raise their eyebrows to it anymore..i mean everyone knows at least one personwho has had a relationship or a few dates with someone they have met online..i really dont think its any different o meeting someone IRL at a bar or something...thank you for your experiences ladies

 

[SugarBaby]

this thread has been fascinating to say the least, i think as time goes on meeting bfs online will become the norm because well we live the the technological era so pple are not going to raise their eyebrows to it anymore..i mean everyone knows at least one personwho has had a relationship or a few dates with someone they have met online..i really dont think its any different o meeting someone IRL at a bar or something...thank you for your experiences ladies

I agree, at first, I was somewhat embarassed about the online thing...Then a good friend said...You are busy, you don't live in a big city, you don't have the flexibility to meet people...and I changed my perspective. I realized that the online thing is the norm for many of us and it is a great way for many of us.

 

[sylver2]

My aunt met her husband online. They have been married for 10 years now
They are writing a book on online love

My cousin met her husband online-married 2 years and coumting

My uncle met his fiancee online. Been together for 3 years and just got engaged.

 

[runwaydream]

well... i read this thread like 2 weeks back. i saw a few ppl here met ppl on craigslist. i was real skeptical cause..i mean..its craigslist. lol. anyway went on there and saw this real good looking AA male who wrote the crappiest post ever. i was bored so i emailed him a one sentence comment, ridiculing what he wrote in a very subtle way. i really didnt even expect to hear anything back. but he did write me back. we ended up talking ALL night. grand total of 12 hrs. the same happened the next night and the night after that, and the night after that. its like we couldnt get enough of each other. we ended up meeting that upcoming weekend. and its been great. last night he asked me to be his girlfriend. i kno its soon. everything moved so fast with us but... being with him feels so right. i just wanted to give my thanks to the ladies on this thread. if i hadnt stumbled on here a few weeks back i wouldnt be so happy right now. thanks a bunch!!

 

[SEMO]

well... i read this thread like 2 weeks back. i saw a few ppl here met ppl on craigslist. i was real skeptical cause..i mean..its craigslist. lol. anyway went on there and saw this real good looking AA male who wrote the crappiest post ever. i was bored so i emailed him a one sentence comment, ridiculing what he wrote in a very subtle way. i really didnt even expect to hear anything back. but he did write me back. we ended up talking ALL night. grand total of 12 hrs. the same happened the next night and the night after that, and the night after that. its like we couldnt get enough of each other. we ended up meeting that upcoming weekend. and its been great. last night he asked me to be his girlfriend. i kno its soon. everything moved so fast with us but... being with him feels so right. i just wanted to give my thanks to the ladies on this thread. if i hadnt stumbled on here a few weeks back i wouldnt be so happy right now. thanks a bunch!!

I feel the same way about craigslist. It seems a weird place to find a date. But after all these testimonials (yours especially) it makes me want to at least go look. I think I will, just out of curiosity .

 

[StLucianSweetie]

well... i read this thread like 2 weeks back. i saw a few ppl here met ppl on craigslist. i was real skeptical cause..i mean..its craigslist. lol. anyway went on there and saw this real good looking AA male who wrote the crappiest post ever. i was bored so i emailed him a one sentence comment, ridiculing what he wrote in a very subtle way. i really didnt even expect to hear anything back. but he did write me back. we ended up talking ALL night. grand total of 12 hrs. the same happened the next night and the night after that, and the night after that. its like we couldnt get enough of each other. we ended up meeting that upcoming weekend. and its been great. last night he asked me to be his girlfriend. i kno its soon. everything moved so fast with us but... being with him feels so right. i just wanted to give my thanks to the ladies on this thread. if i hadnt stumbled on here a few weeks back i wouldnt be so happy right now. thanks a bunch!!

Wow. Thats exciting. Well good luck with it and be safe. And of course keep us updated.

 

[Desarae]

Congratulations to everyone who found love online! I was skeptical at first! --Emailing thread to my mom--

 

[DayStar]

craigslist = BP?

 

[runwaydream]

Wow. Thats exciting. Well good luck with it and be safe. And of course keep us updated.

thank you, i will. i'm with him now actually. i've been with him all day. we just look each other and neither one of us can keep the smile off our faces. I'm so happy right now.

I feel the same way about craigslist. It seems a weird place to find a date. But after all these testimonials (yours especially) it makes me want to at least go look. I think I will, just out of curiosity .

you're tellin me. its a hella weird place to find a date. its still kind of idk how im gonna tell ppl but.. w/e im happy with him and he's happy with me so *shrugs* i really dont care if they look at me sideways. my baby so sexy!!!

 

[Mena]

thank you, i will. i'm with him now actually. i've been with him all day. we just look each other and neither one of us can keep the smile off our faces. I'm so happy right now.



you're tellin me. its a hella weird place to find a date. its still kind of idk how im gonna tell ppl but.. w/e im happy with him and he's happy with me so *shrugs* i really dont care if they look at me sideways. my baby so sexy!!!

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[BrooklynSouth]

Match was a bust..2 dates, nice guys..no more than one date. A Gigolo made contact..like what are you thinking?! The old free AOL was simple and I dated so much..miss that. I am thinking about E-Harmony again.

 

[wanwan1007]

I met my husband on-line at meetchristians.com. We've been married for almost 5 years. My family would say why are you meeting people on-line? There are crazy people on line. My response was I'm on line and I'm NOT crazy. You can't stereo type all people in one category. It's just like saying all black women have short hair, all spanish people have a zillion kids, people that wear glasses are smart. It's not true. You have to evaluate each person individually. There are good guys on line and jerks. Distance does give the ability to hide more but pay attention to the signs, discrepancies and red flags. If it doesn't feel right it's probably NOT right.

 

[MissRissa]

i met my ex off aol. we dated 3 years. wasn't looking for love. I was just on there because I wasn't working at the time and was bored. i think its better when you start off as cool friends and it develops into more. I still feel weird meeting people off the internet and if I tell my friends they look at me real cockeyed and talk to me like im slow. even though he broke up with me a few months back, i still love him and thought we were gonna be together forever. anywho, for the past 2 weeks i've been chit chatting with someone off bp, he seems cool, might possibly be meeting him in person sometime in the very near future. Ive met a couple others. Most of them were just jacka**es looking to be cut buddies. yeah no thanks.

 

[SelahOco]

Just wondering if anyone met their husband through on line dating sites like match.com or e-harmony?

On Blackplanet

 

[naturallygoldie]

aww crap now i'm gonna have to tell my father that he was right when he said you can still meet a good man online! I kinda turned up my nose when he said I should try online dating..shoot I don't date period (just hadn't had the time) anyhoo...congratz to every1 that found that special somebody in www... just remember: it's not where or how you met, it's simply that you met.