Anybody else thrown in the towel on dating?

StarScream35

StarScream35

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Anybody done with dating? I'm think I'm at the point where I'm actually done with dating. I've tried to be positive about the whole thing but I'm meeting jerk after jerk. Right now I'd like to just find a good, trustworthy sex partner. Anybody else out there thrown in the towel? I figure if I ever wanna have children.............hello to sperm donation.
 
Girl, breathe, rest, regroup, and go get your towel out the ring! All it takes is one and you never know when your one will come stepping into your life!
 
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Girlfriend thanks for the encouragment but I've been at this a LONG time and I've finally reached my breaking point. Dating is a hot mess and I'm tired of it. Just give me a sex partner and a sperm donar and I'm good to go.
 
Brighteyes35 Me too! And I haven't given up. My challenge is that I'm a pretty happy single woman so I'm willing to let a lot of men go rather then be tethered down to someone who isn't enriching my life.

But trust, there is a man out there for you. I personally think it's more about timing and opportunities to meet men ready to be serious more then anything else. I know plenty of men who were ridiculous back in the day who's light went on and then they got married and settled down.
 
I wonder sometimes myself if it was just a girl's dream and to leave girlish things behind. When I was young, a good provider seemed ideal...now I rival income with the best of men in my field. I love and protect me and will not allow myself to be taken advantage of like in my past. Perhaps, this egg has gotten too hard boiled.
 
Girl, at least you have the ability to get dates, so you have a better chance of finding love than a few of us since you know that men find you attractive. (Trying to put a positive spin on your situation for you). Take a break and get back out there if a relationship is something you want.
 
I have given up also. I am just done with it. I am tired of chasing unicorns and at this point believe that marriage might just be another pipe dream.
 
It's so sad to see some folks giving up. Honestly alot of grown men are just simply not in that ready to settle down stage. Many are still in that dog and player stage. Alot of your results simply are connected to what stage that man is in.

Not sure about the trusthworthy sex partner stuff. Why get involved in that if you really want love? Why settle for less? I can gurantee he is not gonna be trusthworty when he will be having sex with other women.
 
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It's so sad to see some folks giving up. Honestly alot of grown men are just simply not in that ready to settle down stage. Many are still in that dog and player stage. Alot of your results simply are connected to what stage that man is in.

Not sure about the trusthworthy sex partner stuff. Why get involved in that if you really want love? Why settle for less? I can gurantee he is not gonna be trusthworty when he will be having sex with other women.
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I agree.....ladies, please don't give up.

Get out of your comfort zone; cast a wider net; date someone different from your norm.
 
I don't see anything wrong with throwing in the towel. But make sure you pursue something else that will bring you joy. I'm sure there are better ways for you to spend your time other than dating jerk after jerk. You could become a foster mother, start a charity, create a business, write a book, something meaningful that utilizes your gifts and talents.
 
In theory I've thrown in the towel for this year and decided to be focused on school, but if someone cute asks me out I'm good to go:look:.
 
I just refocus my energy on myself. Education, building a real career, hobbies, and life goals. I don't read the threads on what I can do to attract a mate. Men don't do things like that, so why should I. If I have to suppress parts of my personality in order to attract someone, then I would rather be alone.

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I don't see anything wrong with throwing in the towel. But make sure you pursue something else that will bring you joy. I'm sure there are better ways for you to spend your time other than dating jerk after jerk. You could become a foster mother, start a charity, create a business, write a book, something meaningful that utilizes your gifts and talents.
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Thanks ladies for the support. I really do appreciate it but I'm just tired.............real tired. Even when you think you got a nice guy he turns out to be a total jerk and as I'm getting older, it's getting worse and worse. One thing I have noticed that stands out as I have been dating. Men seem to not want to let things progress naturally, they simply want the sex and nothing else. They want to go the least labor intensive route and still score big and when you won't they make it seem like there is something wrong with you. My only conclusion is that women encourage this behavior by giving in to men and allowing them to behave so poorly.

But like I said at this point, I'm just looking for a sex partner and nothing else. I think in this day and time, seeking a good man is like chasing a lost cause.
 
I am done. I am working on getting this weight off. That is my main concern. I don't have an evil\bad story to tell or anything, I am just done for a while.

I have been exploring volunteering opportunities and other things to devote my time and energy into. I spoke with my ex-husband last night, he ask me out next week. This guy I was spending a nice amount of time with, it is just fizzing out. I have turned my emotions off a bit and I am a happier person because of it right now.
 
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Men seem to not want to let things progress naturally, they simply want the sex and nothing else. They want to go the least labor intensive route and still score big and when you won't they make it seem like there is something wrong with you. My only conclusion is that women encourage this behavior by giving in to men and allowing them to behave so poorly.

But like I said at this point, I'm just looking for a sex partner and nothing else. I think in this day and time, seeking a good man is like chasing a lost cause.
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I don't see how this will help. Aren't you then doing the thing you blame women for doing that is messing up the dating scene?
 
Brighteyes35 said:
Thanks ladies for the support. I really do appreciate it but I'm just tired.............real tired. Even when you think you got a nice guy he turns out to be a total jerk and as I'm getting older, it's getting worse and worse. One thing I have noticed that stands out as I have been dating. Men seem to not want to let things progress naturally, they simply want the sex and nothing else. They want to go the least labor intensive route and still score big and when you won't they make it seem like there is something wrong with you. My only conclusion is that women encourage this behavior by giving in to men and allowing them to behave so poorly.

But like I said at this point, I'm just looking for a sex partner and nothing else. I think in this day and time, seeking a good man is like chasing a lost cause.
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Be careful. With your heart and your health. If you think finding a good man is a lost cause then you are willing to sleep with "bad" men?
 
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Can't tell you how many times I was on the verge of actually throwing in the towel too. Oddly enough after a string of very bad dates and one bad relationship I met my sweetie and SO. Still going strong after almost 3 months of steady dating. Get out of the house and really start to maximize your social interactions with people in general in a variety of places. I was a serious homebody and almost afraid at times to venture out of my comfort zone.
 
I can't technically 'throw in the towel' since I'm in 2 dating/matchmaking services but I am getting more pessimistic. I've been on 3 dates from one agency and they've been lacking--big time.
 
I'm really done I'm with you OP...Ive been tired for a long time and get tired of just lookin on the bright side of things and saying there is someone out there for everyone.
 
Shoot, I haven't just thrown in the towel, I've stomped on it, doused it in gasoline and lit it on fire.

I'm so far beyond done, I need a new word for done.
 
I'm trying not to. I'm 30 but this is my year... Or at least I'm telling myself that and trying to fulfill the goal. I'm out there... Ding things I wouldn't normally do, meeting guys that I wouldn't normally meet. Trying to be a little more open. Hoping to be pleasantly surprised. I'm reading Love in 90 Days and while I may not follow the book to the letter, I'm taking points from it and trying to stop poisoning my love life.

Don't give up. Life could be worse.
 
I am DONE! I'm so sick of the inconsistencies, the stress, and the uncertainty that comes along with dating.

As much as I'd like to find the right one, my life is stress free when I'm alone.

It's going to take someone very special to make me feel like dating again.
 
Not done, but not actively trying either. I have some goals I'm trying to accomplish, so if I meet someone in the midst of that, so be it.
 
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