FunkyMunky
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Okay, so I have been talking to this really sweet together mid 30's divorcee with a 6 year old son for a couple of months now. We are both single parents and everything is cool and we both know what we want at this stage in our lives. We live about 2 hours from each other and have plans to meet after xmas for a few days.
Issue:
His 6 year old son sleeps with him in his bed every night and they live in a 5 bedroom house.
erplexed He says _____ and I are going to bed. I asked him if his son was afraid to sleep in his own bed and he said no that he has been sleeping with him since he was an infant (after he separated). He said its nice that he has someone to hug up with etc... Its crazy to hear him getting ready for bed and he says his son is watching tv waiting for him to get in and you hear the little boy in the background asking him when is hecoming to bed. At first he made it seem like his son was clingy and jealous but I now know its him. When his son goes to his mothers place for the weekend, he literally sits at home depressed until he returns and when he does get back he is giddy like a kid.
I said to him how are you making room for a partner if you can't get your son out of your bed? He said that wouldn't be a problem but I told him I thought it would be a problem, that he should start adjusting him now. This was at the beginning when he made it seem like it was the son but it's him.
IMO it feels like he treats his son like his best friend and partner and it bothers me. "Are you coming to get me or what?" thats what the son said when he was delayed an hour to come get him. He jumps up and down for his son, dropping off/picking up on a whine (sometimes multiples times per day), catering to his every whim. His son has been seen holding hands and talks about kissing a little girl at school. He thinks its cute. I am in no way trying to come between him and his son because I have my own son but I think its hurting both of them.
My son (8) is very well behaved, he doesn't talk back, he doesn't whine, he claims to have a girlfriend at school but its the way we use to have a bf/gf crush in 3rd grade. My son sleeps in his own bed 98% of the time unless we go somewhere that the accommodations are limited or if I haven't seen him in a few days (because of work) he may try to sleep with me or I ask him. Often times he declines.
I am concerned that this 6 year olds habits will negatively influence my son and I won't stand for flippant behavior in any child. I know that if we were to go the long haul we would get family counseling.....period.
So ladies, am I out of line for feeling this way???? Should I break it off????
Issue:
His 6 year old son sleeps with him in his bed every night and they live in a 5 bedroom house.
I said to him how are you making room for a partner if you can't get your son out of your bed? He said that wouldn't be a problem but I told him I thought it would be a problem, that he should start adjusting him now. This was at the beginning when he made it seem like it was the son but it's him.
IMO it feels like he treats his son like his best friend and partner and it bothers me. "Are you coming to get me or what?" thats what the son said when he was delayed an hour to come get him. He jumps up and down for his son, dropping off/picking up on a whine (sometimes multiples times per day), catering to his every whim. His son has been seen holding hands and talks about kissing a little girl at school. He thinks its cute. I am in no way trying to come between him and his son because I have my own son but I think its hurting both of them.
My son (8) is very well behaved, he doesn't talk back, he doesn't whine, he claims to have a girlfriend at school but its the way we use to have a bf/gf crush in 3rd grade. My son sleeps in his own bed 98% of the time unless we go somewhere that the accommodations are limited or if I haven't seen him in a few days (because of work) he may try to sleep with me or I ask him. Often times he declines.
I am concerned that this 6 year olds habits will negatively influence my son and I won't stand for flippant behavior in any child. I know that if we were to go the long haul we would get family counseling.....period.
So ladies, am I out of line for feeling this way???? Should I break it off????
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