SvelteVelvet
Well-Known Member
Looking over my recent dating life (including reciprocated infatuations/attractions/crushes) it seems to be a pattern that he's in a relationship, married, married and separated or has an obsessive ex. In any case the woman is crazy and aggressively goes after me.
Now let me stress that I don't go after these men. They pursue me and in any case of marriage or in-tact relationship I don't explore it or even flirt with it. Even though he does, I do a good job of keeping the barrier that needs to be in place.
It's getting quite old. I'm starting to feel angst about it and feeling like I must be dealing with the reality of what the world and this board highlights with eligible black bachelorettes having it so hard finding man due to the lopsided ratio of eligible/available black men and women. I've sorta felt like an observer of this plight up until now. I've expressed feelings about the stresses of dating before but just wanted to talk about this annoying little side-effect.
What gives? How come these women aren't going after their man about showing interest to another woman while they're in a relationship? It's like common sense that the one that made a commitment to you is the one you should be talking to. And even if they DO talk to their man they will also feel the need to get in contact with the woman. I can almost kinda understand making your presence known to the woman, perhaps finding out for yourself timelines or whatever for their own personal sanity-maybe but then again this is stupid too. I would not even WANT a man that can have such level of interest in another woman. Details are irrelevant. If the trust is broken it's broken. Why attack a woman you don't even know when it was your man who showed interest in her?
What I can't STAND about these women(girls), is the advantage they CREATE and allow to continue for men to be dogs and not face any real repercussions for their actions. Instead of breaking up with him they will go through his phone and literally call every female and verbally attack and threaten them if they don't stop calling their man. Not realizing that this will be your life if you choose it. If a man sees that your a dumbass that is going to attack the woman and keep giving him sex and whatever else to keep him, that will be your life with him and it will never change. In the end that's gotta tear a woman down, physically, mentally, emotionally and it shows. I see it all the time.
Women really want a man they have to try to force to be with them and no one else? It's coming to the point that I'm feeling if this is an "it is what it is" situation and perhaps I need to change MY ways and accept the fact that love is a war and their will always be a battle. Perhaps I need to make the decision to win one.
Thoughts?
Now let me stress that I don't go after these men. They pursue me and in any case of marriage or in-tact relationship I don't explore it or even flirt with it. Even though he does, I do a good job of keeping the barrier that needs to be in place.
It's getting quite old. I'm starting to feel angst about it and feeling like I must be dealing with the reality of what the world and this board highlights with eligible black bachelorettes having it so hard finding man due to the lopsided ratio of eligible/available black men and women. I've sorta felt like an observer of this plight up until now. I've expressed feelings about the stresses of dating before but just wanted to talk about this annoying little side-effect.
What gives? How come these women aren't going after their man about showing interest to another woman while they're in a relationship? It's like common sense that the one that made a commitment to you is the one you should be talking to. And even if they DO talk to their man they will also feel the need to get in contact with the woman. I can almost kinda understand making your presence known to the woman, perhaps finding out for yourself timelines or whatever for their own personal sanity-maybe but then again this is stupid too. I would not even WANT a man that can have such level of interest in another woman. Details are irrelevant. If the trust is broken it's broken. Why attack a woman you don't even know when it was your man who showed interest in her?
What I can't STAND about these women(girls), is the advantage they CREATE and allow to continue for men to be dogs and not face any real repercussions for their actions. Instead of breaking up with him they will go through his phone and literally call every female and verbally attack and threaten them if they don't stop calling their man. Not realizing that this will be your life if you choose it. If a man sees that your a dumbass that is going to attack the woman and keep giving him sex and whatever else to keep him, that will be your life with him and it will never change. In the end that's gotta tear a woman down, physically, mentally, emotionally and it shows. I see it all the time.
Women really want a man they have to try to force to be with them and no one else? It's coming to the point that I'm feeling if this is an "it is what it is" situation and perhaps I need to change MY ways and accept the fact that love is a war and their will always be a battle. Perhaps I need to make the decision to win one.
Thoughts?