hopeful
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She is one of the sweetest people I've ever met, but I will say she's very selfish with her love and attention. You normally have to seek her and put in the time and effort. And like I said upthread she's very big on always being in control of herself. I'm not sure if she's consciously translated that into being the one in control of the relationship, but she definitely runs things in the relationship. It seems like he's this sweet little puppy running around trying to please her. He's always the one seeking her for physical comfort, affection, and attention and shes just kinda like eh.. Like I said above she said her biggest challenge in marriage thus far has been making sure she holds onto her independence and not wanting him up under her all of the time.
It's just weird to me because she says before marriage they would get hot and heavy and SHE'd be the one really having to restrain herself. I want to tell her to get help, but I don't want to offend her because this is such a private subject. Even though she brought it to me, I'm not sure of a tactful, non-invasive way to tell her she needs to get help.
If she hadn't been all hot and heavy while courting bet he would not have wanted to marry her. She's a slick one. Classic bait and switch. I wouldn't spend anymore time thinking about or worrying about her. If you are uncomfortable suggesting she get help, don't. She and her dh will figure it out eventually or not. Either way it's not your problem and she's not in any kind of danger. So I'd let her problems go. Sounds like she's more bragging and enjoying holding onto her independence than anything. She probably doesn't want help.
ETA: I can delete your quote if you want me to ...
i dont mean to laugh but this part has me rollinggggg