About To Cut Him Off...chime In

God_Favor said:
He really wanted to show you off to prove he is "somebody" too. He was really pressed to have a beautiful woman on his arm. He is going to hound the heck out of you. I've been in situations like this.,.,.....

seems like he suffers from low self-esteem , guys like this are very fragile . They want all of your time, so they can tell folks "I'm with my girl"and it makes them feel wanted. The moment you need space to do you own thing they act out showing all the signs of being sad and broken because it's a blow to their ego.

Broken men need love too. He may be a great guy just in a bad place. If you decide to continue just tread lightly .
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Wooo chile been there done that! I pray I never attract anyone like that again. Some of these sweet broken puppy types have a hidden temper too.
 
TrulyBlessed said:
Wooo chile been there done that! I pray I never attract anyone like that again. Some of these sweet broken puppy types have a hidden temper too.
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I wondered about that too. I don't know if I mentioned but he's a cop. My first time dealing with one. Not sure if he would've shown some anger issues at some point. I'm in Vegas for my bday and he's been texting, saying he should be here with me celebrating(he wasn't invited). ((Shrugs)) Bottom line, told him that its clear he has some stuff to work on and I would like to see him work on those for his own benefit. Added that he just can't have my time and still be playing head games with his ex...my time is much too precious. Plus Vegas is lit!
 
Chrismiss said:
I wondered about that too. I don't know if I mentioned but he's a cop. My first time dealing with one. Not sure if he would've shown some anger issues at some point. I'm in Vegas for my bday and he's been texting, saying he should be here with me celebrating(he wasn't invited). ((Shrugs)) Bottom line, told him that its clear he has some stuff to work on and I would like to see him work on those for his own benefit. Added that he just can't have my time and still be playing head games with his ex...my time is much too precious. Plus Vegas is lit!
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A cop too, wow. Well :birthday3:and enjoy Vegas!!! :dance7:
 
Chrismiss said:
I wondered about that too. I don't know if I mentioned but he's a cop. My first time dealing with one. Not sure if he would've shown some anger issues at some point. I'm in Vegas for my bday and he's been texting, saying he should be here with me celebrating(he wasn't invited). ((Shrugs)) Bottom line, told him that its clear he has some stuff to work on and I would like to see him work on those for his own benefit. Added that he just can't have my time and still be playing head games with his ex...my time is much too precious. Plus Vegas is lit!
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Here I was thinking you were being a bit harsh.

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Ok, what's up with cops? Since I've never dealt with one, I'm not in the know. I think I've heard they're cheaters. Obviously with him, his ego is an issue. What else?
 
Chrismiss said:
Ok, what's up with cops? Since I've never dealt with one, I'm not in the know. I think I've heard they're cheaters. Obviously with him, his ego is an issue. What else?
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I've heard they're controlling and abusive and if you try to report them or leave then they have the protection of other cops and will freely continue to harass you.

SO is a police officer. :look: He's never so much as raised his voice at me. But it's clear he thinks he's the boss, but that was the case even before he entered law enforcement.

He recently informed me that he's my father, my daddy and my papi. Yeah, I'mma keep an eye on this one. :scratchchin:
 
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Chrismiss said:
I wondered about that too. I don't know if I mentioned but he's a cop. My first time dealing with one. Not sure if he would've shown some anger issues at some point. I'm in Vegas for my bday and he's been texting, saying he should be here with me celebrating(he wasn't invited). ((Shrugs)) Bottom line, told him that its clear he has some stuff to work on and I would like to see him work on those for his own benefit. Added that he just can't have my time and still be playing head games with his ex...my time is much too precious. Plus Vegas is lit!
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The Bruhz are in Vegas for the clave! Giiiirl, have fun, you shouldn't have to pay for food or drink the whole weekend :)
 
LoveLiLi said:
I've heard they're controlling and abusive and if you try to report them or leave then they have the protection of other cops and will freely continue to harass you.

SO is a police officer. :look: He's never so much as raised his voice at me. But it's clear he thinks he's the boss, but that was the case even before he entered law enforcement.

He recently informed me that he's my father, my daddy and my papi. Yeah, I'mma keep an eye on this one. :scratchchin:
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Oh, I see. Makes sense now. He said something to me before this incident that I now interpret as what your guy said...he was talking about how he feels about me and he said "It's strange, I feel as strongly about you as I do my daughter." It weirded me out a bit at the time. I see how he spoils the hayle out of her(she's 9) and he makes no bones about it. He was headed the same way with me too and said as much.
 
Chrismiss said:
Oh, I see. Makes sense now. He said something to me before this incident that I now interpret as what your guy said...he was talking about how he feels about me and he said "It's strange, I feel as strongly about you as I do my daughter." It weirded me out a bit at the time. I see how he spoils the hayle out of her(she's 9) and he makes no bones about it. He was headed the same way with me too and said as much.
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One of my red flags was him saying, "I'm starting to feel really protective of you. Like I'm protective of my mom and sisters but I feel the same way about you too." Soon afterwards he proceeded to become very controlling and jealous. I was never hit or verbally abused but homeboy would raise his voice and argue over just about anything. Didn't want me going to my college reunion without him (saying if guys flirt with me he wouldn't be there to stop it or prevent it lol), jealous over old photos of male friends in high school/college photo albums and wanted me to destroy them all, felt I didn't love him if I couldn't pick up the phone if he called (Even if I was asleep, studying), got yelled at because I said a celebrity was handsome. I told him he was extremely insecure, needy, and needed to work on himself. He wouldn't admit this until after I broke up with him. He was a nice guy on the surface and sickly sweet in the beginning but his insecurities made him so crazy. To this day guys who come on strong scare me because of that relationship.

Thinking back I felt like an object to be used to fill voids, lick wounds, uplift him, and soothe his insecurities instead of a partner and a human being to be respected. Drained me dry as a desert emotionally. Anyway, if you decide to proceed with him be careful and trust your gut if anything feels uncomfortable.
 
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LoveLiLi said:
I've heard they're controlling and abusive and if you try to report them or leave then they have the protection of other cops and will freely continue to harass you.

SO is a police officer. :look: He's never so much as raised his voice at me. But it's clear he thinks he's the boss, but that was the case even before he entered law enforcement.

He recently informed me that he's my father, my daddy and my papi. Yeah, I'mma keep an eye on this one. :scratchchin:
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Also, the most cheatin' a** (and unbelievably blatant with it) dudes I know are cops.
 
MzLady78 said:
Also, the most cheatin' a** (and unbelievably blatant with it) dudes I know are cops.
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I could see this. My uncle was chief of police and that man wouldn't even share a room with my aunt.

Even as kids, we would see evidence of his cheating (used condoms in his van when my aunt used it to take a bunch of us out for the day) and hear about the women he slept with.
 
^^^ Oh, and another uncle was a cop but also a long-time pimp.

Thankfully, I have two other uncles in law enforcement who are family-oriented and and decent men or my view of cops would be all bad.
 
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