chronicity
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"....I don't even care if she talks to me. All that matters to me is that I'm physically attracted to her and she is nice."
A guy I have been dating for a month or so told me this on Sunday. This actually wasn't the first time he said this; during our first date, he expressed something similar. Except that time, he wasn't talking about himself per se but rather what he thought men in general want from women. Or "females" as he frequently refers to them.
He maintained that as long as he has football and guy friends, he doesn't have a need to seek out deep conversation with the woman he's seeing. It is enough for her to sit there and be quiet in his company or listen to him talk.
Obviously, hearing him express this view point has turned me off and I am no longer seeing him. I can't even remember how we got on that subject, but the fact that this is the second he has brought this up has sealed in my mind that we have radically different value systems (on top of the sexism). There are other issues that have me turned off him, but this is the nail in the coffin.
Have you ever heard a guy voice this sentiment to you? If so, what was your reaction to it? I haven't ruled out the possibility that there may be women out there who would be fine with their mate having such a preference.
A guy I have been dating for a month or so told me this on Sunday. This actually wasn't the first time he said this; during our first date, he expressed something similar. Except that time, he wasn't talking about himself per se but rather what he thought men in general want from women. Or "females" as he frequently refers to them.
He maintained that as long as he has football and guy friends, he doesn't have a need to seek out deep conversation with the woman he's seeing. It is enough for her to sit there and be quiet in his company or listen to him talk.
Obviously, hearing him express this view point has turned me off and I am no longer seeing him. I can't even remember how we got on that subject, but the fact that this is the second he has brought this up has sealed in my mind that we have radically different value systems (on top of the sexism). There are other issues that have me turned off him, but this is the nail in the coffin.
Have you ever heard a guy voice this sentiment to you? If so, what was your reaction to it? I haven't ruled out the possibility that there may be women out there who would be fine with their mate having such a preference.