LivingDol1
Well-Known Member
Hi Ladies.... (sorry this is long)
I've been posting about this in the Random Relationships Thoughts thread but I need some advice. Or something. Reality slap across the face?
First, I need to come clean. On the 3rd date last week, we had a great time. We bar hopped in the neighborhood starting at 8:30pm. We had fun talking and making each other laugh. Kissing, duh, which has gotten so much better between us. 12:30 came around fast and we were leaving the 2nd bar. He asked me what I wanted to do and I said that I wanted to go to one last place.
Then he goes, "Ok I'm going to say something crazy. I totally get that you want to take things slow and I respect that. But I've had a great time being around you on our dates and I'm not going to see you for 2 weeks. I really want you to spend the night with me. I'm not a monster and I'm not going to force you to do anything you don't want to do. But, I just want to spend as much time with you as possible before I leave. So, the best thing I think is for you to stay with me tonight."
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killing me here. I hemmed and hawed and he was like, I can go to your place. i said no b/c my place was a mess. he said i could go to his place. and I said well, OK, but i'm leaving at 6:30am to go back to my place. He said OK, whatever you want. So, we walked to his apartment. Gosh, I felt so like... weird? I wanted to go with him but I didn't want to but I wanted to... I could tell during the date that he was sort of thinking. He suggested pizza and a movie beforehand and I -knew- he was talking about his place. it might have just been easier to go to his place and watch a movie and leave!!
So, we get to his place. He introduces me to his roommate. We go in his room and he asks me if I want any PJ pants or anything of his to sleep in. I say no because I fully intend to wear my full outfit in bed! I wasn't even going to wash my face! I was also trying to think of ways to escape in the middle of the night.
We obviously made out in his bed. My clothes stayed on. No hands underneath stuff. No skin on skin. No entries. He stayed pretty behaved. The kissing was pretty hot so at a point he said that we should go to bed so he faced me away from him but held me close to him the entire night. I didn't get sleep because I kept thinking about escaping, waking up every half hour. He would say things in the middle of the night like, "If this is too much, we could watch TV in the living room." "I could go on the couch or if you want, you can have the couch." "I'm really glad that you decided to stay over with me."
at 6:30, I promptly got up. Put my shoes on, made sure I still looked as nice as 6 hours ago (I did) and he walked me to the elevator to press the button and kissed me goodbye. He said that he would see me soon. Then he texted me at around 11am to pick on me about Words with Friends (his 3rd loss to me).
*sigh* During our last date, he asked me if I would email him on FB while he was gone. So I said I would if he wanted. Should I email him? How long should I wait? Am I delusional? Do you think he was trying to get it in before he went away? (obviously). Am I crazy to think that he won't be in touch when he gets back? I hope he doesn't meet some Jewish broad on his trip. I will not be happy with that.
I miss him and I've been thinking about him and I want to email him. But I think I should wait. He comes back March 19.
Any advice?
I've been posting about this in the Random Relationships Thoughts thread but I need some advice. Or something. Reality slap across the face?
First, I need to come clean. On the 3rd date last week, we had a great time. We bar hopped in the neighborhood starting at 8:30pm. We had fun talking and making each other laugh. Kissing, duh, which has gotten so much better between us. 12:30 came around fast and we were leaving the 2nd bar. He asked me what I wanted to do and I said that I wanted to go to one last place.
Then he goes, "Ok I'm going to say something crazy. I totally get that you want to take things slow and I respect that. But I've had a great time being around you on our dates and I'm not going to see you for 2 weeks. I really want you to spend the night with me. I'm not a monster and I'm not going to force you to do anything you don't want to do. But, I just want to spend as much time with you as possible before I leave. So, the best thing I think is for you to stay with me tonight."
.....
!!!!!!
killing me here. I hemmed and hawed and he was like, I can go to your place. i said no b/c my place was a mess. he said i could go to his place. and I said well, OK, but i'm leaving at 6:30am to go back to my place. He said OK, whatever you want. So, we walked to his apartment. Gosh, I felt so like... weird? I wanted to go with him but I didn't want to but I wanted to... I could tell during the date that he was sort of thinking. He suggested pizza and a movie beforehand and I -knew- he was talking about his place. it might have just been easier to go to his place and watch a movie and leave!!
So, we get to his place. He introduces me to his roommate. We go in his room and he asks me if I want any PJ pants or anything of his to sleep in. I say no because I fully intend to wear my full outfit in bed! I wasn't even going to wash my face! I was also trying to think of ways to escape in the middle of the night.
We obviously made out in his bed. My clothes stayed on. No hands underneath stuff. No skin on skin. No entries. He stayed pretty behaved. The kissing was pretty hot so at a point he said that we should go to bed so he faced me away from him but held me close to him the entire night. I didn't get sleep because I kept thinking about escaping, waking up every half hour. He would say things in the middle of the night like, "If this is too much, we could watch TV in the living room." "I could go on the couch or if you want, you can have the couch." "I'm really glad that you decided to stay over with me."
at 6:30, I promptly got up. Put my shoes on, made sure I still looked as nice as 6 hours ago (I did) and he walked me to the elevator to press the button and kissed me goodbye. He said that he would see me soon. Then he texted me at around 11am to pick on me about Words with Friends (his 3rd loss to me).
*sigh* During our last date, he asked me if I would email him on FB while he was gone. So I said I would if he wanted. Should I email him? How long should I wait? Am I delusional? Do you think he was trying to get it in before he went away? (obviously). Am I crazy to think that he won't be in touch when he gets back? I hope he doesn't meet some Jewish broad on his trip. I will not be happy with that.
I miss him and I've been thinking about him and I want to email him. But I think I should wait. He comes back March 19.
Any advice?