2021 Dating & Relationship Thread

When we first started talking a week in he said something along the lines can you kiss and he wants to get into me and then I said "when I'm comfortable". And he responded ok no rush.. Anyway we been still talking everyday ever since he's been respectful with my boundaries. And he went all out for valentines day and kept his word. I like how this is moving this man done so much for me in a short time and ain't pressuring me in anything.
 
I'm a married woman y'all! :cloud9:

DH (I have a DH!) and I got married last night before our wedding in Hawaii. Neither of us wanted to make a big deal out of it since it's only for the papers but my family and his friends wouldn't have it. :giggle: I knew about the photographer but not the videographer nor the wedding cake. We had a short reception afterwards and it was nice to celebrate with some friends who won't be with us in Hawaii. His sister, my new SIL made a wonderful toast. One wedding down, two more to go. I can't wait to get to Hawaii. I need a vacation and I'm excited to celebrate with more friends.
 
ScorpioBeauty09 said:
I'm a married woman y'all! :cloud9:

DH (I have a DH!) and I got married last night before our wedding in Hawaii. Neither of us wanted to make a big deal out of it since it's only for the papers but my family and his friends wouldn't have it. :giggle: I knew about the photographer but not the videographer nor the wedding cake. We had a short reception afterwards and it was nice to celebrate with some friends who won't be with us in Hawaii. His sister, my new SIL made a wonderful toast. One wedding down, two more to go. I can't wait to get to Hawaii. I need a vacation and I'm excited to celebrate with more friends.
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Congratulations!!!!! :2inlove::bdance::congrats:
 
Lurking in here and it makes my heart happy to see some ladies finding love. I’m not sure of ages but at my big age my hope in knowing love and being desired is starting to wane. I don’t want to take trash bc of my size or aesthetics. I know things can change but this has been a constant in being alone 15 yrs.
 
He 's been talking about about my birthday all week and today is my birthday and he has not said anything. We talked today and all he kept on talking about is he's mulching his lawn. Im giving him until 12midnight. And tI'm going to let him know that maybe we should take a break. Its not about him buying or doing something he could of least say Happy Birthday. What ya'll say should I dump him
 
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Ayesha81 said:
He 's been talking about about my birthday all week and today is my birthday and he has not said anything. We talked today and all he kept on talking about is he's mulching his lawn. Im giving him until 12midnight. And tI'm going to let him know that maybe we should take a break. Its not about him buying or doing something he could of least say Happy Birthday. What ya'll say should I dump him
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Happy Birthday!
 
Ayesha81 said:
He 's been talking about about my birthday all week and today is my birthday and he has not said anything. We talked today and all he kept on talking about is he's mulching his lawn. Im giving him until 12midnight. And tI'm going to let him know that maybe we should take a break. Its not about him buying or doing something he could of least say Happy Birthday. What ya'll say should I dump him
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Happy Birthday @Ayesha81 :birthday2:

Did he have a surprise waiting for you?
 
Ayesha81 said:
Ty for the Birthday greetings!! He apologized profusely and he's sorry he failed me and said he been busy doing too much it slipped his mind. I'm letting him sweat today I didn't answer his call or text.
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I would do the same! Ugh, that has to feel so disappointing!

On a brighter note, take yourself out and do something nice (dinner, massage, shopping) and treat yourself to something you want!

Once you’re ready to respond to him, you can tell him you had plans and were out celebrating your birthday! :yep:
 
Soooo….I dragged myself to the gym today and the first person I saw at the front desk talking to the workers is my ex’s gf who does NOT like me. My heart skipped a beat like oh crap! But I push through. I walk over to the only stairmaster machine available while I’m setting my phone to sync up with my headphones that were on. I look to my left and there he is, my ex chuckling at the coincidence I’m assuming. I mumble something like “I knew I saw her here” then I say, “I am out of here” and immediately left the gym. Everything was such a blur that I’m glad I didn’t forget anything. You know that IG Reel that says “immediately no, immediately no” that was me lol

Any thoughts on how I handled it?
One person said I allowed them to run me out and another said they’re glad I left.
 
Fine 4s said:
Soooo….I dragged myself to the gym today and the first person I saw at the front desk talking to the workers is my ex’s gf who does NOT like me. My heart skipped a beat like oh crap! But I push through. I walk over to the only stairmaster machine available while I’m setting my phone to sync up with my headphones that were on. I look to my left and there he is, my ex chuckling at the coincidence I’m assuming. I mumble something like “I knew I saw her here” then I say, “I am out of here” and immediately left the gym. Everything was such a blur that I’m glad I didn’t forget anything. You know that IG Reel that says “immediately no, immediately no” that was me lol

Any thoughts on how I handled it?
One person said I allowed them to run me out and another said they’re glad I left.
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I think you handled it the way that you needed to in that moment. If you felt uncomfortable, then I'm glad that you left. Their perception of how you handled it (them running you out of there) shouldn't even be a thought.
 
My significant other is a truck driver and on the road for long hours and there's some issues on the job with business dealings and he's been very tired and "too busy" he says so we squeeze in time together and we talked about traveling when were ready, going out more , taking pictures and I've been been patient and understanding.

He sends a text this morning that he needs a break from work and he's going to book a flight. So I ask him when are u going? he says he's leaving tonight to go to California and Mexico for 2 weeks. I say back to him so when are we going to do the things we talked about?! He then says he will be ready when he comes back and we can do everything. I immediately broke up with him I told him to forget about everything and it's over, Bye. He never has enough time for us because he's busy but now he has time to get on a plane. I would be fine with it that he wants to take a break and go away but what I dont understand is he never has enough time because he is "busy" for us and now he has time to take a flight for 2 weeks!!

And now hes texting and calling me that he's soooo confused. We been together for 5 months .
 
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Ayesha81 said:
My significant other is a truck driver and on the road for long hours and there's some issues on the job with business dealings and he's been very tired and "too busy" he says so we squeeze in time together and we talked about traveling when were ready, going out more , taking pictures and I've been been more than patient and understanding.

He sends a text this morning that he needs a break from work and he's going to book a flight. So I text back when are u going? he says he's leaving tonight to go to California and Mexico for 2 weeks. I say back to him so when are we going to do the things we talked about?! He then says he will be ready when he comes back and we can do everything. I immediately broke up with him I told him to forget about everything and it's over, Bye. He's playing me and Im very upset. He never has enough time for us because he's busy but now he has time to get on a plane. I would be fine with it that he wants to take a break and go away but what I dont understand is he never has enough time because he is "busy" for us and now he has time to take a flight for 2 weeks!!

And now hes texting and calling me that he's soooo confused. Nah he's playing me and Im very upset.
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As I read I felt like hmm he seems to be emotionally breascrumbing. Men react to action so you made moves that protect you.
 
@Ayesha81 Did he go on vacation alone? Did he invite you to join? If he needed a work break, why not go to visit you and not work? I’m also confused.
 
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