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When snooping goes wrong and you make an *** out of yourself :look:

I didn't really snoop intentionally, though. He checked his email on my phone. And didn't close the window :look: I don't go through phones, but...........it was...my...phone :look:

It's been a couple minutes since he answered my text that I sent to save face :drunk:
 
^^Well see what had happened was. I revealed the snoopiness myself in an attempted "aha" moment--not a jealous one, but a "got you all in check" one :look:--and..............................um. Made an a** out of myself :look:

He checked his work email on my phone. He doesn't have a personal email (which is so odd to me) so, in the event that he does need to do something like reserve a hotel room or something like that, he does send confirmations to his work email, but in general he doesn't like to send personal messages because it would be public record and he doesn't want it to be ratchet. He has told me this because we have silly correspondence and I will send whatever on my work email :look: so he said this way back when just to let me know. I still might forward a news story or something, but I don't chat personally on there because he's asked me not too (and I get it; makes perfect sense).

Well when he checked the email on my phone, he didn't X out the window or logout :look: So I glanced at it :look: and I recognized the name of a girl who I know of (but don't personally know) from my undergrad days as a party girl. Worked at Hooters. Would be at all the parties. Worked at a nightclub as a champagne girl up until recently. I told myself not to even glance at his email but I did and when I saw her name for a second my heart dropped and I was like "that's why you don't look at it." But I read the subject line--it was an invite to some event--and I let it go. It still was like "oh :look:" because he doesn't party--the kind of parties I remember her from--and I pretty much thought I knew his schedule and habits so I was wondering how they would even have each other's email but I was like whatever. As I've mentioned in here before, he used to get around :look: and she did too and he tells me about people from the past contacting him--it's why I trust him--while leaving names out, so it's not that shocking anyway.

Well cut to today :look: We have been talking about going on another vacation and I had told him about Groupon travel deals so I sent him the link to his work email. Now, remember, I honor his request to not send random emails, but this was just a link and I know he gets confirmations to his work email anyway. And if he's getting party invite emails from Ms. Bottle Service, I wish a negro would ask me not to email him. In retrospect, I guess it was a challenge. :sad:

Anyway, as expected, when he gets to his phone (he doesn't carry it with him in the mornings) he tells me he got a raise (yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay) and then says "Don't send emails to my work." So my arse said *facepalm* Congrats! (he JUST got promoted and a raise. He is tearing **** up. I love it) Then I said "I want to say something smart about your email but I won't :) Then I immediately :look: sent "Tell ______ _______ not to email you at work." He sent back "who is that?" I said hmmph.

I went to go to the girl's FB page because I know we used to be FB friends. I guess she's not on FB anymore so I googled her.(Now this wasn't a mad, desperate search, I'm just aimlessly on websites at work anyway and was going to pull up her picture, maybe see what event she was talking about. I remember her being quite attractive. Anyway) When I googled her, her Linked In came up and she works at the same place he does, just in a different department. And as I recall the subject line, it was just like a Save the Date for some event, so it was probably a mass work email.

Now I look all insecure and snoopy and crazy and dumb and I glossed right over that Congrats, honey. In my defense, don't send me no text talking about "don't send me emails." Negro, that's inflammatory. AmIright or amirite? :look: Neither :sad:
 
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lol. I'm shame :sad: But everybody knows I'm nosey.
That's my indignant defense. :lol:

@kandake, No. The last thing I sent was a bunch of party emoticons :look: :lol:


eta: he just text back a question mark. Probably in response to one of my texts, which simply said "que pasa?" Ok, we cool. :look:
 
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I can't remember all of the ladies names but I am really happy you guys have found such nice guys. Candies and diamonds on the bed. R. Kelly concerts. Vacations. Cross bracelets. Nice dates and making out.

I am so happy! You guys deserve it!
 
I'm going home to NY this weekend for a crazy Halloween party saturday night. SO is coming with me. But first, we are having lunch with my parents and everyone is meeting for the first time. My mom has known about him for the duration of our relationship but I just told my dad about him Saturday night. He responded quite positively even though I didn't tell him the details (like SO is not Haitian). He later asked my mom who filled him in with some more details. And he's still not mad :lol: I'm nervous but not so nervous at the same time. My mother is extremely excited and my mom says my dad was happy after he and I got off of the phone. Also, this is the first time ever that I am bringing someone home, let alone have mentioned a date to my dad...and i'm 28...they have been worried about me for a few years now....
 
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Aww that's sweet! Good luck LaBelleLL!!

I remember when my Haitian parents met my ex. My mom was so excited:lol: she walked up to him, embraced him and said: my first son :) I was so mortified. But he took it in stride! My dad made a big stink about it before they met, yet as soon as my SO showed up, he was so happy and jovial. I was so nervous.

Anyway, hope your meeting goes well!
 
he opened up to me again a ton today. i won't go into details but i just wonder why he can't always be open and transparent like this.

Taking him and dd to dinner tonight for their bdays (hers is today, his is on the 27th, killing 2 birds with one stone = winning). I told dd that i was taking her to subway and getting her her fave footlong for dinner. She was so excited :lol: :lol: Little does she know we are going to red lobster which is one of her big faves. Him and her get on really well. She called him daddy by mistake yesterday :look: :look: We just laughed it off. He really does treat dd like gold. I just really wish i knew what the future held for us.
 
he opened up to me again a ton today. i won't go into details but i just wonder why he can't always be open and transparent like this.

Taking him and dd to dinner tonight for their bdays (hers is today, his is on the 27th, killing 2 birds with one stone = winning). I told dd that i was taking her to subway and getting her her fave footlong for dinner. She was so excited :lol: :lol: Little does she know we are going to red lobster which is one of her big faves. Him and her get on really well. She called him daddy by mistake yesterday :look: :look: We just laughed it off. He really does treat dd like gold. I just really wish i knew what the future held for us.

This reads like a soap opera! I will be tuning in tomorrow:giggle:. And lol @ "killing 2 birds with one stone = winning" :lol: I love it!
 
Aww that's sweet! Good luck @LaBelleLL!!

I remember when my Haitian parents met my ex. My mom was so excited:lol: she walked up to him, embraced him and said: my first son :) I was so mortified. But he took it in stride! My dad made a big stink about it before they met, yet as soon as my SO showed up, he was so happy and jovial. I was so nervous.

Anyway, hope your meeting goes well!

thanks CarLiTa! haha my mom refers to SO as "my son" and she hasn't even spoken to him on the phone let alone met him. :drunk:
 
Second date today. Chipotle then paranormal Activity 4. I look forward to being all up on him in the theater squealing with fear :look:
 
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This reads like a soap opera! I will be tuning in tomorrow:giggle:. And lol @ "killing 2 birds with one stone = winning" :lol: I love it!

I think I over share here :(. I need to reign it in a lot. It is like a soap opera smh

We went out to dinner. Everything went well. I'm looking forward to sleeping alone for the next few nights and focusing on myself. I don't know if I'm the marrying type because after a few days I need alone time. I don't think married people get that on a regular basis???
 
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Second date today. Chipotle then paranormal Activity 4. I look forward to being all up on him in the theater squealing with fear :look:

How was the movie? I plan in seeing it this weekend. Maybe on Sunday afternoon.
 
I asked SO hypothetically who he would choose as his groomsmen and he named just 3. I said no! You have 2 sisters and I have 2 nieces our age. That's 4 right there not counting my friends. He said, why do you have to choose them? That made sense because I'm not too close to his sisters and one of those nieces has caused a lot of problems with our relationship, and SO hasn't met the other. Has anyone left out their family for friends in a bridal party.
 
Oh boy.... I really need an outlet while I sort through my feelings. SO and I are talking about marriage, I mean ring shopping and the whole nine. Right now it is so overwhelming because I feel as though I am going to be giving up so much to be in the marriage.

We decided that I would move, but I am going to miss my family, friends, my job, and my church. He is Seven Day Adventist, so I feel as though I am giving up pork, beef, drinking, my Friday evenings. He hasn't asked me to give those things up, but he wants to be a really devout SDA. It would have a direct impact on our family dynamic *sigh* I really love him, but I really need to resolve this inner struggle.
 
It was a Paint for the Cure invitation :Blush2: He pulled it up and read it, loudly and countrily emphasizing the part where it was addressed "To: All" and then reread my texts and laughed at me. I'll take that.

He is still talking about our trip and saying (this is kind of chauvinist but I like compliments so I'm not mad :look:) that he was proud when we were on the beach and in the resort gym like "yeah. That's MY girl." He was like "I didn't want to say anything but you had the tonest thighs in the gym." yeah. I've been prepping for months. Thanks for noticing :look:

And I have this child talking about edges. Lawd. I wore a scarf on the trip :look: Don't judge :look: I tied it just around my edges like a sweatband with the rest of my hair in a high bun and I mentioned something about how my edges would get ripped out if I didn't. So yesterday I said that I was going to the place by where he works with my friend to early vote. He said "come up and see me when you're done. I know you're gonna have those edges looking right." Lawwwd. But yes :look:


@LaBelleLL and @CarLiTa, I'm glad yall mentioned that. I was beginning to think my mom was tripping. She has met him once but she lovvvees him. Calls him her "son" in conversations with me. Insisted on getting him a gift that she sent by me, so when I had him text her to thank her while we were gone, I was like "omg. She's going to be texting you all the time now. :look:" Sure enough, when I couldn't get service in the airport a couple of days later he's like "oh, I have a text from your mom. It says 'hi. I couldn't reach INCHHIGH. Just wanted to know if yall made it to the airport safely." I love that--and I don't know if it's because I'm at a different age now than I've ever been before in a relationship, so I don't have to prove my "adultness" or if he's just so cool, but it's not embarassing. He just texted her back and thinks she's cute.

My dad doesn't like him but he has no real reason not to :sad: I think they are having different reactions to the same thing, which is that I've never been so excited about someone before. So my mom is like "yaaaaaaay!" and my dad is like "who's this? :look:"
 
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Oh boy.... I really need an outlet while I sort through my feelings. SO and I are talking about marriage, I mean ring shopping and the whole nine. Right now it is so overwhelming because I feel as though I am going to be giving up so much to be in the marriage.

We decided that I would move, but I am going to miss my family, friends, my job, and my church. He is Seven Day Adventist, so I feel as though I am giving up pork, beef, drinking, my Friday evenings. He hasn't asked me to give those things up, but he wants to be a really devout SDA. It would have a direct impact on our family dynamic *sigh* I really love him, but I really need to resolve this inner struggle.


Do_Si_Dos! I hope everything works out with you! I know it's a major decision so I have no words to offer, but how exciting/nerve inducing! I hope you all can be together without you giving up on things you'll miss too much :)





I love this thread because I don't really talk to people in real life about stuff like this so I was wondering how marriage talks work. SO says that people have been asking him if he got engaged last week and somebody even wrote that on his calendar. Then he started talking about the price of rings and I've seen rings I like and they're way less expensive than that, but I didn't know if it was my place to suggest :look: So, yes! Couples can talk about rings and things!
 
^^^^^^ thanks, it will work out for the best.

SO and I are talking/shopping for rings. He just wants to know what I like, but he will have the final say. He's afraid toske that type of investment and I don't like the ring.
 
I asked SO hypothetically who he would choose as his groomsmen and he named just 3. I said no! You have 2 sisters and I have 2 nieces our age. That's 4 right there not counting my friends. He said, why do you have to choose them? That made sense because I'm not too close to his sisters and one of those nieces has caused a lot of problems with our relationship, and SO hasn't met the other. Has anyone left out their family for friends in a bridal party.

My bff whose wedding I was just in had none of her sisters in the wedding, only her friends. My mom refused to leave anyone out, and had everyone, all of her sisters, cousins, and all of her friends from work. LOL she didnt want anyone to feel left out so she damn near had an open casting call. So I have seen it both ways
But I would not leave anyone I wanted out. I also dont see the problem with a bride picking a groomsman of her choosing.
 
^^^^^^ thanks, it will work out for the best.

SO and I are talking/shopping for rings. He just wants to know what I like, but he will have the final say. He's afraid toske that type of investment and I don't like the ring.

I would love to know how to do this. I want to be surprised but I also want him to know HOW to pick the stone, the size that fits best on my small fingers and the style that I want. I've been telling all my friends in case he contact them for pointers.

He knows I like rubies. I've made that very clear by exclaiming everytime I see one!
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi hey girl, it was okay. you be the judge and let me know what you think before I spoil anything.

Meanwhile, this guy...smh...I met him LAST Friday. Less than two weeks ago. He has me as the background on his phone and said I'm his girl. He looked puzzled when I explained well you aren't my man, we're still dating...he got a attitude. Seriously, he's making me feel like I'm the crazy one when he's rushing us to the altar!
 
I was going to come in here to complain about how I don't want to date a man with a child again because I need the attention all on me! It's good that he's very involved but....

And then I realized, it's our 1 year anniversary today!

Oh well...
 
Why do we speak about marriage and kids everyday lol:look:. He was talking about how he wants to help our imaginary future kids with their homework and whatnot tonight. Love my baby so much :o

Happy anniversary fine4's lol:grin:

It's mine on the 24th of next month. He's always said if anyone told him he'd be in a relationship and settling down with Vanthie in the future he'd have told them to get their head checked ASAP! I felt the same. Enemies become lovers, eh:lol:
 
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