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Having long hair is a bad thing?

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Both co-workers have hair just above shoulder length. And no, they don't do anything with their hair. In my opinion, I do a lot more with my hair than they do with theirs.
 
IMO hair that is not long enough to put in ponytail that looks decent is just as hard to maintain as long hair. Because you have to style that stuff everyday or it looks a mess, especially if you got the really short style where you have to use a small curling iron to make the curls because of the style of cut. The other alternative would be to wig it.

I hate when people try to tell others what they should do with their hair or things in general. Mind your business. If I didn't ask you for you opinion then don't give it. It's not like your doing something WRONG by having long hair. Just because you don't understand it or want to put the effort into doing it doesn't mean I don't.
 
I have certain ideals about who long hair looks good on and I apply them to myself. I don't want to put MY long hair rules in the law books and I would never tell anyone else how they should wear their hair.

Most of the time when those who are not truly close to you make those kinds of comments it's all because of jealousy.
 
jendazzler said:
Some of my black coworkers can't understand why I keep my hair long. Seriously. They say there are limited hair styles you can choose from with long hair and it is not worth the hassle anyway. They act like it's a bad thing! Long hair can be challenging, but I don't think it is too bad if you learn how to manage it. I love keeping my hair in an updo for a long period of time and then letting it all out on some days. I totally think it's worth the compliments. Has anyone else experienced people telling them long hair is just not worth it?
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I'll bet they have chewed up hair that hangs just past their ears, right?

Please. People kill me.

People always have something negative to say about something they think they cant have and really want.
 
jendazzler said:
I don't think they are necessarily haters. They acted more confused about why I like long hair since I usually just keep it in a bun or ponytail.
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These skanks are jealous. If you like it, why do they care? They having a Halle Berry Cut intervention on you because your hair is long?

I don't even get that. "Girl, we don't understand why you like long hair. We think it's too hard for you...you're weird unless you cut it."

That's just such an odd thing (loosely interpreted :spinning:) to say to someone. Your hair is beautiful.
 
jendazzler said:
Both co-workers have hair just above shoulder length. And no, they don't do anything with their hair. In my opinion, I do a lot more with my hair than they do with theirs.
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You shouldn't have to explain yourself to them. If they want to know how to grow their hair to have length like yours then they should ask instead of trying to bring you down.
 
I have never heard anything so foolish. I don't know anyone who would say except for pure jealousy. Then: (1) why do so many people get long weaves? (2) How long have they ever grew their hair over the age of 18?. I think that is a reverse compliment.

Don't cut your hair.
 
Austro-Afrikana said:
It's not jealousy IMO. Short hair is much easier and cheaper to deal with than long hair...especially if your hair knowledge is limited...not everyone wants long hair and not everyone is jealous of someone who has it.
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Their comments were not about themselves but about why does she keep her hair that long. They have no right to offer unsolicited advice. I think those are general rules--that's why everyone is annoyed about it. If it is their preference good for them, you are right that they are entitled to their preference, but IMPOSING IS A PROBLEM.
 
Everyone has their own "thing", whether it be what they're willing to spend money on or what they're willing to put time into. If we try to explain it to someone else, it's like we're speaking another language. Sometimes someone else's "thing" doesn't make sense to us...but it doesn't have to. We're not living their lives and they're not living ours. Live and let live baby!

"Girl, put your records on, tell me your favourite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans, I hope you get your dreams,
Just go ahead, let your hair down"
 
Jealous. Just the fact that they would go out of their way to say it's not worth the hassle rather than asking how you manage, etc lets me know they are just trying to discourage you.
 
jendazzler said:
Both co-workers have hair just above shoulder length. And no, they don't do anything with their hair. In my opinion, I do a lot more with my hair than they do with theirs.
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My advice: at that point I would've pointed this out to them and made them look stupid.

I do this all the time to people who ask me why I wear my hair "the same way" all the time. I ask them, "What's so special about the way you wear your hair? Up in a ponytail, or down. Sounds like you wear yours the same way all the time too." :rolleyes: :drunk:
 
It doesn't matter if they are jealous or not (I'm sure not all of them are), I think they should keep their opinions to themselves. As long as you are not doing something that is hazardous to your health and safety or theirs, then there's no need for their comments. As long as you haven't complained to them about your long hair stressing you then really I don't see their point.
 
They're discouraging. It takes lots of work maintaining short hairstyles. Short hair has to lay precise and the styles should be flawless. Since adulthood, my hair has grown no further than SL. I always had to keep my hairstyles meticulous.

I would love to have long hair for those quick protective styles without having to wear hair from the BSS.

Enjoy your long tresses!! I working on growing my hair....APL/MBL/WL here I come:grin:
 
It absolutely annoys me when people provide me with unsolicited hair advice. Plus, IMO, I feel as if their opinions on long hair care may be a bit misinformed, as short hair can take just as much to maintain as long hair. You can just bun and go with long hair and still look nice.

Can't WAIT until I have your problem sis...nice hair btw!
 
I don't think it's jealousy at all. I hear White people say the same thing about White people with long hair. Sorry to say, but to a lot of people, long hair is old-fashioned and limited. You grew your long hair for you, so don't worry what people say about it.
 
jendazzler said:
Some of my black coworkers can't understand why I keep my hair long. Seriously. They say there are limited hair styles you can choose from with long hair and it is not worth the hassle anyway. They act like it's a bad thing! Long hair can be challenging, but I don't think it is too bad if you learn how to manage it. I love keeping my hair in an updo for a long period of time and then letting it all out on some days. I totally think it's worth the compliments. Has anyone else experienced people telling them long hair is just not worth it?
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It sounds like they're haters. Learn to ignore their comments.
 
Austro-Afrikana said:
It's not jealousy IMO. Short hair is much easier and cheaper to deal with than long hair...especially if your hair knowledge is limited...not everyone wants long hair and not everyone is jealous of someone who has it.
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In my experience it was more expensive to care for short hair, than long hair. I had shoulder length hair and cut it into an Anita Baker cut years ago. Now, the cut was gorgeous and I loved it. However, since I had always had long hair, it was a challenge for me to adapt to short hair. I had to buy all new rollers, curling irons etc. Also, when your relaxer is old, you can't hide your kitchen when your hair is short. I found myself spending more money on keeping my hair relaxed and trimmed to maintain my short style.

With long hair, you always have options. You can bun it, wear a pony tail, attach a fake pony tail, roller set, french roll, etc I just found my options too limited with short hair and that is why I will NEVER cut my hair short again.
 
I use to tutor and one of the girls had long hair that she wore in a single braid. One day a lady with a super short (Halle/Rhianna) cut passed by. And the girl started talking about how pretty short hair is. I asked her why and she said, "you can do more fun styles".
 
Why can't people just be inspired instead of hating and dismissing?
I love to see black women with long beautiful hair. It's so striking on us.
Also, I would not want to be the only black woman with long hair....like markers of beauty are some kind of novelty for black women...kind of insulting.
 
If your co workers never had long hair they may be saying this out of jealousy. But if they had long hair and cut it then it may have been a hassle for them dealing with long hair. My hair is almost apl and it is a hassle just trying to keep it healthy.
 
I like my hair just fine as it is, I don't see the need to tell everyone else to join LHCF, like this is the only way to be. They are ignorant if they are assuming that their way is best. But the fact that they go out of their way to comment on your long hair gives the impression that they are jealous
 
People usually say things like this when they are jealous. I guarantee any one of those co-workers would trade their hair for yours in a heartbeat.
 
When my hair was maybe just past APL, I had someone tell me "Your hair is fine at that length. You shouldn't grow it any longer. Why do you want longer hair for anyway? It's long enough now". I said to myself, ooookay, didn't ask for all of that:look: and especially from someone who wears weave most of the time:rolleyes: but I just said out loud, "hmm"...and kept on growing it...I can get away with the messiest style now and guaranteed someone will say "oh I love your hair". Couldn't do that when it was shorter.
 
brucebettye said:
If your co workers never had long hair they may be saying this out of jealousy. But if they had long hair and cut it then it may have been a hassle for them dealing with long hair. My hair is almost apl and it is a hassle just trying to keep it healthy.
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I happen to love my hair long and because I know how to take care of it, to me it's easy and no different than when I was SL, in terms of effort. I may use more product but the cost difference is not that great. I truely think they are just hating on you. You're beautiful and have beautiful hair, and from what I caan see are in great shape too. They are just jealous of the package girl. Toss it and keep on walking girl.
 
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