When women act stank because you have long hair...

[ANUBIS]

Do you ever wonder why women act rude, stank, or brand new when they find out you have nice long hair? I was thinking about this today and thought that it could possibly be that they see long hair as efeminating them.... you kno how men can be emasculated, well what if the reason it bothers women who dont have the skills to grow their own hair is challenging their own femininity or making theirs less valid. just wanted to put this out there for discussion.

 

[BostonMaria]

I was on the train the other day and this young lady with beautiful MBL hair. I saw two girls point and say something, their expressions was full of hateraide LOL They were trying hard to get her attention to say something snarky (I could just tell). They were staring hard for tracks, but I could tell it was real. Anyway the girl walked out and didn't notice. I wanted to smack them 2 haters but instead I played Angry Birds on my iPhone.

 

[Dellas]

I never compare myself with anyone. I have short hair that is growing. I could care less if someone is thinner than me, taller, or have more hair. In fact, when I see someone with long hair....I am motivated to see if I can accomplish the same thing.

When I first saw this thread was thinking how does she know that the person hate her because of her hair (or any other feature she loves about herself). Did the person say something?

I will back out the thread because I am too old and I could care less about what other people think.

Okay,,,,,sorry backing away now. Finish discussing how other people are jealous of .....

 

[nzeee]

is it really any different than the green-eye one might get for being beautiful? or for having a hot bod? idunno... personally if all someone has going for them is their hair i'd likely just feel a little sorry for them.

if someone has the full package so to speak i always stare. for me it's not out of hate. i'm just wildly fascinated by beautiful people. even tho i count myself as one of them (not where hair is concerned but the other genetic gifts no one has control over) i always pay my respects to a really well put together woman by quietly staring and taking it all in.

*shrug* i dunno.

 

[JJamiah]

I compliment them. I am not jealous and feel if you look great I am going to tell you. If your a snot, I laugh inside. Most of the times the women feel great, men feel great, and I feel great that my compliment made them happy.


I wear my hair up 99% of the time and most people don't get to see my hair.

 

[SND411]

Why are you all so obsessed over haters? My goodness, every other thread is about some women who are supposedly jealous of your locks. LOL you wish. Focus on more positive things and positive people in life.

People acting like their damn hair is all they have.

 

[Amoreofcurls]

Where do ya'll come across these ratchet aszs people?


Change your surroundings...

 

[SND411]

I think its pathetic how some women BLANTANTLY CRAVE HOSTILITY from other women. Do yall feel sad when women are not hating on your conceited ***? I bet many of you LOOK for these type of people to get some sort of gratification of making a women feel less than in your presence. So much for sisterhood. Over some damn hair and aesthetics? Grow up.

 

[divachyk]

I compliment them and they compliment me. The love is reciprocated. Not hate or animosity. I think if you look for stank, you will find stank. Just my opinion.

 

[snillohsss]

I think its pathetic how some women BLANTANTLY CRAVE HOSTILITY from other women. Do yall feel sad when women are not hating on your conceited ***? I bet many of you LOOK for these type of people to get some sort of gratification of making a women feel less than in your presence. So much for sisterhood. Over some damn hair and aesthetics? Grow up.

 

[ANUBIS]

actually made this thread when i noticed alot of hater threads about hair going up...my intention was to throw out an idea of a possible reason that could be behind the jealous insecure behavior. not to say 'i look good and everyone is jealous of me' i remember one poster saying that the standard of beauty is long straight hair and most textured haired women dont have the skills to grow their own so resort to weaves braids wigs ect....so maybe this efeminates them and if those who are fortunate enough to have beautiful hair will consider this next time they see a hater hatin or whatever

 

[BERlin]

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[Mena]

Or how about women who act stank in general towards you.....there is always something people want to hate on...stay away from the negativity.

 

[nzeee]

I think its pathetic how some women BLANTANTLY CRAVE HOSTILITY from other women. Do yall feel sad when women are not hating on your conceited ***? I bet many of you LOOK for these type of people to get some sort of gratification of making a women feel less than in your presence. So much for sisterhood. Over some damn hair and aesthetics? Grow up.

whoa! you have seen a lot of these threads hunh? you sound like you've about had it.

i understand where you're coming from tho.

but i don't mind this as much as i mind some of the "this-person-said-i-have-good-hair / must-be-mixed-and-i-was-so-mad!" threads.

 

[SND411]

actually made this thread when i noticed alot of hater threads about hair going up...my intention was to throw out an idea of a possible reason that could be behind the jealous insecure behavior. not to say 'i look good and everyone is jealous of me' i remember one poster saying that the standard of beauty is long straight hair and most textured haired women dont have the skills to grow their own so resort to weaves braids wigs ect....so maybe this efeminates them and if those who are fortunate enough to have beautiful hair will consider this next time they see a hater hatin or whatever

Really???? No, this is a bait thread intended to encourage members to bash women with shorter hair. And for us to gloat how we are supposedly superior because of our womanly tresses.

 

[Amoreofcurls]

If you are truly doing you ,for you,and nobody else, then you wouldn't even notice the "haters" (ughh I hate that expression) otherwise you may have some issues, time to do some self evaluation...

Notice how the girl in MariaBoston's story didn't even notice the ratched O's talkin' smack?

 

[ANUBIS]

Really???? No, this is a bait thread intended to encourage members to bash women with shorter hair. And for us to gloat how we are supposedly superior because of our womanly tresses.

please dont tell me what i intended because u are not in my brain and dont know why i wrote it...if you dont like it hit the back button.

 

[Amoreofcurls]

Or how about women who act stank in general towards you.....there is always something people want to hate on...stay away from the negativity.

You are what you attract...they may not be "hating", but may be picking off negative or funky energy from you...



"hating" and "acting stank"on something as silly as hair? and a grown woman at that? that's so doozy headed

 

[LunadeMiel]

Where do ya'll find these haters

 

[Dellas]

actually made this thread when i noticed alot of hater threads about hair going up...my intention was to throw out an idea of a possible reason that could be behind the jealous insecure behavior. not to say 'i look good and everyone is jealous of me' i remember one poster saying that the standard of beauty is long straight hair and most textured haired women dont have the skills to grow their own so resort to weaves braids wigs ect....so maybe this efeminates them and if those who are fortunate enough to have beautiful hair will consider this next time they see a hater hatin or whatever

1) Some people who have weaves or wigs do have long hair. It is not the option of last resort, it is a way to give their hair a break or rest. You have made many assumptions that is not necessarily true. Also, people use wigs or weaves as a method to grow their hair which means it is a tool not saying they don't have skills.

2) Lack of skills is shown in how you manipulate your hair:
Hot tools daily (no protection)....thin ends
pulled too tight braids....
Lack of skills is not weather you have or do not have long hair.....

Further more...who the F cares about someone else skill set in the bedroom, hair, etc....

3) Yes, in AA community the standard of beauty is based off colonialism: light bright, long hair, thin, etc.....

I don't hate people because I do not have those attributes. I will complain that we have issues with this in our community (I use the term community loosely). Because I complain does not mean I hate people who have those attributes.




I hate the word...hating.....as well. It has much to do with the user of the word than the anyone else. A friend of mine who found her security in her looks assumed everywhere she went people did not like her for her looks. She said she wanted friends to look like her because everyone else was jealous of her. No one was really jealous of her. I had known her since childhood. People did not like her sense of superiority because of her classical euro features.

Comments like ....your too dark....your nose is too wide....you need to do something about those naps....and agreeing with people that said darker the berry only apply to men.....those comments don't endear you to anyone (esp. anyone dark).

People wasn't hating on her. They just plain hated her.

 

[RoseTintedCheeks]

I thought OP actually brought up a good topic. It's different from the usual 'I got a question why they hatin' on me' threads.

The amazing thing about LHCF is that if you don't want to read something, you simply don't have to click the link to go into the thread.

 

[CurlyMoo]

Unnecessary drama started because some folks didn't agree with OP's thread. Please leave the thread and don't come back if it bothers you. I think OP is correct in thinking that many women look for the feminine ideal and long hair is a big one. I don't sense that OP is trying to pit short haired ladies against long hair ladies.

Anyway, I don't wear my hair down often but when I do, I receive compliments. Even with it up and twisted I recieve compliments for it being so black and thick. I rarely can pull of a straight style without it frizzing back up so I don't know of any stank attitudes toward my hair as of yet. Except a co-worker trying to pressure me into wearing hair pieces because she thinks I don't like to do anything with my hair. HUH? But she doesn't really say anything about my hair anymore.

 

[nappystorm]

This is my second time seeing a thread like this and I'm confused because my experiences have been totally different. *IME* the shade comes when I cut my hair. When I grow it long, I get asked about my regimen and hair tips. The little hate I may receive is from women whose hair is long but not quite long as mine and the last time was 5 years ago

 

[ANUBIS]

1) Some people who have weaves or wigs do have long hair. It is not the option of last resort, it is a way to give their hair a break or rest. You have made many assumptions that is not necessarily true. Also, people use wigs or weaves as a method to grow their hair which means it is a tool not saying they don't have skills.

2) Lack of skills is shown in how you manipulate your hair:
Hot tools daily (no protection)....thin ends
pulled too tight braids....
Lack of skills is not weather you have or do not have long hair.....

Further more...who the F cares about someone else skill set in the bedroom, hair, etc....

3) Yes, in AA community the standard of beauty is based off colonialism: light bright, long hair, thin, etc.....

I don't hate people because I do not have those attributes. I will complain that we have issues with this in our community (I use the term community loosely). Because I complain does not mean I hate people who have those attributes.




I hate the word...hating.....as well. It has much to do with the user of the word than the anyone else. A friend of mine who found her security in her looks assumed everywhere she went people did not like her for her looks. She said she wanted friends to look like her because everyone else was jealous of her. No one was really jealous of her. I had known her since childhood. People did not like her sense of superiority because of her classical euro features.

Comments like ....your too dark....your nose is too wide....you need to do something about those naps....and agreeing with people that said darker the berry only apply to men.....those comments don't endear you to anyone (esp. anyone dark).

People wasn't hating on her. They just plain hated her.

where did u get this from a post that is commenting what could be behind they way people act toward women who have long hair? why do you have to go into dark skin, nappy hair and then talk about your friend with european features...you must be reading way too much into these posts.

 

[Dellas]

Yes, I will leave....^^^^ I doubt your co-working was hating just being overbearing and pushy. I am sure she probably offer you advice in other areas...


Yes, one of things you can do ...is ignore threads like these....And I will...

enjoy ladies.....I am so sure.....

 

[Aireen]

Why are you all so obsessed over haters? My goodness, every other thread is about some women who are supposedly jealous of your locks. LOL you wish. Focus on more positive things and positive people in life.

People acting like their damn hair is all they have.

Dang. She sure told y'all. erplexed

 

[MissDarcei]

Oh Lord Jesus help this thread...

 

[Dellas]

where did u get this from a post that is commenting what could be behind they way people act toward women who have long hair? why do you have to go into dark skin, nappy hair and then talk about your friend with european features...you must be reading way too much into these posts.

I wasn't trying to read too much into your post. Your comments reminded me of a friend who always said people where hating on her....for the reasons I gave. It had nothing to do with you. It had something to do with her and mentality. I was trying to point out that what she assume to be hate about her physical attributes was hate about her personality (person). That was what I was simply trying to say throughout all my post.

I personally admire people with healthy hair, not necessarily long hair, but healthy thick hair. I am always looking for tips.

If I read too much in your post and aligned you with someone I knew in the past based on similar complaints then I am sorry. I was generalizing.


There might be a significant number of people out there who don't like you for your hair.

 

[ANUBIS]

Yes, I will leave....^^^^ I doubt your co-working was hating just being overbearing and pushy. I am sure she probably offer you advice in other areas...


Yes, one of things you can do ...is ignore threads like these....And I will...

enjoy ladies.....I am so sure.....

i think you are confused maybe you think you are in a different thread. because for one i never said anything about a 'co-working' which i think you mean co-worker since you stated she could offer me some advice. i was certainly not talking about anyone acting cross towards me in my post only a hypothetical situation which was also kind of a spinoff of another post.

honestly i could give a rats u kno what about how some people are interpreting my post because its only a hair board. this isnt where i spend a majority of my life. i paid my damn 6 dollars for some hair info and entertainment and i dont intend to second guess my postings as i might offend anyone. if its really that serious to you get a life and hit the back button. tis all

 

[ANUBIS]

never said anyone hated me for my hair or have i ever stated i have been hated on for my hair...it was just my insight for those women who have