Long, healthy hair = ISOLATION!?

[Lucia]

Exactly. That's why it's so hard to just say Thank you. Sometimes I feel like I should deflect, make a joke about myself, or wave it off so no one suspects me of being "conceited". Which is really ridiculous because I'm not at all and even if I wasn't they would still hate anyway.

It's not conceit or vanity if it's true and your not always focused in tha one part if yourself.

 

[Lucia]

You know you thought it! Wait till I lose weight too then nobody can be me NUTHIN!

You said it. They can't tell me nuthin now.

Here's the fabulous checklist otherwise known as your too fly and haters gonna hate.
1. Healthy glowing clear skin
Check - you get a sneaky side eye

2. Healthy hair at any length
Check u get the side eye and sucking teeth

3. Healthy BSL and beyond hair Check
You get rude outbursts and unsolicited comments about how its a weave and if they know it's real how you should be wearin it or how to care for it as if you weren't doing a great job already.
Depending on the length and thickness the longer it is the more they wantro prove it's fake bc they know after WL it's real.
weave checks and people u know and total strangers declaring you a liar.

4. Toned and fit body regardless of actual dress size
Check their wishing you'll blow up and saying things like oh just wait until you have kids subtexts you wont be cute for long and then you'll be out of shape and flabby like the rest of us.

5. Your a stylish fasionista and you always look good causual or dressed to the nines heels and all.
Check. Who does she think she is. She ain't cute I bet she falls on her arrs in them high heels. Etc.

Now be prepared if you have all your ducks in a row they will hate
You may even be called a heaux without them ever seeing you with multiple men ever. That's to block all the male attention you get too.

 

[Lucia]

I can't figure out if I'm hurt or just plain old annoyed. Ever since I decided to grow my hair out two years ago, and actually DID IT, I have seen the ugly side of this business erplexed Friends actin funny, Girls on the street givin me the side-eye, and family....and I now use that term loosely....where do I start?? Weave checks 24/7, talkin behind my back sayin I'm lying bout my hair....sayin its ain't tracks so it must be strand by strand.......and the jealousy is taking all new heights!! Ppl start trying to find other flaws of yours that they can pick on to make themselves feel better...instead of just asking what my hair routine is....I don't get it, but I feel sooooo isolated since reaching BSL and I plan to keep growing so what gives?? Anyone else with similar stories??

Just shake them off and if their really asking for it let them have it. You'd be suprised how quickly people shut up and back off when you call them out on their hate. Then they feel like the fool they are.
Just be you and enjoy all that gorgeous hair and whip it around so they know it's real. People are going to hate your walk your smile the way you speak you have this accent or that one anything to make themselves feel better just ignore them
Dont let anyone take away your joy
Amen!

 

[Kurlee]

OP, I can so relate

 

[godsflowerrr]

Yup I have heard of some people experiencing this. All I can say is let the haters do what they do best and keep it moving!

 

[tenderheaded]

A few people have said in the past "it's not that serious". A few months ago I was at a family gathering with clean hair in a side bun. Another relative came in with shoulder length, delicately crispy hair. She immediately asked in it's all mine. Then she said "I'm gonna have to see it in a bun to tell how long it is"! Say What!

When I left she followed me out to my car, and started pulling the hair pins out of miy hair! She kept saying "I HAVE to know how long it is"!!!

 

[MissMasala5]

A few people have said in the past "it's not that serious". A few months ago I was at a family gathering with clean hair in a side bun. Another relative came in with shoulder length, delicately crispy hair. She immediately asked in it's all mine. Then she said "I'm gonna have to see it in a bun to tell how long it is"! Say What!

When I left she followed me out to my car, and started pulling the hair pins out of miy hair! She kept saying "I HAVE to know how long it is"!!!

No way! Folks would have been plucking hair pins out of her neck, SMH.


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[havilland]

A few people have said in the past "it's not that serious". A few months ago I was at a family gathering with clean hair in a side bun. Another relative came in with shoulder length, delicately crispy hair. She immediately asked in it's all mine. Then she said "I'm gonna have to see it in a bun to tell how long it is"! Say What!

When I left she followed me out to my car, and started pulling the hair pins out of miy hair! She kept saying "I HAVE to know how long it is"!!!

 

[Lucia]

godsflowerrr
That siggy pic waves are gorgeous your hair
How did you do that style? Tia

 

[Myjourney2009]

Yup I have heard of some people experiencing this. All I can say is let the haters do what they do best and keep it moving!

Yup!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Myjourney2009]

A few people have said in the past "it's not that serious". A few months ago I was at a family gathering with clean hair in a side bun. Another relative came in with shoulder length, delicately crispy hair. She immediately asked in it's all mine. Then she said "I'm gonna have to see it in a bun to tell how long it is"! Say What!

When I left she followed me out to my car, and started pulling the hair pins out of miy hair! She kept saying "I HAVE to know how long it is"!!!

I love it "delicately crispy hair."

 

[blackpearl81]

Just came in to say your hair looks beautiful @blackpearl81.

Thanks!

 

[LadyRaider]

You said it. They can't tell me nuthin now.

Here's the fabulous checklist otherwise known as your too fly and haters gonna hate.
1. Healthy glowing clear skin
Check - you get a sneaky side eye

2. Healthy hair at any length
Check u get the side eye and sucking teeth

3. Healthy BSL and beyond hair Check
You get rude outbursts and unsolicited comments about how its a weave and if they know it's real how you should be wearin it or how to care for it as if you weren't doing a great job already.
Depending on the length and thickness the longer it is the more they wantro prove it's fake bc they know after WL it's real.
weave checks and people u know and total strangers declaring you a liar.

4. Toned and fit body regardless of actual dress size
Check their wishing you'll blow up and saying things like oh just wait until you have kids subtexts you wont be cute for long and then you'll be out of shape and flabby like the rest of us.

5. Your a stylish fasionista and you always look good causual or dressed to the nines heels and all.
Check. Who does she think she is. She ain't cute I bet she falls on her arrs in them high heels. Etc.

Now be prepared if you have all your ducks in a row they will hate
You may even be called a heaux without them ever seeing you with multiple men ever. That's to block all the male attention you get too.

I'm with y'all. I'm going for the triple threat to send the haters into heart palpitations.

1. Fancy degree (Ph.d) check
2. Great hair (working on it.)
3. Great body (working on it.)

No one is gonna be able to talk to me once I get those last two! I'm serious!

 

[blackpearl81]

Maybe since you have been actively growing your hair, you are just more aware of the comments and observations of people around you. Your disposition may have changed due to exuding confidence and very little to do with your hair getting longer. Not saying it's a problem, but you might want to reevaluate the vibes you give off to people.

I see what you're saying, but I am still the same old me with the addition of a longer ponytail. I get the comments from other races as well, but minus the stank attitude and side eye. I'm starting to not care, but it was just an observation I noticed, especially with the people who called my bluff when I said I was growing my hair out.erplexed

 

[blackpearl81]

Hey, congrats on your hair! If they are hating you must be doing something right. See I don't hate, I congratulate and emulate...so what is your hair care regimen?

Please forgive my laziness but my complete regimen is posted under the May FOTM.....

 

[JFK]

HAHAHAHAHA....."delicate" and "crispy" is just a funny word combination.

 

[CurlsBazillion]

Hate is the new love. I don't understand it, I automatically show love even though my hair is SL and yours is HL. With that said, I'd like to acquire hair haters in the near future

 

[snillohsss]

I'm with y'all. I'm going for the triple threat to send the haters into heart palpitations.

1. Fancy degree (Ph.d) check
2. Great hair (working on it.)
3. Great body (working on it.)

No one is gonna be able to talk to me once I get those last two! I'm serious!

And most won't. Just make sure you're prepared for it!

 

[SND411]

Do you actually WANT people to envy you?

 

[cherryhair123]

Do you actually WANT people to envy you?

No one necessarily wants people to envy them it's more like you know they're going to talk so like the song says "let's give them something to talk about-let's give them something to figure out"

 

[Chromia]

OP, you have a fan club of haters.

Insecure people will do their best to make you as unhappy as they are. They want to bring you down instead of bringing themselves up.

To quote Soulja Boy Tell'em "I got a question why they hatin' on me? I got a question why they hatin' on me? I ain't did nothin' to 'em..."

Every morning just hop up out the bed, turn your swag on, take a look in the mirror and say what's up.



And flip it!

I said FLIP IIIITTTTT!!!!
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[Chromia]

Ditto to all the posts that mentioned weight loss. That's what this reminds me of.

Other people are rude and petty instead of asking about your hair regimen. When I lost weight other people were rude and petty instead of asking what my exercise routine was or what I ate. Some people just can't stand to see others look good or achieve goals. To quote Shawty Lo , "Big up to all my haters!"

 

[Chromia]

Isn't it sad that we black women have "haters" because we have long hair? I don't wear my hair that much straightened because of the same thing. If I wear it in a braidout with my hair pulled back , my hair doesn't look as long and it is less attention seeking. But when I wear it flat-ironed and straight- I feel somewhat embarrassed... like I have to act superhumble or women will hate on me.

Please don't feel embarrassed at all. This remids me of a book where the author wrote about how after her sister lost 35 lbs, she was so self-conscious that she walked into a pole. You shouldn't have to walk around worrying about others noticing that you look good. You deserve to wear your hair however you want.

 

[SmilingElephant]

A few people have said in the past "it's not that serious". A few months ago I was at a family gathering with clean hair in a side bun. Another relative came in with shoulder length, delicately crispy hair. She immediately asked in it's all mine. Then she said "I'm gonna have to see it in a bun to tell how long it is"! Say What!

When I left she followed me out to my car, and started pulling the hair pins out of miy hair! She kept saying "I HAVE to know how long it is"!!!

Soooo....I'm pretty sure I'd break her arm. It's one thing to just wanna touch it...but if I've taken my time to PIN MY HAIR UP?!

No mercy yo

 

[Almaz]

Wow you must be around some truly petty BALD HEADED people anyway it is what it is.

If you decide to ever get a Ph'd or something don't tell em they my try and assisinate you

I can't figure out if I'm hurt or just plain old annoyed. Ever since I decided to grow my hair out two years ago, and actually DID IT, I have seen the ugly side of this business erplexed Friends actin funny, Girls on the street givin me the side-eye, and family....and I now use that term loosely....where do I start?? Weave checks 24/7, talkin behind my back sayin I'm lying bout my hair....sayin its ain't tracks so it must be strand by strand.......and the jealousy is taking all new heights!! Ppl start trying to find other flaws of yours that they can pick on to make themselves feel better...instead of just asking what my hair routine is....I don't get it, but I feel sooooo isolated since reaching BSL and I plan to keep growing so what gives?? Anyone else with similar stories??

 

[ZkittyKurls]

WEAVE CHECKS???

Girl you different from me because I goes OFF on anyone having the audacity to put their hands down my panties and be bold enough to reveal my personal info by checking to see if my hair is real.

That is highly personal. And to do it gets folks TOLD on my watch.

OT: that was too funny!! and i love your siggy!!!! HA!

 

[blackbarbietea]

I've always had longish hair so I don't know any other life other than this. Grown women were talking about me at 12. It must be nice to see the other side. When someone says something ignorant to me, I tell them "its just hair. Are you that insecure??" And walk off. I've said it to young women, mature ladies and grandmas alike. Its like people lose their manners when it comes to hair

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[BraunSugar]

I've never understood the jealousy. I always asked women with hair longer than mine what they were doing to get it long, healthy, etc. Hating on them wasn't going to make my hair grow any faster or help me retain length. Heck, I'm still checking up on what other women are doing & that's why I'm here LoL.

 

[AuNaturalMaMa]

I've never understood the jealousy. I always asked women with hair longer than mine what they were doing to get it long, healthy, etc. Hating on them wasn't going to make my hair grow any faster or help me retain length. Heck, I'm still checking up on what other women are doing & that's why I'm here LoL.

I think that's why the majority of us are on here because we have the ability to be civil when were around women with longer hair than ours. We actually have that rare bone in our body where we compliment a person and inquire for advice. Its rare to see that IRL. This does not only apply to hair but I'd say everything else fashion, fitness, career. It sickens me how some people can be so self_hating on their own kind (black women to other black women, there are others too I just mention this cause I'm a blac woman) based on outward appearance. I've never had anyone hate on my personality, my likes and dislikes, ect. Its always appearance. Some people are not happy with the skin their in so when you posses something they desire(that can be achieved without say plastic surgey) ie ling hair, fit body, nice clothes. They loose all mental capacity to act like a decent human being and the monster comes out. Sad to say even in family members.

 

[mimi73]

I've never understood the jealousy. I always asked women with hair longer than mine what they were doing to get it long, healthy, etc. Hating on them wasn't going to make my hair grow any faster or help me retain length. Heck, I'm still checking up on what other women are doing & that's why I'm here LoL.

I agree. I'd rather put that energy into finding out how to get the results I want.