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THAT *@#%$ CUT MY HAIR OFF! (long rant inside)

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lilsparkle825

lilsparkle825

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So basically....all my hard work over the past 6 months, all the hiding my hair, all of that ANTICIPATION went down the drain in a matter of minutes yesterday. I'm so mad I don't even know what to do.

I went and got a Dominican blowout so I could have straight hair for my two-year natural anniversary, and it was beautiful. Every time I did my hair this past week, I stretched it out just to make sure I was BSL, and I was -- wet and dry. I was so excited to take my progress pictures once it was all blown out. Yesterday once my hair was straight, I felt how long it was on my back and smiled. (I have serious hair anorexia, and I was excited for it to FINALLY feel "long".) Then I made the ultimate mistake -- I got a trim. Apparently it didn't matter that I always take great care in getting the same girl to do my hair, because she is the one who did this to me. I asked for a trim, and she showed me what she was going to cut, as she ALWAYS does -- but she had to have moved her hand up higher once she got to the back where I couldn't see. They say hindsight is 20/20, and now I realize I got too comfortable with her and didn't watch what she was doing after that first cut OR look on the floor when she was done. I just got her to wrap it (since it was so humid, plus it was late and I wasn't going anywhere but home) and got up. I gave her a huge tip, on top of that. I just wanted it to stay straight for a bridal shower I was going to today, so I didn't unwrap it and discover this mess until this afternoon. I feel so stupid (and bald) now, and all I want to do is wear it in a bun. As bad as I want to go back and curse her out, I can't. Number one, the damage is done, and number two, she barely speaks English. Number three, she'd deny it anyway. *sigh*

Anyway, my hair is back to the length it was in my FIRST sig pic -- not even close to BSL anymore. Just full APL, where I've been stuck for so long now. I'm going to have to abandon MBL 2010 and hope on a wish and a prayer I make BSL before December. I'm so devastated I can't even cry right now. I'm just at a loss between thinking about how she pulled the wool over my eyes and what I want to do in the future. All these shouldawouldacouldas -- I shoulda bought my own trimming shears, I couldn't because I know I would have been a perfectionist and cut too much of my OWN hair off, and what was the point since I had a seemingly "perfect" stylist? One thing's clear -- I'm never letting anyone trim my hair ever again.

ETA: Here is where I was in March (the last time I straightened)
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And here's a pic I took of my hair post-"trim"....
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lilsparkle825 said:
So basically....all my hard work over the past 6 months, all the hiding my hair, all of that ANTICIPATION went down the drain in a matter of minutes yesterday. I'm so mad I don't even know what to do.

I went and got a Dominican blowout so I could have straight hair for my two-year natural anniversary, and it was beautiful. Every time I did my hair this past week, I stretched it out just to make sure I was BSL, and I was -- wet and dry. I was so excited to take my progress pictures once it was all blown out. Yesterday once my hair was straight, I felt how long it was on my back and smiled. (I have serious hair anorexia, and I was excited for it to FINALLY feel "long".) Then I made the ultimate mistake -- I got a trim. Apparently it didn't matter that I always take great care in getting the same girl to do my hair, because she is the one who did this to me. I asked for a trim, and she showed me what she was going to cut, as she ALWAYS does -- but she had to have moved her hand up higher once she got to the back where I couldn't see. They say hindsight is 20/20, and now I realize I got too comfortable with her and didn't watch what she was doing after that first cut OR look on the floor when she was done. I just got her to wrap it (since it was so humid, plus it was late and I wasn't going anywhere but home) and got up. I gave her a huge tip, on top of that. I just wanted it to stay straight for a bridal shower I was going to today, so I didn't unwrap it and discover this mess until this afternoon. I feel so stupid (and bald) now, and all I want to do is wear it in a bun. As bad as I want to go back and curse her out, I can't. Number one, the damage is done, and number two, she barely speaks English. Number three, she'd deny it anyway. *sigh*

Anyway, my hair is back to the length it was in my FIRST sig pic -- not even close to BSL anymore. Just full APL, where I've been stuck for so long now. I'm going to have to abandon MBL 2010 and hope on a wish and a prayer I make BSL before December. I'm so devastated I can't even cry right now. I'm just at a loss between thinking about how she pulled the wool over my eyes and what I want to do in the future. All these shouldawouldacouldas -- I shoulda bought my own trimming shears, I couldn't because I know I would have been a perfectionist and cut too much of my OWN hair off, and what was the point since I had a seemingly "perfect" stylist? One thing's clear -- I'm never letting anyone trim my hair ever again.
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I am sure it looks great, you'll be back to BSL in no time :) chin up & Hugs
So sorry you went through this :(
 
:bighug: I'm so sorry to hear about this setback!! You and so many others here have reaffirmed my decision to never EVER let anyone cut/trim my hair but myself!!! I can't trust my reaction if someone, other than myself set me back on my hair growth journey.

All I can say is that you live and you learn. You have beautiful hair and I trust that you have healthy hair practices so I'm sure that you will be back to where you were sooner than you think.
 
SO Sorry Lilsparkle.:hug3: We All work very hard to keep our Hair Up that's why we're here in the first place. :look:

I really hate that happened to you.:sad: I'm sure it looks nice (and I know that's So NOT what you want to hear).

I am even more determined when I get 'some length:look:' to speak of my trims will be Saturdays, SuperCuts, Master Cuts or one of those places where they follow instructions explicitly.

Praying for a Summer Growth Spurt for you (and all of Us):grin:
 
I am so sorry that your 'trim' turned out to be a cut. I am positive that your hair will grow back in no time :hug3:
 
Sorry to hear that. This is definitely not one of those "Why didn't you complain" stories.

It's different when a TRUSTED hair stylist does this to you, even after SHOWING you what she was going to cut. Did you express dislike about it? Did she say why she cut that much?

I know it'll grow back lovely and thick as before, but right now that's not helping any. I am really sorry, I and many others have been there.
 
((((Lilsparkle825)))), been there so I know exactly how you feel. I'm so sorry this happened to you. The consolation I gave myself when I lost 5+ inches and went from SL to TWA at the hands of a stylist was, at least I had healthy ends now and could grow my hair from a point of perfect health and not one of trying to save ends that might've seen better days. And I know you will make BSL. And I know that will be even more exciting than the BSL you were excited about because you will have proven there's no stopping you. When I made it back to SL after that BC, I was more excited and more proud than I had been the time before. There's something about overcoming setbacks that makes the success all the more joyous.

Your hair looks great in your siggy pic and it looks so full. So if that's where you are, it's still so pretty. You may not think so because you know what it looked like before the cut, but from our point of view, it's beautiful and longer than many folks. I'm sure even if you wore it down for the event, no one would know anything was amiss.
 
Aww :nono: sorry to hear that. I HATE scissor happy stylists with a fiery passion!!

Maybe it's not as short as you think. Post pics! and look on the bright side. your ends are healthy and now you can retain length even better from here on out :yep:
 
Oh I'm so sorry this happened to you. Just so unfair:(. I would be heartbroken too. After a good cry try to pull yourself together. Don't let this setback make you feel defeated.
 
Nonie said:
Your hair looks great in your siggy pic and it looks so full. So if that's where you are, it's still so pretty. You may not think so because you know what it looked like before the cut, but from our point of view, it's beautiful and longer than many folks. I'm sure even if you wore it down for the event, no one would know anything was amiss.
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((((HUG)))) And I agree with Nonie.
 
I'm am soooo sorry that happened to you. I can't believe she took that tip, smh. I'm confident you'll be able to get to BSL by Dec. and with gorgeous ends. Try and think of the positive and don't go hurt nobody.
 
OP, so sorry to hear this.:nono: Question though - you indicated that you could ''feel'' the length of your hair on your back after she straightened it/before she cut it, so how did you not feel that much of a cut afterwards? Not trying to berate you at all, hon, just confused about that part...

:bighug:
 
Thanks, ladies. I hate crying over spilled milk, but I can't even explain the SHOCK I went through when I unwrapped my hair. I did a double take, and it was still shorter than I expected...then I just felt all these emotions at once. I posted a picture that my sister just took in the first post...trying to tell myself that it's all good since my ends are even, but it'll take a few days.

song_of_serenity, I haven't said anything to her about it. I didn't check it after the trim...I just let her wrap it and I got out of the chair. I'm still trying to think about whether I'm going to go confront her or not.

Nonie, you're right about overcoming setbacks. I have lots of support here, and I've seen some great comebacks, so at least I know it's possible.

*deep breath* I'm still mad though! :lachen:
 
(((((lilsparkle825)))) I'm sorry about your setback. It's hard when you trust someone i.e. stylist to do a simple task as trimming your hair and betray your trust a cut all your hard work. I know you will get to bsl.
 
Lexib said:
OP, so sorry to hear this.:nono: Question though - you indicated that you could ''feel'' the length of your hair on your back after she straightened it/before she cut it, so how did you not feel that much of a cut afterwards? Not trying to berate you at all, hon, just confused about that part...

:bighug:
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Once she started trimming, I was so happy that I had reached my length goal that I completely zoned out and went to my happy place (LOL). I definitely wasn't thinking she would screw me over. I pulled out my phone and got on twitter :grin: and just asked her to wrap it out of habit, without even checking behind her. That may have been why she wrapped it so fast...
 
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Sorry this happened to you. Splitender maybe? My hair is so uneven right now but no way I will be getting a trim until I visit my hometown and have my cousin do it. I just don't trust anyone else.
 
surecutie said:
:bighug:0

Sorry this happened to you. Splitender maybe? My hair is so uneven right now but no way I will be getting a trim until I visit my hometown and have my cousin do it. I just don't trust anyone else.
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Sadly, I can't even trust my cousins. Their hair has always been NL, maybe a thin SL at the most, and they don't notice a thing wrong with the fact that my hair was cut. One just shrugged and noted that "maybe my hair was damaged that badly" and needed to be cut.

I envy you!
 
I've been in your shoes a gazillion, billion, million times. I don't trust stylists with shears anymore...Heck, I really don't trust stylists anymore, lol!

I do pray, though, that your hair grows back triple quick and that you have a hair growing miracle. ( You can, you know)
 
Don't envy me too much, my cousin is over 10 hours away so it will be a while before I get to her. I only trust her because she's been a stylist for 25+ years and has always been BSL to MBL herself so she will completely honor my wishes not to cut too much.

I would probably be crying if I were you right about now. I guess the silver lining is that you go to BSL before so you can do it again.
 
It still looks great lilsparkle :) You'll be BSL by the end of the year. Splitender possibly! for next time. I will be investing in one by the years end. I had this same set back before!
 
:bighug: I'm sorry about your setback. I was looking forward to your reveal. Your ends look :lick: though. You'll bounce back by the end of the year, trust.
 
I'm sorry to hear about your experience Sparkle. However, your hair is definitely longer than your first pic in your siggy and that was only taken in Nov 2009. I believe that you will make BSL by the end of the year.

Given your experience, I think your hair still looks gorgeous! Congratulations on your 2 yr nappiversary! I'm sure having your haircut is not what you imagined but you still have come a long way in your journey. I hope you can seek comfort in knowing that you can and will make it to BSL in a short period of time. HHG:)!
 
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