Your mother or your husband??

[BlkManWithSomeSense]

I went to a pre marital counseling session at my church and the pastor asked me this question. I would like to see how you would answer.

If your husband, mother and yourself was driving along the road in the rain over a low bridge. The car hydroplanes and loses control and goes over the guardrail and into the water. You lose consciousness for a moment and quickly wake up to the water filing up inside the car. You find your mother and husband unconscious. You're able to open a window and get out. However, you quickly realize by how fast the water is coming in that you will only be able to save ONE of them because there will be no time to go back and get the other. Whom would you save?

Your Husband.. or ...Your mother?

Before you reply, you MUST choose one or the other. There is no other option. There is a reason for this and I will tell you what I said and what the pastor said after a few responses.

 

[meka]

Really for me, it would depend on who was saved and who wasnt, ya know.....

May seem silly to some but that is my opinion..

 

[michc]

Oh my...what a thought provoking question....

I can't choose - it would be whichever is nearest and easiest to pull out. This is the truth - I wouldn't be able to choose, I love them both too much....

Sorry.... Looking forward to hearing what your reply is and what your Pastor said...

ETA: They are both saved so that enforces my choice (or lack of)....

 

[Shimmie]

My husband...but God forbid such a tragedy.

At a moment like that, you're not thinking who is or isn't saved...neither are you thinking one or the other. You're thinking, Oh God! And you gravitate towards the one with whom you are closest. The one to whom I am cleaved. Am I not fitly joined to my husband?

And something else comes into play here..."I took a vow, leaving father and mother; forsaking all others...cleaving unto one another...even unto death. How far would I swim to save him? Would I risk drowning to do so? The thought to hesitate doesn't enter in, (especially men - they don't hesitate to react); I'd just swim to save him.

However, God forbid such a tragedy...to ever happen.

 

[StrawberryQueen]

Whoever was easier to get out of the car.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

This is a tough one...

I'm inclined to choose my husband b/c that would be Biblically correct, but I'm not married yet, I couldn't see myself choosing my husband over my mother. If I had children, my choice would also change. I don't know, I can't choose...erplexed

 

[tatje]

I would save my mother. As much as I would love my husband ( don't have one yet), I would save my mother because you only get one mother and she was there with me through it all, and I would hope that I should never have to hesitate when it comes to saving my mother's life. I would love my husband to death but you can love another. Don't want to sound cruel or cold.....I'm sure the lord would save him if he was meant to be saved.

 

[firecracker]

Uh I'm gon answer the question blackman but first I gotta get all up in yo koolaid cuz I'm nosey like that. Who and when you getting married blackman?
You know if ain't nobody else asked Compton Carlotta sho gon ask

 

[cocoberry10]

I would just let us all die together and go into Heaven, and meet the Man!

j/k. I'm not married yet, so I can't answer this question

 

[SoniT]

That's so hard. The correct answer would be my husband because when you get married you leave your parents and forsake all others, etc. However, I'm also very close to my mother and I couldn't imagine leaving her to die while saving my husband.

 

[dlewis]

I would have to say my husband.

 

[dlewis]

I also want to know who ya marrin?

 

[BlkManWithSomeSense]

Uh I'm gon answer the question blackman but first I gotta get all up in yo koolaid cuz I'm nosey like that. Who and when you getting married blackman?
You know if ain't nobody else asked Compton Carlotta sho gon ask

lmaooooo... I'm not gettin married.. I dont even have a girlfriend. I did the premarital counseling for my former marriage. .. LOL.. whew funny

 

[BlkManWithSomeSense]

I would just let us all die together and go into Heaven, and meet the Man!

j/k. I'm not married yet, so I can't answer this question

@ you sayin " Oh well" and singing "I'm goinnnnnnnn up yonderrrrrrrrrrrrr....."

As for the closest to the window.. that doesnt count because they are both within acceptable reach and theres a 50/50 equal chance for both of them and you would have to choose ONE or the OTHER.

 

[InnerSoul]

what a hard question.. but seeing as how I am not married yet... my mother!

If I was married... then that is a hard quest. don't know whom I would pick in that instance.. but like others said the one that is closest to the open window.

 

[BlkManWithSomeSense]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

 

[Shimmie]

I think I win the 'prize' for having the correct answer....

 

[Aveena]

Whoever was easier to get out of the car.

Yup. That's my answer.. In a split second I would only have time to choose the person that I thought I could truley help. Of course I would wish no harm to any of them. This reminds me of some of the sad stories that came out of Katrina.

 

[InnerSoul]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

well u can't argue with GOD's WORD...that's for sure!! but seeing as how I am not married yet.. I thought it was safe to save my mommy first !

 

[BlkManWithSomeSense]

well u can't argue with GOD's WORD...that's for sure!! but seeing as how I am not married yet.. I thought it was safe to save my mommy first !

 

[Bunny77]

I knew what the answer would be in a Biblical sense...

I wonder if the disparity in answers (including your ex-wife's) has to do with gender. I look at the relationships in my family and notice that my aunt is a lot closer to my grandmother than my dad is. It's my aunt who takes her to all of her doctor's appointments, watches her when she's sick, has her children (my cousins) looking after her during the day... meanwhile, while my dad loves his mother very much, he's usually the second resort. He'll come through only when my aunt isn't available first.

I see the same thing happening with my mom, myself and my brother.

I don't know if this is a good or bad thing or just a "that's the way it is" thing.

As for me, I answered the question by saying that I'd save my mother, but that's because I'm not married and can't imagine someone at THIS moment who I'd put before her... I'm sure my thinking will be tested when I am married.

One other thought... maybe women are uncomfortable with the idea of saving a healthy man and leaving a more vulnerable and older woman to die... I know I'd be so torn if I left behind my mother who probably would have a harder time getting out of the car as opposed to a man who I'd feel more capable of saving himself???

 

[cocoberry10]

I knew what the answer would be in a Biblical sense...

I wonder if the disparity in answers (including your ex-wife's) has to do with gender. I look at the relationships in my family and notice that my aunt is a lot closer to my grandmother than my dad is. It's my aunt who takes her to all of her doctor's appointments, watches her when she's sick, has her children (my cousins) looking after her during the day... meanwhile, while my dad loves his mother very much, he's usually the second resort. He'll come through only when my aunt isn't available first.

I see the same thing happening with my mom, myself and my brother.

I don't know if this is a good or bad thing or just a "that's the way it is" thing.

As for me, I answered the question by saying that I'd save my mother, but that's because I'm not married and can't imagine someone at THIS moment who I'd put before her... I'm sure my thinking will be tested when I am married.

One other thought... maybe women are uncomfortable with the idea of saving a healthy man and leaving a more vulnerable and older woman to die... I know I'd be so torn if I left behind my mother who probably would have a harder time getting out of the car as opposed to a man who I'd feel more capable of saving himself???

That makes sense

It's a very difficult predicament to be in.

There's a similar story I'll tell quickly...

A preacher shared this with his congregation. A man took his son and son's best friend fishing. They left early in the morning to catch good fish.

While in the boat on the ocean, a storm came, and the boat capsized, knocking them all out of the boat. When the father came to, he saw both his son and his son's best friend drowning. He knew that he could only save one.

With only a split second to decide, the man saved his SON'S BEST FRIEND.

The congregation was astonished. How could you let your son die to save his best friend? The pastor said that the father decided this way:

His son was saved, and he knew that although he would lose his son, he would save his son's best friend.

His son's best friend was not saved, so he knew he had no other choice. Then the pastor shared, that he was the best friend, and the old man in the audience was his best friend's father.

 

[PrincessDiva]

My mother. .without hesitation or thought

 

[live2bgr8]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

I was posed this question, too. Only (1) we were not in premarital counseling (2) it was a burning house, and (3) I had to choose between my children and my husband.... My husband gave the right answer... Alas, I did not. erplexed I said the children...

Since then, my heart has changed... I learned that the spouse is supposed to come even b4 children...

 

[tatje]

Now I feel so bad about my decision. I'm not married, but I do feel bad about not thinking the right way and just being selfish. I completely forgot that passage. Even when I heard the answer my thoughts where still selfish. I thought if me and my husband were to be one, then he can still die and live through me. I know thats bad and I have a lot of work to do, but I do trust in the lord and will live his way and not mine. Since that is what is stated, then thats the way it shall be.

 

[Supergirl]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

I like your mom and I don't even know her!

 

[MrsHouston]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

Great post.

 

[Precious_1]

I gave the correct answer without hesitation which was 'Save my wife'. Ironically my ex wife said "her mother" when she was asked the same question. erplexed

The pastor said the reason why your spouse comes first is because when a couple marries the priorities change and you leave your parents and forsake all things ( as Sonit said ). The order becomes God and your immediate family.. Children.. spouse and then mother and father.

Matthew 19:4-6 And [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

I told my mother what the pastor said and asked her what she thought of my answer and she replied " If you're my son then you would save your wife." . I tried to be slick and said " what if we were having marital problems and were really on the rocks" and she said " Doesnt change anything. I would expect you to perform your husbandly duties until you both divorced. Theres no grey areas in God's word"

It's important for couples to understand the seriousness of marriage and what it requires. Your loyalty to each other should be as natural
as breathing. When I think of marriage I think of :

Colossians 3:12-17
"Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. "

Amen

wow, what a wonderful mother

 

[Mortons]

I dont know about my husband or my mother, I mean I would not be thinking at the moment so whatever happens happens.....













but I absolutely would not be able to save my husband and not my flesh and blood.........I dont need to get married if thats the standard

 

[SexySin985]

I'd save my mom and hope my hubby can swim... cuz my mom can't swim for nuffin'

I'm only sayin that cuz I'm not married..