Wildcurlz.....get the book He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt. Oprah did a WHOLE entire SHOW on it. It's a GREAT BOOK and it will teach you precisely what is going on in this scenario and still you will feel GOOD about it when you read it.
Principles from the book:
1) Men CAN and DO express their TRUE feelings very well. Don't ever think that there is MORE going on in his heart than what he is SHOWING with his actions and saying. Men aren't emotionally confused. So, if he hasn't said, "wildcurlz, I am not sure I want to marry "peaches", I think you might be the woman for me, " then, chances are, that ain't the case.
2) A man who is telling you, "I'm not ready to settle down", "I'm not ready for a girlfriend/wife" is really telling you "I'm not ready to settle down WITH YOU" and "I'm not ready to HAVE YOU for a girlfriend/wife".
3) Men step up to the plate and change their m.o. completely around for the girl of their dreams. If he didn't propose to you, but he did propose to her, she's probably the one for him.
4) Men will move heaven and earth TO PURSUE the girl they love and feel a special connection with. Despite the fact that you initially knew him through a friend, you never developed independent contact with him until you visited his city and YOU had to make that move. If he felt that connection with you, he'd have pursued you long before that. He knew you two have a mutual friend, etc. And, trust me, when you are dealing with pro-ball players, travel is never an issue. He could have pursued something very serious with you in the time it took just to get to the point where you first got independent contact.
I know these are harsh things to say but they are for your own good. Let that man go live his life. You, most likely, are more smitten with what he represents than you are with him. Take away his money and fame and give him a blue-collar, low-wage job. Would you still want to pursue him knowing he's engaged if he had a different status? Not saying you are materialistic but I am saying that perhaps it's not really HIM that you are so attracted to and, if it is, and you still feel like you'd love him no matter what, then to that I say there is a reason why he isn't yours. Take that reason as God's grace. You never know, he might be an abuser, a druggie, a womanizer, a liar, boring, a control freak, fickle, etc.... but there is a REASON. Don't BUCK the system. God got you. HE GOT YOU! Your man is coming. If not this one, then one better, baby, one better!