LizLeila
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FlowerHair said:This was an old thread! I wonder what happened.
Yeah I noticed it was from last year --almost to the day. I hope the OP got through it ok.
FlowerHair said:This was an old thread! I wonder what happened.
bmoreflyygirl said:Let it go.... It probably wasn't you, it was him. Men tend to settle down with whoever is in their life at the moment they decided to settle down. It doesn't matter how many women were before that or how perfect they might have been, they weren't ready so it didn't matter. Women on the other hand tend to look for "the one" and then go at it from there.
wyldcurlz said:Wanted to get some opinions. If the man you want became engaged to a girl he's known for less than a year...what do you do? Especially if he said he wasn't rushing to get married just a few months earlier. (and this was THE man you've wanted for soooo long.)
You don't want to "throw in the towel" because...there's that shred of hope that maybe he won't go through with it...(or maybe he'll fall in love with you. ) But, then you worry that that's wrong and you should give up. Next thought, is that, you give up and wonder what maybe could have been?
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do? What do you do when giving up doesn't feel right, but pursuing it...could be pointless...at least that's what they tell me.
Don't pursue a taken man. If y'all are meant to be together it'll happen without your meddling in his affairs.wyldcurlz said:Wanted to get some opinions. If the man you want became engaged to a girl he's known for less than a year...what do you do? Especially if he said he wasn't rushing to get married just a few months earlier. (and this was THE man you've wanted for soooo long.)
Well, he wasn't ready then, but maybe he is now. I know lots of guys who say they aren't ready to be married even on the morning of their wedding...denial I tell you!
You don't want to "throw in the towel" because...there's that shred of hope that maybe he won't go through with it...(or maybe he'll fall in love
with you. ) But, then you worry that that's wrong and you should give up. Next thought, is that, you give up and wonder what maybe could have been?
Well, you can hold on to hope but don't expect much, plus if he doesn't marry her it doesn't mean he'll want you.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do? What do you do when giving up doesn't feel right, but pursuing it...could be pointless...at least that's what they tell me.