Your Man And Instagram "models"

theprototype

theprototype

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Do you ladies mind if your man follows/were to follow sexy Instagram models? The half-naked types, big booty-twerking chicks (or whatever he's into)?

What's your opinion on this? Is it disrespectful if he follows but isn't "liking" the pics?
 
I never even thought about it. My husband does have Facebook, but I go years without opening it, and I don't have Instagram. He might be following 100 booty models right now for all I know :ohsnap: He is always really busy though, so I can't picture him wasting time watching girls on Instagram, but men are men.

Nah, it wouldn't bother me if he just looks at the pictures, but he knows I am not the forgiving kind, so contacting them in any way would be unacceptable to me.
 
Hmm. The issue isn't the noticing of attractive women they see around online. Its more the need to follow multiple accounts so they don't ever miss a tiddy shot.

At least I'd hope he'd at least have the decency to make a dummy account and follow on his own time. The thought of being 30+ and having a husband (and at some point a father) with a public social media profile full of butts is so odd to me and cringey. Its behavior I expect from excited teen boys/early 20's.

I daresay the childishness and lack of consideration will be evident in other parts of the relationship also. ETA: Funny thing is a lot of the guys who have their jerking material all out there do not react well if their woman does the same from what I've seen :lol:
 
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Yep, I would mind. As BonBon mentioned that just seems like something a teenager would do. I wouldn't expect if from my husband. There are attractive women all around, but actively adding/following women to lust after. Nah.

But that reminds me...there is a guy that I know from college who posted a little video on Facebook. It was of a girl basically blowing kisses into the camera, smiling, flipping her hair, etc. Then he captioned it, "Dudes, she's underage, what do you say?" It was so disturbing to me. This is a grown married man. I'm wondering what his wife said, but he got ZERO responses on the post. Not one dude took the bait. I waited to see if anyone would respond. But then I unfriended him.
 
Theresamonet said:
Grown men following booty models online is pathetic to me. Yes, I’d feel disrespected if my man was collecting booty pages of women he feels lust for, to follow their every move.
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Yep it’s problematic and will lead to trouble. It’s akin to porn addiction. An associate of mine caught her husband cheating behind this. He followed a girl from his hometown, clocked her every move. And boom.
 
brownb83 said:
Yep it’s problematic and will lead to trouble. It’s akin to porn addiction. An associate of mine caught her husband cheating behind this. He followed a girl from his hometown, clocked her every move. And boom.
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:yep: That would be my problem with it. Not just the looking, but the girl possibly contacting him cause she noticed all the likes, etc. It says "I'm single/open to cheat". Slippery slope.
 
I dont want a man with a social media presence. Any man that has time for social media all day doesnt have enough to do. Let alone making time to find and follow IG models. Like dude how pressed to see booty and boobs are you?? Go build something. :lachen:

- typing on social media avoiding the laundry list of things I could be doing and building. :lachen:
 
If someone has to wonder, this means it bothers them. No one can ever say it’s ok/acceptable or it’s bad. It boils down to what YOU want and can accept from another person. I used to ask the same questions with my ex and it haunted me. When IG rolled out the ability to DM folks, I nearly lost my darn mind lol

On one hand it could be innocent looking (I know good dudes who do) and on the other hand it could mean more sketchy behavior. To see what it means, I would see if it fits an overall pattern with how the person behaves with other women, whether he has wondering eyes, poor boundaries and listen to my gut.

Oh man the memories...smh
 
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I find it childish. And if the women are vastly different from me, then I may be concerned. For example, I dated a guy that followed quite a few (10? 12?) accounts. About half of the women were brown skin like me. I wasn’t put off by that. But if all the accounts he followed were of lightskin exoticals I may be concerned that me or women that I look like do not show up in his fantasies. I want my man to drool over me. But overall I don’t mind if he follows attractive women. I just hate those thirsty arse comments underneath. I always see something like “”girl the dirty things I would do to you” from a guy wearing sunglasses and then you click the guys page and he has a photo with his daughter smack in the middle. Mmkay sir. Move along
 
It is disrespectful. It’s like the difference between a man who catches quick glances of attractive women in public versus a man who gawks at them.

If the tables are turned I bet he would have a huge problem with his woman following sexy men on IG.
 
Farida said:
It is disrespectful. It’s like the difference between a man who catches quick glances of attractive women in public versus a man who gawks at them.

If the tables are turned I bet he would have a huge problem with his woman following sexy men on IG.
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Especially if he didn’t look anything like them. Or she turned to show attention to attractive males in public
 
The guys I know who still do this stuff haven't mentally matured past adolescence. I'm not bothered by men being visual, but what grown man has time to be lusting on social media all day? Guys who are super active on social media are usually behind in a lot of other areas of their lives as well. All day looking at behinds when you should be looking at how to build an empire.
 
SurferBabe said:
The guys I know who still do this stuff haven't mentally matured past adolescence. I'm not bothered by men being visual, but what grown man has time to be lusting on social media all day? Guys who are super active on social media are usually behind in a lot of other areas of their lives as well. All day looking at behinds when you should be looking at how to build an empire.
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Exactly!
 
Thanks for the responses ladies..

I entered my first relationship two months ago of the last 10 years. I wasn't sure if this was normal behaviour in the social media age of dating.

His ratio of Instagram model following is 3:68.

I don't particularly LIKE it, but wasn't sure if I was overreacting. I haven't brought it up. I'm sure he'd unfollow if I asked, but I wonder if it's pointless seeing as he could just check the accounts anyway without following.

ETA: He's 29.
 
BrownEyez22 said:
Too funny my married girlfriend saw a glimpse of her hubby's group chat that was full of pics of girls from IG. She wasn't sure how to feel and asked him how would he like it if me and Browneyez22 had a thread like that with dudes from IG...

Silence lol.... gotta see how it plays out...
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Group chat you say??!!!!!

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