You Proved Your Doubters/Haters Wrong--Share Your Stories Please

[ChocalateDiva]

I would have looked at her like right before giving her one big .


(But maybe that's just because my tolerance for stupidity is really low)

I know, right. Folks will ask anything.


Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: What?
Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: (very confused) Um, I'm only 31. (I was thinking bout dentures!!)
Her: Well they could be Veneers. They are so nice and white.
Me: Um, thank you but they are real.
Her: How do you get them that way?
Me: Brush them?
Her: I brush mine but they never looked as good as yours.
Me: Do you smoke or drink coffee?
Her: Yes...
Me: Wellllllllll..............that could be the problem. I dont do either.

 

[Filmatic]

I know, right. Folks will ask anything.


Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: What?
Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: (very confused) Um, I'm only 31. (I was thinking bout dentures!!)
Her: Well they could be Veneers. They are so nice and white.
Me: Um, thank you but they are real.
Her: How do you get them that way?
Me: Brush them?
Her: I brush mine but they never looked as good as yours.
Me: Do you smoke or drink coffee?
Her: Yes...
Me: Wellllllllll..............that could be the problem. I dont do either.

Don't worry, I use to get the same thing or they thought I've had braces.

 

[Christa438]

... so I decided it was possible to grow my APL hair to WL so I went and I told my Mom and sisters.

*dead silence*

I got a lot of erplexed looks from them for the next month or so with all the products and washing and baggying and using "food" in my hair, and 2 hour long shampoo days (I jumped on almost every bandwagon and I was a PJ too lol) Then my APL hair became BSL and MB, and I finally made WL.
...
I let my results take care of the doubters!!

I love this story, Sugarose! I got those exact erplexed looks when I mentioned to fam I wanted my hair to be down my back at about BSL (really I wanted to tell them WL but I didn't have the guts to admit that one because I already knew that me even having BSL hair to them is like "yeah, sure sweetie" .)

 

[Christa438]

I know, right. Folks will ask anything.


Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: What?
Her: Are your teeth real?
Me: (very confused) Um, I'm only 31. (I was thinking bout dentures!!)
Her: Well they could be Veneers. They are so nice and white.
Me: Um, thank you but they are real.
Her: How do you get them that way?
Me: Brush them?
Her: I brush mine but they never looked as good as yours.
Me: Do you smoke or drink coffee?
Her: Yes...
Me: Wellllllllll..............that could be the problem. I dont do either.

That made me
That's funny... on the bright side Wow you must have a really beautiful smile.
kinda OT-- people say smoking stains the teeth but my aunts smoke (been smoking since they were young teens lol) and they have gorgeous smiles to this day.

 

[Fine 4s]

Let's see which haters I've had...

1) I told my homeboy that I wanted to grow my hair to MBL as I pointed to this latino woman with a long hair. His response 'yeah right'!
2) Another acqaintance who doesn't believe that black women can grow long hair without a perm.
3) A family member who also thinks all black girls can't grow long hair.

Those two I really want to squash! The second dude, I don't want to see him until next year LOL Las time he saw me I was growing out my bob.

My best friend was a doubter but not a hater.
She simply listened to her sister and I talk about hair and this site.
In april she saw me and pinned me down to the floor in order to take my twists out and show her friends and family members how long my hair grew. So now, she's totally a believer and preaches to others now!

I don't think I'll be satisfied until I reach somewhere between MBL-WL stretched though...

 

[longhairdreamzz]

When I first found the hair boards (July 06) and the Wanakee hair site, there was a lady with full, thick WL hair that was just beautiful. Well after lurking on the hair boards for a week or so I decided it was possible to grow my APL hair to WL so I went and I told my Mom and sisters.

*dead silence*

I got a lot of erplexed looks from them for the next month or so with all the products and washing and baggying and using "food" in my hair, and 2 hour long shampoo days (I jumped on almost every bandwagon and I was a PJ too lol) Then my APL hair became BSL and MB, and I finally made WL.

In May I chopped back to BSL and am at Midback now. My new goal is HL and when I tell my family, there is no doubt at all that I will reach my goal.

I let my results take care of the doubters!!

This story is so inspiring...especially the fact that you chopped it back down to BSL and still grew it back out to MBL...that's like proving to your doubters, you can do it over and over again with no problems.

 

[Chevelure618]

I'm a Dentist. I had this patient who has short, short hair and usually sees me with my hair in buns or other protective styles. Well this one day I had it down and I had my back to her writing in the chart, and you know how you sometimes feels as if someone is staring at you? Well I turned around and she was looking at the back of my hair and when she got caught she tried to turn away quickly like she wasn't looking. It was so funny but I couldn't laugh.

 

[*closer*2*my*dreams*]

My biggest hater/doubter was my best friend ( i had a thread about it a few months ago). .. pretty much she thought my hair would never grow bc i'm black (mind you she's black too) and that i can never have "good hair" (she has never had a relaxer, and her hair has a nice wave, but not pretty luscious curls and her hair is not thick, her edges are very see-thru)....anyway, we had a falling out and I have not spoken to her in almost two months, but i can't wait to run into her with my "long" "good hair" (GOD willing of course, it's still growing and i'm getting it healthy and thick one day at a time). she's my biggest doubter and i'm out to prove her wrong.

 

[prospurr4]

My precious mother has yet to get over how thick and long my hair has gotten. I had always had "bad hair" that was dry, thin and never grew past neck length. Just the other day, I was wearing a twistout that was full/thick and reached almost APL; it was pulled back with an elastic headband. (My hair is actually at MBL, but ya'll know all about shrinkage.) Anyway, Mom just stared at me, then when I looked back at her, I guess she felt she had to say something, so she blurted out, "You just have too much hair for your small face." What?!!! I still love her, though, and I took her remark as a compliment.

 

[Mahalialee4]

You should have said "Ya'll still doing that???????....checking black folks teeth and looking in our mouths???????.....GRRRR

 

[sugarose]

This story is so inspiring...especially the fact that you chopped it back down to BSL and still grew it back out to MBL...that's like proving to your doubters, you can do it over and over again with no problems.

And the funny thing is when I chopped it wasn't a big deal to them because it's already a given that it will grow back! That's the ultimate compliment to me.

 

[Ganjababy]

This is a good thread..........it keeps us shorties inspired

 

[TwistedRoots]

My precious mother has yet to get over how thick and long my hair has gotten. I had always had "bad hair" that was dry, thin and never grew past neck length. Just the other day, I was wearing a twistout that was full/thick and reached almost APL; it was pulled back with an elastic headband. (My hair is actually at MBL, but ya'll know all about shrinkage.) Anyway, Mom just stared at me, then when I looked back at her, I guess she felt she had to say something, so she blurted out, "You just have too much hair for your small face." What?!!! I still love her, though, and I took her remark as a compliment.

Thats funny...

 

[thinkpinkprincess]

I purchased it from neeps.com

thanks! going to look at it now

 

[caribeandiva]

My friends used to laugh at me too when i first told them how i was gonna get my hair to grow. Here's the original thread:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=89662

Now when i wear my hair down i either get complete silence or one of them will start playing with it out of the blue. Only one of them give me compliments and ask for help. Whenever I talk about products, or give hair products away they always take them.

My family jumped on the haircare bandwagon as soon as i told them about it and now my sister's almost APL for the first time in her life!

 

[BrooklynSouth]

Halimah's thread about her grandma not believing she could have longer hair got me to thinking. We've had dozens and dozens of similar stories like that over the years here. So I KNOW that some of you are now reaping your hair harvest and enough time has elapsed that you are now proving all your skeptics wrong, DEAD WRONG!

Please share your stories, because I've been waiting on them AND to inspire others now and in the future.

Also, if you happened to have started a thread about someone doubting you and now you've proven them wrong, please include a link to your thread about your doubter(if you can find it) with your success story in this thread.

Finally pulling out a nearly waist length braid from beneath my wig to show a few coworkers who claimed I was not going to be able to grow my hair long by {not by any means so they thought-now they are trying to recall the tips I gave their glassy eyed, inattentive behinds when I told them how to improve their own hair health!} wearing wigs and bunning for the last year and those awful ones who just "knew" I had gone bald because I was wearing wigs everyday!! Ha!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Blaque*Angel]

MORE STORIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Filmatic]

I already started a thread about my momma who didn't know I grew long hair. I really don't know if she doubted I could grow it, but I think she didn't think I would have the attention span to keep trying to grow it. I have been known to change my hairstyle weekly. But the big thing was when she showed a pic of my hair to my sister. For some unknown reason people in my family thought my hair was short because I wear weaves and wigs alot. Well my sister saw my hair and was amazed. That's nothing, wait till I reveal it later this year where I will be hopefully be BSL.

 

[ricochet]

Great thread ladies! It's the age old adage, "You can show them better than you can tell them." When I told folks, at work and home, that I was going to cut my hair into a short fro, I didn't have a lot of haters but definitely doubters that it would grow back to longer lengths. I didn't get too may negative remarks either as most folks that knew me before I cut my past shoulder length relaxed hair up to a chin length bob(that many thought was a wig because it was so thick) knew that my hair looked really good while relaxed. I got the "You are going natural?", "Why?", "Why would you cut all that pretty hair off?", "What are you going to do with it?" questions of course. Family life was fine, my Dad was little leery but he got over it when I told him I was growing it out.

Work life was a little different but not so bad that I was stressed out. I am pretty secure in who I am, so any negative comments that did come my way completely rolled off my shoulders. Fast forward 3.5 years, my hair goes from a 3" fro to a mid back length (while straightened) head of hair that I wore down every now and then, or in a big fluffy ponytail. Some of the folks that I still worked with had the nerve to ask if it was weave...The old heads I worked with that knew, of course, that it wasn't a weave, even took up for me when new people (mainly younger, college aged, black women who have taken on weave as a way of life) who had started working there over the course of those years, that would stare and try to ask questions without me knowing. While I was still working there, I would never have to say a word anymore in regard to my hair. Some of my coworkers, who were also my friends outside of work , would say it for me! I would sometimes even overhear the black males that worked with me say to all of those new people, "Yes, that's her hair, quit hatin!", "Her hair is off da chain!", "Heck naw, she don't wear no weave!", etc. I rarely wore my hair out or down. I am not kidding, it got to the point when I would walk into work in the morning with my hair down, everyone would turn around and say, "Oh shoot, you know you are gonna cause a stir up in here today, ain't nobody gonna get no work done"...in reference to how people (newbies, old heads, men and women) would act when I wore my hair down. I would just giggle timidly but deep down inside I was like "LOL, hate on haters!"

The really sad part about some of those females was that they would NEVER ask me what I was doing to achieve the length I had. It's like either they thought their hair would never get there, thought I had that "good hair", or were just so jealous and envious that they would rather stab themselves in the leg than to ask. I don't know. Keep doing what you are doing, because in the long run, you won't have to say a word, because you can show them better than tell them. Peace and love ladies!

 

[joib]

I don't have any hater stories yet (I hope in the summer of 2009) but when I do I know were to post. I love the stories, keep them rollin.

 

[Solitude]

Wow, I'm glad that I found this thread. I was just talking with a friend the other day & we were watching various women at our HBCU walk by, talking about how pretty their hair was. Well, several women had APL and MBL natural & relaxed hair. While my friend was unimpressed by the ones that were lighter-skinned or appeared "mixed" with curly or wavy hair, we did talk at length about the "regular black girls" with long, healthy hair. Basically, she insisted that it is impossible for "our" hair (type 4) to grow past the shoulder. When I told her that my hair used to be collar-bone length and that I was working on growing it back, she looked at me soooo crazy. Her hair is natural, but terribly heat-stretched & short. She wears various weaves all the time. I can't wait until the end of the school year to show her that ALL ethnic women's hair CAN grow, even it takes more time and patience.

*Note* I don't agree that skin color has to do with hair growth, that was just part of our discussion.

 

[caribeandiva]

Great stories! Keep'em coming ladies!!

 

[Neith]

Wow, I'm glad that I found this thread. I was just talking with a friend the other day & we were watching various women at our HBCU walk by, talking about how pretty their hair was. Well, several women had APL and MBL natural & relaxed hair. While my friend was unimpressed by the ones that were lighter-skinned or appeared "mixed" with curly or wavy hair, we did talk at length about the "regular black girls" with long, healthy hair. Basically, she insisted that it is impossible for "our" hair (type 4) to grow past the shoulder. When I told her that my hair used to be collar-bone length and that I was working on growing it back, she looked at me soooo crazy. Her hair is natural, but terribly heat-stretched & short. She wears various weaves all the time. I can't wait until the end of the school year to show her that ALL ethnic women's hair CAN grow, even it takes more time and patience.

*Note* I don't agree that skin color has to do with hair growth, that was just part of our discussion.

Stuff like that makes me sad. I'm lightish (truthfully I don't even LOOK mixed, people just zero in on my skin color), and people assume that's why my hair is growing out and looks healthy. People also assume that my hair is naturally "soft" and I've gotten the "good hair" comments

I'm as black as anyone else and I was blessed with some of THE COARSEST, kinkiest hair I've ever seen.

Even if I was mixed... a lot of mixed people's hair is no joke either. It's kinda like not giving credit where credit is due. You see a long, beautiful, healthy head of hair... 95% of the time that person took special care of it. Regardless of the hair type.

Not that I'm upset or think that you or your friend are somehow bad people. I'm just sad that the mentality behind it is there and so common.




My hair isn't long yet, but my mother came around. She thought my hair would fall out because "I'm not white" and I can't wash my hair and do all that extra stuff to it Now she asks me to do HER hair!

 

[caribeandiva]

Stuff like that makes me sad. I'm lightish (truthfully I don't even LOOK mixed, people just zero in on my skin color), and people assume that's why my hair is growing out and looks healthy. People also assume that my hair is naturally "soft" and I've gotten the "good hair" comments

I'm as black as anyone else and I was blessed with some of THE COARSEST, kinkiest hair I've ever seen.

Even if I was mixed... a lot of mixed people's hair is no joke either. It's kinda like not giving credit where credit is due. You see a long, beautiful, healthy head of hair... 95% of the time that person took special care of it. Regardless of the hair type.

Not that I'm upset or think that you or your friend are somehow bad people. I'm just sad that the mentality behind it is there and so common.




My hair isn't long yet, but my mother came around. She thought my hair would fall out because "I'm not white" and I can't wash my hair and do all that extra stuff to it Now she asks me to do HER hair!

I got the you can't wash your hair everyday cause you're not white thing too. People are really ignorant.

 

[Halimah]

Thanks supergirl for thinking about me when you started this thread

Halimah's thread about her grandma not believing she could have longer hair got me to thinking. We've had dozens and dozens of similar stories like that over the years here. So I KNOW that some of you are now reaping your hair harvest and enough time has elapsed that you are now proving all your skeptics wrong, DEAD WRONG!

Please share your stories, because I've been waiting on them AND to inspire others now and in the future.

Also, if you happened to have started a thread about someone doubting you and now you've proven them wrong, please include a link to your thread about your doubter(if you can find it) with your success story in this thread.

 

[200AndOne]

I'm just waiting on the opportunity

 

[Mimi22]

I got the you can't wash your hair everyday cause you're not white thing too. People are really ignorant.

I even read this in a black hair care magazine!!

 

[Extremus]

Oh and I was getting so much attention from people that she suddenly had something wrong with her So everyone was with her trying to make sure she was okay. All of a sudden she couldn't breathe and had to leave although she was fine just a frew minutes before she saw me. Yeah, RIGHT!!! Q

Oh lord! she's one of those

 

[cupcakes]

my mom and my little sis have always had hair longer than mine. when i joined the hair boards i began using more natural products and protective styling they used to make fun of the natural oils and stuff i put in my head and how i putting my hair up. Now my hair is thicker than both of theirs despite a setback i just recovered from and my hair is longer than my little sis and almost as long as my moms. she is now begging me to tell her what i am doing to me hair... and i just smile and shrug

 

[infojunkie]

Supergirl, I love this post! I want to cut off my relaxed ends in October (the straight ends keep slipping out of my kinky twists ) so I'm hoping to have a story to add to these posts.

Even though my hubby doesn't know it and will definitely not like my method, I'm growing my hair out for him in honor of his mother. I never met her because she was deceased before we met but he always talks about her long gorgeous hair.

Even though she was Mexican I have no doubt that I can grow my hair out long and luscious (it's already crazy thick and shoulder length).

My eyes will be on this thread as my story is still in the making.


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