Would You Want To Know If Your Boyfriend *might* Have A Child?...

[weaveadiva]

... or not until he finds out for sure?

No shady circumstances. This was before y'all met or dated. A woman from his past.

He had no idea she was pregnant. They have not kept in touch.

She reached out to him and said he may be the father.

He is your boyfriend, not husband or fiance.

Would you want to know when he knew the possibility or only want to know if he finds out he is the father?

So if he's not you would have never known about any of it at all.

ETA: The baby is already born.

 

[ThursdayGirl]

I would want to know if he is and if he plans to be in the child's life. Yes - when I was dating I was lightweight looking for my future husband. If a man was bringing a potential baby-mama into our future.... I wanted to know.

 

[tilati]

I would like to know, this way I could be out. I don't do drama

 

[bklynbornNbred]

Why you claiming someone fresh out of another relationship? If he still got her stink on him then he just someone you're dating.

I would want to know so he can be moved from candidate to "movies dont pay for themselves" list. If Maury clears him then after another 90 day period he might move back to candidate status. But while he's waiting I'll be dating anyone else.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

I don't like surprises or secrets so I would need to know potentially life altering information as soon as it was made known. In my older age, children were not a dealbreaker but the ages of those children could be. Kids that would be out of the house in a few years was tolerable. Brand new a-- babies -

 

[caribeandiva]

Why you claiming someone fresh out of another relationship? If he still got her stink on him then he just someone you're dating.

I would want to know so he can be moved from candidate to "movies dont pay for themselves" list. If Maury clears him then after another 90 day period he might move back to candidate status. But while he's waiting I'll be dating anyone else.

OP, I'd wanna know even if he turns out NOT to be the daddy.

 

[awhyley]

I'm actually more curious as to why the baby's mother is reaching out now? *nosy nosy*

 

[LiftedUp]

I'd want to know as soon as he finds out the possibility exists. That's a huge deal. I'd also be making plans to bounce just in case he ends up being the daddy

 

[frizzy]

I could be wrong, but from the OP it sounds like the child could be years old, a teenager even, not necessarily a newborn.

I would want to know every step of the way.
*Not to be confused with holding your hand while you getting swabbed.

 

[Damaris.Elle]

I would want to know as soon as he found out there was a possibility he could be the father.

 

[bklynbornNbred]

OP, I'd wanna know even if he turns out NOT to be the daddy.

Women kill me. Three dates and one session of coloring and they changing statuses on Fb. Meanwhile his last chick hasn't missed her last period yet.

Slow down.

Now if this was his HS or college gf that popped up because Maury told her that Ray John was NOT the father that requires a whole different response. But an infant in need of diapers? Nah, take your drama elsewhere. You can call to touch base when next blockbuster movie comes out .

 

[RUBY]

I'm actually more curious as to why the baby's mother is reaching out now? *nosy nosy*

And telling him he might be the father. Sounds like she don't know who the father of her child is and some drama is about to start if he is the father.

 

[Mai Tai]

OP is this you or are you asking for a friend?

 

[sj10460]

I could be wrong, but from the OP it sounds like the child could be years old, a teenager even, not necessarily a newborn.

I would want to know every step of the way.
*Not to be confused with holding your hand while you getting swabbed.

 

[frizzy]

^What??

 

[IslandMummy]

How old is this baby?

 

[sj10460]

^What??

That's Alicia in the gif and that's what she did. Alicia flew with him to the UK to get tested for Nicole while he was still married to Mashonda. IIRC AK was pregnant at that time.

 

[frizzy]

Zam, she did all that?!

 

[Mai Tai]

@weaveadiva You gonna come back and clarify or nah?

 

[Farida]

Of course. If we were to get married there would be visitation, custody issues...child support. And if the kid is a certain age it can be very expensive. CA will collect back child support plus interest.