The real victim is the [unknowing] girlfriend. There are countless women who have wasted their youth and beauty on a selfish, narcissistic, arrogant, controlling, immature, FAKE married man.
Now a days, you could lose your life and be killed. I say telling the wife is not worth your life energy. If that man can lie and cheat for 9 months, there is no telling what else he is capable of doing.
If he can hide a marriage for almost a year, he might be able to hide a body for even longer.
My comments are not from paranoia. I've known many a policeman. They say less than 50% of crime is solved. Most times a crime is resolved because either a: the criminal messed up or b: someone came forward with a tip.
Black women are murdered at an alarming rate. Their cases are not a priority and their cases aren't on ID TV.
Lastly, most women are murdered by someone they have known and usually it is a man they have known. Too many victims die as they had lived: being kind and trying to help someone.
I would extricate myself from the entire situation completely.That includes not saying anything to her. Telling a women RARELY is appreciated.
Signed,
#TeamTakeCareOfYourself