okange76
Well-Known Member
So, I was listening to a Naija talk show The Pepper Talk Show on FB and one of the callers dialed in with a question.
She knows this couple who are both very close to her. They are married with 3kids and she says the guy is an awesome father.
The wife confided in her that none of their 3 kids belong to the husband.
The husband confided that one day when he was sick of his wife treating him like ish, he walked out and was gone for a week. He cheated for the first time, had a one night stand and got the woman pregnant. He doesn't want her to keep the baby because he's afraid to hurt his wife.
The caller knows the side chick and encouraged her to keep the baby. She's having complications and is on bed rest. The caller has been helping her with medical bills and other bills.
The caller wants to know if she should just bring both of them together and spill the beans or if she should just keep her mouth shut and wait for ish to hit the fan.
The guy host said that she should spill the beans because as a man, taking care of kids that are not yours is the greatest insult and that by keeping quiet, she is going against God and the teachings of how marriage should be,
One lady host said that the caller is way too invested in their marriage and that she should mind her business, fall back and let the marriage unravel on its own. She should be quiet and if the wife causes problems about the outside kid, only then can she speak up and spill the beans.
The second lady host didn't really give advice. She was stuck on the fact that all 3 kids did not belong to the husband.
The general consensus was that the caller should continue helping the baby mama till she has the kid.
Majority of the callers said, that she should use wisdom and find a way to let the guy know so that he can do a DNA test. One suggested an anonymous note, another one said she should tell the wife to tell hubby about the kids or she would tell him.
Personally I would stay out of it to avoid being shot as the Messenger. Two people who share a bed, should be left alone to sort their own issues. They can decide to make up and you are the one who will be left looking stupid.
If this was you, what would you do?
She knows this couple who are both very close to her. They are married with 3kids and she says the guy is an awesome father.
The wife confided in her that none of their 3 kids belong to the husband.
The husband confided that one day when he was sick of his wife treating him like ish, he walked out and was gone for a week. He cheated for the first time, had a one night stand and got the woman pregnant. He doesn't want her to keep the baby because he's afraid to hurt his wife.
The caller knows the side chick and encouraged her to keep the baby. She's having complications and is on bed rest. The caller has been helping her with medical bills and other bills.
The caller wants to know if she should just bring both of them together and spill the beans or if she should just keep her mouth shut and wait for ish to hit the fan.
The guy host said that she should spill the beans because as a man, taking care of kids that are not yours is the greatest insult and that by keeping quiet, she is going against God and the teachings of how marriage should be,
One lady host said that the caller is way too invested in their marriage and that she should mind her business, fall back and let the marriage unravel on its own. She should be quiet and if the wife causes problems about the outside kid, only then can she speak up and spill the beans.
The second lady host didn't really give advice. She was stuck on the fact that all 3 kids did not belong to the husband.
The general consensus was that the caller should continue helping the baby mama till she has the kid.
Majority of the callers said, that she should use wisdom and find a way to let the guy know so that he can do a DNA test. One suggested an anonymous note, another one said she should tell the wife to tell hubby about the kids or she would tell him.
Personally I would stay out of it to avoid being shot as the Messenger. Two people who share a bed, should be left alone to sort their own issues. They can decide to make up and you are the one who will be left looking stupid.
If this was you, what would you do?