Would you say anything? Honestly?

[moneychaser]

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skegeesmb said:
Remember public albums like fotki have more than LHCF lookers looking at your album.

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See,
I know this off subject and all.. But Im rather upset right now. This thread made me go to my album to review my comments... I created my album to share with you guys, right.. So why in da hell has a "Jeff" left a comment talking about you so fine! If "Jeff" has seen my album not telling who else has seen it

Damn I hate the internet..
Okay back to the topic.

 

[dannie]

Whew..good question. This is exactly why I closed out my album. I've seen some people's albums and been like

but I don't want to be mean, because I know I still have a long way to go before my hair is

perfect. So to answer the question, nope my lips are sealed.

 

[deeshortesthair]

i would look and move on, not make any comment but i'd like it if someone told me.

 

[pookeylou]

I have seen an album where the hair was just....broke.

In the album it appeared that the sistah felt her hair looked great and was looking for compliments.

I said to myself, "If she believes it looks fine...then who am I to tell her it does not!"

But my "Sisterly instinct" made me pm her. I asked a "round the mulberry bush" type of question just to get a feeling from her on if she is looking for help in any way.

She replied with a "I already know that" type of answer. It made me think she has been given unwanted advice before.

I say if they dont ask for your advice...dont give it away. Save it for someone who would really appreciate it.

 

[deeplyrooted]

@ pookeylou.

I know my hair isn't where I want it to be, but, personally, I prefer honesty over glossed over "nicey" comments. I would prefer advice from others who can relate/understand that the natural characteristics of natural hair cannot be compared to relaxed hair (sheen vs. shine, poofiness vs. sleekness, etc.), but honesty is what I would prefer above all else. If you feel it's too "nasty" to say in a thread, then by all means PM a sistah.

In all honesty, if I thought a sistah's head of hair was "jacked," I would probably PM her.

 

[Babygurl]

The ladies on this site are very honest but not to the point that youll get your feelings hurt. I had UGLY CHEWED UP ends when I first joined and after my first progress picture, people started to let me know, "ok girl now you can let go of those ugly ends, the hair will grow right back." I listened and it grew and my ends are still even!

 

[godzooki]

I would only comment if directly asked, other then that no unsolicited negativity from me. Praise works wonders and it only takes a little to lift someones spirit. We are all trying to accomplish the same goal and everyone has a different starting point. Tthere is definately a tactful way to mention things but you gotta think. Do you really need to mention it that bad? If a person has huge bald spots I think she would know so it does not need mentioning. I have anxiety attacks every time I add a photo to my album in fear that someones laughing hysterically at my efforts or what I think are achievements wndering why I'm bothering. Be nice and don't burst my bubble! Tactful suggestions appreciated but if it's nothing but a negative comment thats destructive instead of helping to lift me up in my hair care efforts, keep it.

 

[TigerLily]

I agree 100%, godzooki. Tact is key. If I were to be nasty with my comments and say for example, "Girl, you know your hair is dry. Why did you even bother? You should've wet your hair first". I doubt very seriously that I would be listened to since I hurled insults and then tried to give constructive criticism. There is a way to do and say everything...

 

[cherish]

I don't offer unsolicited advice, photo or not, offline or on. I generally hesitate to offer any on damaged hair online, even when it's solicited, unless I think I have a feel for that personality or the hair is just very damaged.

I've noticed that whenever people post pics of damaged hair on lhcf and ask for opinions, they seem to get nothing but compliments.

Hair album communities are a whole other case though.

 

[Tracy]

Honesty is a double edged sword and as innocent as it may be is sometimes unwarranted.

If I look at an album and the hair is damaged I say nothing. If I am personally asked for advice or that person posts asking for advice on a topic, I give them everything I know. Otherwise, I keep my "honesty" to myself.

 

[cutebajangirl]

Okay, maybe my whole understanding of putting pictures up is different from others understanding. I see the hair part of this forum as the place where you ask for suggestions advice or to talk about your hair health in general. To me the albums are so people have an understanding of what your hair is like when you do ask for suggestions. Therefore, to me there is no need for disclaimers (like I know my hair is not the bomb) in the pictures. I would kinda understand some of the views I am seeing in this thread if there were people who were saying oh my hair is the bomb in threads and then their pictures showed soemthing different, but IMO people here are modest about their hair status. I see far more complaints or disatisfaction with their hair than I do props.

 

[missykeyana]

Maybe privately.

I notice that a lot of ladies would not want to say anything negative but want someone to tell them. Interesting.

 

[Champagne_Wishes]

I wanted to add that if that situation ever arise, if she ask for anyone's opinion you should pm her and tell her tactfully so. The last thing this forum needs is a flame war.

 

[Champagne_Wishes]

Or even better, don't say anything directly bad about this person's hair but recommend a product.

 

[spanishteardrops]

I agree with champagne about recommending a product

I know my hair's jacked thats why I'm here

But I would be offended if someone else told me that

if someone was like I use this and it works great I prob wouldn't think anything of it just someone trying to help

 

[moneychaser]

Well,
I am also here to improve the health of my hair

With that being said, I feel I am in no position to comment on the health of someone elses hair until I get mines in tip top shape. Even when that happens (if it ever does

) I would just offer my advice when asked.......