Interesting responses.
My DH was my ex's friend before I knew him.
My ex isn't thinking about me, and my DH and I aren't thinking about him. We all get along fine, although we aren't all bosom buddies or anything. There is no wierdness.
Besides if we follow all these "rules" how do you know who's really right for you? You may be x'ing out a decent man based on principal.
All the men I've dated have been gamers/arcade hoes and the gaming community in my area assures that everyone knows everybody. All my boyfriends knew each other. (I was also very young...youth character flaw, perhaps?)
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't like I was being passed around like a joint...they didn't have much to say since I wasn't doing anything with them. "Yeah man, you held her hand last week?" "Yeah dog, I got a kiss on the cheek when I was with her..."
I don't see what the big deal is. If you're not with your ex why would you or him care who's dating who? Seems a bit selfish to me.
Friend: Oh, me and John have such a connection! Do you mind if we date?
You: *can't stand John because he was a 1 minute brotha and stayed broke* No. You can't do that to me.
Friend: But why? You don't even like him!
You: Because friends don't date other friend's exes.
Really now? Your friend has to be unhappy and possibly pass up the lover of her life because it wierds
you out?
I need to go to bed...caffiene gives me the rambles...