Women who wear hair scarves and bonnets out.

[LittleLuxe]

I just have an 'f you' spirit to go with my 'can do!' attitude.

So long as you're not paying my bills, employing me, feeding me, or putting me through college I really don't care what you think, lol.

Life is too short and I have too many important things to stress about to be trying to fix up my hair at the last second so as not to offend the delicate masses.

 

[Nonie]

@Kerryann Hi!^^ You talmbout me with the fly tilt?
J/K But yeah, I'd so do that.

ETA @LittleLuxe, I'm so swiping that line to add to my vocab w/o even asking.

"I just have an 'f you' spirit to go with my 'can do!' attitude."
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Love it!

 

[beans4reezy]

You trouble maker! LOL Didn't that thread get locked?

Oh and I wanted to say that I don't wear my satin bonnet everywhere I go BUT if I have to I most certainly will. I ain't mesing up my hair, tu estas loca

BostonMaria...nah, that thread went to thread heaven. A member made a comment that shut it down! I was crying...definitely one of the funniest threads I've read here

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

@Dannysedai, I get what you're saying, which is why I made the disclaimer in the post with the pictures, but at the same time, if someone is wearing a straight up bonnet or a scarf with stains on it or whatever, then I still don't see the reason to feel any type of way on their behalf.

My thing is that, with just a regular scarf like the ones I posted, they aren't going to stop you from looking cute. You look how you look--Halle looks good with her scarf and she looks good without it. If you see a woman that you don't think looks presentable, she wouldn't look any more or less presentable with a scarf.

Now when it comes to things with stains or that are torn or ratchet looking or whatever, we have to understand that A) everyone's life is not our life. I grew up working in my family's business in the inner city and going to school with people in the suburbs. It would shock me how sheltered people with a comfortable lifestyle can be and how shocked they are to understand what a daily struggle life may be for someone else. I'm not trying to get all deep over some scarves, but you don't know if someone's loved one is dying, if they're running to the store to pay a bill that they had to scrounge up the money for, if they are trying to get some food in the house so they don't get beat by their man, or what. Or maybe they just haven't been exposed to a certain standard of dress and hygiene because they're the first one in their family to go to school or to be in a certain neighborhood or whatever.

When you have so much time to worry about being vexed or vicariously embarrased or annoyed by somebody looking ghetto then it may be time for you to give back to your community in the form of mentorship or something, because some people honestly don't know any better or are too busy being concerned with securing the very basics of life to be concerned about not looking hood. (Another thing is that I never really see white people embarrassed by trashy white folk. We have to stop taking on the burden of feeling like every other black person is our representative.)

And then B) you have your people that don't have anything to do with my last paragraph, but they just are busy and don't give a pint of a damn about a stranger's opinion and they need some eggs from the neighborhood Walmart. Oh! Off topic, but not really: Mother's Day 2010, I was trying to do something nice for my mom and grandma by having breakfast ready at my place but I was out of pancake mix or eggs or something and I needed to run to the store but my hair was in those big rollers. It was about 7am so I just ran to the store next to my house like that. I met this fine, non-ratchet man that was like "hey, beautiful." "Heeeeeeeeeeeeeey." I mean we're not married or anything now, but we had dinner a couple times and some rollers wasn't stoppin no show! lol

What was my point? Oh, yeah, I think it's a trivial thing to worry about unless you're worried about your own self. (I'm not criticizing the OP for the thread, I'm just saying that IRL I would be like )

 

[LittleLuxe]

Nonie

Haha, glad you like it. Life becomes positively sunny when you adopt that mindset OP.

Also the pic of you in the scarf was amazing Nonie! I would have never imagined that was a DIY and not something already made and sold like that.

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

Wait a minute, I certainly wasn't talking about the types of scarves that are pictured here. I'm talking about "doo rags" or bonnets. I like wearing different hats, hair wraps, etc myself. I will DC under a hair wrap in a hot minute.

One of the more trifling things I have seen is where I used to work. I worked in an area where I would see a lot of Moms who'd just given birth. I was looking rough after my first birth too, so I don't usually say anything...I'm just happy if they have a hospital gown that closes lol.

Anyway, a lot of the moms who'd had c sections would wear the disposable hospital cap after they'd have their baby. I'm talking about this:

So, I understand having it on the first few days while you're in the hospital, but these women would come back to visit their premature baby 2 weeks later and STILL wearing that disposable cap. One of the sweet little new nurses asked a mom if she was wearing it because she thought she needed to be sterile around her baby. The mom was like "Naw, I just don't feel like washing my hair"

Which I can totally understand, especially after having a baby., but I do not understand just not taking care of the problem and covering it up with a cap that is not even intended for long term use.

I guess I was just raised by my grandmother. She didn't have a lot of money but she made sure her hair was combed or she had a hat on when she left the house. For her, leaving the house in a bonnet or doo rag would be like leaving the house in your underwear.

Having said all that, I don't think anyone is doomed to terrible things because they wear a doo rag or bonnet, but I don't do it.

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

I bought a couple of scarves after i saw a thread Nonie had on turbans and headscarves. She has skills, some of the ways she tied her scarves were so beautiful. I wear a cute scarf or i throw on a shower cap and put a cute beanie on top- no-one can tell i'm baggying underneath.

Hope Nonie won't mind me posting one of her pics

Nonie I love this girl!

Question: Are turbans more of a spring/summer thing or can they be year round?

 

[Nonie]

@Nonie I love this girl!

Question: Are turbans more of a spring/summer thing or can they be year round?

Thanks KCcurly, I wear my scarves/wraps any day of the year I feel like it. I don't even call them "turbans"; I just posted in that turban thread coz I found it amusing it was considered a new trend when it looked to me like just the same ol' thang I've been doing since time immemorial. I simply call what I wear scarves, headwraps, headties, etc.

That pic Lesedi posted was taken in the winter. This was taken in spring.

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

Oh my gosh, that is tooooo cute, Nonie!!

 

[lesedi]

Nonie do you have a tutorial for that last pic? (the one taken in spring)
It is wicked!

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

Wearing a scarf suitable for outside use is cool.

The cool factor ceases when you start look like Bonita Buttrell.

 

[Nonie]

@Nonie do you have a tutorial for that last pic? (the one taken in spring)
It is wicked!

@lesedi, I tried to make a tutorial in pics a while back. It's based on the same bow procedure as the others. I used a Pashmina scarf and basically did what I am doing in this pictorial tutorial (going from left to right)--you can see the bow bottom left and then the fluffed up end result bottom right. In order to have enough material to go around, after folding the scarf lengthwise, I put it around my head nearer one end...so I that when I cross over in the back, I have enough material to twist and take around my head, then comes the bow where the two ends meet in the back:

 

[lesedi]

Nonie Thank you so much!
*off to find scarf in cupboard*

 

[kroeskop]

I wear scarves quite often, I'm from south africa where women wear it as a fashion accessory and bonnets-it's more how you put it together.

 

[danysedai]

I specially like a picture where JLo is wearing a scarf and it matches her dress (not the gold one)
That reminds me of that movie with Sanaa Lathan where she is at home and her head scarf matched her silk pjs.

 

[Oasis]

a few hours ago i had just finished rolling my hair for a braid and curl. 2 minutes later i got a call and i needed to leave so i wrapped my trusty bright orange scarf around my head and kept it moving. it was definitely not as fancy as the others in this thread but you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

[southerncitygirl]

i just started a thread here on the numerous ways to tie scarves including around your head here:


http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=566845

 

[lesedi]

kroeskop where in SA are you from?

 

[ogmistress]

The last time that I actually wore my scarf out was really when I had no idea what to do with my hair. It was one of the weekends that my hair and I get into a fight. So I put my scarf on and walk out the door. Since I knew I was going to the store and other place I made sure I didn't look like a wreck.

But right now, it's 7:20 a.m. and I am about to walk out with a bonnet on my head. I'm just going in the car and falling back to sleep so I really don't see the point on messing with it right now.

Also I am planning on straightening it later. Got a date with the boyfriend.

 

[Afrobuttafly]

Hot gluing a flower, or whatever that is, on your bonnet still does not make it presentable... lol

 

[toiatoya]

^^lol but it's still darn cute!

 

[emerald06]

All of the scarves and wraps I've seen in this thread are nice and presentable. That bonnet flower ^^^ does not get a pass, though.

All of the scarves and wraps here get a pass because of how they are presented.

When I see an average scarf/wrap/turban wearer on the streets, they have strays & fuzz sticking out, Spongebob pajamas and flip flops.

You can tell that the look was not well thought out. They look disheveled.

If I saw a Tracey Ellis Ross, Alicia Keys or a lovely Naija lady with a beautiful gele and ensemble on the streets, that would be different. Unfortunately, most of the scarf wearers I see do not look like that.

 

[MaraWithLove]

I sure did wear one yesterday.


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[Bnster]

Ladies show us how you were you scarf in public. I think only once but I didn't get out of the car, i was giving a family member a ride. I think I did. Do I care, I have gotten use to it, though at times I may give a double take seeing someone doing so.

 

[Kirei]

Child boo...

I wear a scarf in public...I never used too but, I'm grown, with a toddler and married.

Sometimes I have to run to the store right quick and I'm not about to undo braids or twists just to get some milk...

Just being honest. I don't care what people think of me. If I'm a FoodLion with yoga pants on and a old t-shirt obviously I'm just running some quick errands.

Sometimes my baby looks questionable too...as long she has her shoes on the right foot, I'm okay. It's hard enough to get her to keep all her clothes on before we get out the door!

I think it depends on where your going. Like if you're just going to the grocery store to pick a few (emphasis on "few") things, then it's fine but, if you're going to do a full on grocery shopping trip then put on something acceptable and at least wear a beanie...

 

[Kirei]

Please excuse the errors ya'll....

I know the difference between you're and your...I just don't feel like fixing my post right now...

 

[ladylibra_30]

It's amusing to read this thread because all this time I thought wearing a black bss bonnet, thick false eyelashes, sweatpants with 'PINK' on the rump, and flip flops was only a trend in Miami!

These girls around here wear it as a fashion statement. Monkey see, monkey do. Before the bonnet it was the single fake long candy-curl pony-tail.

 

[babyu21]

I hate seeing woman in hair bonnets at the mall. In my head I am like dang you couldn't take 5 seconds to comb your hair before going out in public. It looks rather lazy and I just can't get with it. I like to be presentable when leaving the house and there is nothing about that BSS hair bonnet that says that.

 

[KhandiB]

LOLOL, THIS!!!

I wish I would care if someone had something to say about my scarf, lol.

I do for my own personal reasons, make sure what Im wearing matches my scarf though. I had to go get some milk for my kids, I just wrapped my hair, I was NOT about to take it off. Its cute, Its Black and Gray, and I had on Black pants and a grey tank..

I Werked it. LOL. AND it’s a $3.99 one from the BSS, LOL

Child boo...

I wear a scarf in public...I never used too but, I'm grown, with a toddler and married.

Sometimes I have to run to the store right quick and I'm not about to undo braids or twists just to get some milk...

Just being honest. I don't care what people think of me. If I'm a FoodLion with yoga pants on and a old t-shirt obviously I'm just running some quick errands.

Sometimes my baby looks questionable too...as long she has her shoes on the right foot, I'm okay. It's hard enough to get her to keep all her clothes on before we get out the door!

I think it depends on where your going. Like if you're just going to the grocery store to pick a few (emphasis on "few") things, then it's fine but, if you're going to do a full on grocery shopping trip then put on something acceptable and at least wear a beanie...

 

[rockstar]

I sometimes wear my hooded band as a head band. Earlier it started raining so I plopped the hooded band down to cover as much of my pony tail as possible and put my hood on. I was NOT getting my hair wet.