Okay a possible scenario...like from another site of someone else not me asking for advice...
Said DH/SO has a couple of ex(s) two he was married to, the other one just a girlfriend. The latter of which has finally stopped with the emails as she didn't have the new number.
Now DH is remarried to new wife, but the two ex-wives just cannot or will move on and accept the fact that he does not want a relationship with either of them.
Last ex (no children from) constantly emails and ask third parties for DH's new phone number.
First ex (mother of child) constantly emails because that's her only form of communication, due to her number being blocked. At times she's taken the childs phone and used it to harass DH.
Said wife of said DH/SO has the means to deal with either of these women but knows it would change their lives/livelihoods forever...and for now doesn't want to go that route.
What say ya'll?
Don't understand the bolded.
Why can't the dh shut it down? Maybe give it a little time, I guess, as dh should handle it. But I know I would be so tempted to handle it. I imagine it must be very annoying to you, I mean the wife .
The wife sounds pretty powerful, those ex-wives better be careful.
Well, I imagine he's a gentleman and the ex is the mother of his daughter, so he's probably kinder to her than necessary, doesn't want to disrespect his daughter's mother. But she's disrespecting the wife. Okay I re-read, can only reach via e-mail or daughter's phone. So good job on blocking her number, nice move. I guess really isn't much more to be done until the daughter is a young woman and finished with college? But, I think in time she will give up, hopefully she will get a boyfriend .
Exes need to grow up and move on....even if that means buying a dildo. I have no desire to even look at my son's father, who recently remarried, let alone communicate with him. I would rather watch white paint dry on a wall....ijs.
Off my rant....what is the worst that could happen if said new wife handles the matter? I'm a bit on the dramatic and direct side irl so I'd probably just go on and deal with the exes myself and let the chips fall where they may. Men have a tendency to tread lightly...too lightly with exes IMO, especially when offspring, child support, visitation, and other financial obligations are involved.
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12 years? Seriously? And even with a marriage in between and boyfriends? The new wife should just thank God she's got such a good catch. It will all work out over time, the ex-wife will have to be patient. Over that 12 years though he was not married to the new wife. I imagine he is colder and rougher with her than in the past now that he is happily married. She'll give up in time. And she isn't hopeful , she's crazy. But even crazy people get tired of looking like a fool.
Welp, she gave the wife no choice. Only a fool would continue to open themselves up to that. It's disappointing. It would be great if everything worked out, but it's simply a challenge to let go and surrender, something hard for those who enjoy being in control (like me, you, and the lady in the article). I'm just so happy you found love, it's just so wonderful ElizaBlue.
No personal stories but I always thought they move on with they get their own man. I can't imagine almost middle aged women still causing such trouble. Find a hobby.
@ElizaBlue simply put the DH is a great guy and they can't get over losing him for good. They are probably re-running all the things they would have done differently and really, really want another chance - but it's just too late.
After 12 years you would have thought they would've gotten over it but the heart is so delicate and easily be broen into a million pieces. She has no idea how to move on because she is still searching for someone exactly like her ex husband, not truely giving her heart to new man. Every relationship she has will be doomed until gets over her failed marriage.
I have a story - my supervisor at work met and is still with her SO. His ex wife has done the unthinkable to try and split them up. For legal reasons I can't say what but she stooped really, really low to try and get my boss sacked and ruin her reputation. ElizaBlue you know my profession and can probably imagine the strain it put on my supervisor but you know what, she and her SO are still together and the ex is pissed that her plan didn't work but has no choice now but to sit the hell down.
If that didn't break the two of them up, then nothing will. They are solid and so are the husband/wife in your story.
TayMac You would think so right? But I suppose desperate and lonely and being vindictive transcends all ages. Sad....