Wish You Could Go Natural???

[The Savvy Sistah]

Whimsy your hair is so thick and healthy!

Is that how your hair looks with the texturizer?

I'm natural and i'm thinking eventually I may want to texlex.

 

[Choklatekiss79]

Hi NappyParadise...I know what you're saying is true maybe when I find a job that will be more acceptable I can be natural one day. My environment doesnt accept it. I work for someone who's made it clear that if we are to go natural we better press it. I dont see the point of being natural and just wearing a press. Yes she's black too and I find that its our own people who are more critical of our hair. Which is so sad.

Sounds like that woman is begging to be sued!erplexed

 

[TaraDyan]

I don't need
relaxers anymore. I think that
if we had flat irons back in the day,
I would have never gotten a relaxer.
My hair before relaxers was it was
down my back, my hair after relaxers
stayed shoulder length... I've come
to the conclusion that if I want to meet
my hair goals and have healthy hair...
I really need to go natural.

I feel the same way, SouthernTease. My hair was healthiest and longest when I was natural, which is why I'm chosing to transition to natural again (this is my third time transitioning to natural, but my first time doing it on purpose).

 

[PaperClip]

no such thing as can't
once you truly want to go natural, you will.

Enough said! I don't want ANYBODY to relax their hair for 30 YEARS like I did.... I think it's cute to read "Oh, I'll do it when I'm about 40".... I'm knocking on that milestone age (although I embrace that "40 is the new 30" thang! ) and I WISH I had known better so I could do better....

30 YEARS is a LONG TIME...to put CHEMICALS ON ANYTHING...LIVING OR DEAD.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

I too had thought that when I turn 30 I would go natural, During my 20's I didn't have time for my hair, I would wash and slap a Phony Pony on and go, I had my hair gelled down, then in my 30's I was like it is time for a change, I wanted to see my natural Hair because I knew it would grow to great lengths, it took me 3-4 tries in 1 year LOL!! But I am comfortable right now and I don't plan on Relaxing anytime soon, Once I get that BAA it will be all overwith lol!!! I love Big Sexy Hair!!! Added bonus my hair smells good all day long no matter what I do.

Also I hate the term Creamy Crack!

 

[sugarose]

I want to go natural, the only thing that is holding me back is shrinkage. I'm length greedy, what can I say?
Even stretching this shrinkage is killing me.
I told myself I will for sure start to transition after I reach Hip Length because then I'll be at my goal and the shrinkage shouldn't bother me too much.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

That's why it's called "creamy crack".
Everybody says I can quit whenever I want,
isn't that what all addicts say???
I'm only 5 months into my transition
and I really don't know if I can do it
but I'm gonna try my best to quit it.

'Creamy Crack' is a word that some people use as a put-down to women with relaxers. A lot of us don't prefer to use that word and/or don't endorse the use of it. It's basically saying that black women are slaves/crackheads to a relaxer. I dont too much care for the words myself, especially seeing how a particular board basically builds their self-esteem off of putting down women with relaxers with those words. It's almost like the N word of the hair world IMO.

 

[ajoyfuljoy]

that will NOT work for me. I couldn't go natural, my hair is too resistant.

Edited on April 1, 2008:

Boy has my mindset changed in the past nine months. I've stretched twice (11 and 13 weeks each time) since then and learned some more about my true texture. I have little 4a coils and they are really cute! I'm only one week post but I want to try transitioning.

I've thrown my length goals out the window and I'm focusing on healthiness and what feels right to me and feels like me.

 

[ALWAYZL8]

I'm waiting for more length before I transition. I'm already stretching to see if I can tolerate a full transition.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

'Creamy Crack' is a word that some people use as a put-down to women with relaxers. A lot of us don't prefer to use that word and/or don't endorse the use of it. It's basically saying that black women are slaves/crackheads to a relaxer. I dont too much care for the words myself, especially seeing how a particular board basically builds their self-esteem off of putting down women with relaxers with those words. It's almost like the N word of the hair world IMO.

You took the words right out of my mouth, I can't stand to read where someone puts another woman down because she chooses to Relax her hair, Hell most of then just came out of the Relaxer and now they are Sista Souljah on Hair! But that is another Topic!

 

[Country gal]

ladies, you should give it a try. At least try streching your hair to give it a break from constant relaxing. I thought it was going to be hard too and it was until I learned how to style it. I love being natural.

 

[sugarose]

You took the words right out of my mouth, I can't stand to read where someone puts another woman down because she chooses to Relax her hair, Hell most of then just came out of the Relaxer and now they are Sista Souljah on Hair! But that is another Topic!

You are so right!! Their last relaxer was 2 months ago and all of a sudden they are super militant and think everyone hates them 'cause they're natural. I don't get it.

 

[glamazon386]

'Creamy Crack' is a word that some people use as a put-down to women with relaxers. A lot of us don't prefer to use that word and/or don't endorse the use of it. It's basically saying that black women are slaves/crackheads to a relaxer. I dont too much care for the words myself, especially seeing how a particular board basically builds their self-esteem off of putting down women with relaxers with those words. It's almost like the N word of the hair world IMO.

I'm natural and I don't even like that word.

 

[PaperClip]

'Creamy Crack' is a word that some people use as a put-down to women with relaxers. A lot of us don't prefer to use that word and/or don't endorse the use of it. It's basically saying that black women are slaves/crackheads to a relaxer. I dont too much care for the words myself, especially seeing how a particular board basically builds their self-esteem off of putting down women with relaxers with those words. It's almost like the N word of the hair world IMO.

I don't care if I sound like a broken record. But I wore relaxers for 30 YEARS without any consciousness. I was a slave to it.

When does one stop being enslaved to it? When you can walk away and function without it and not feel like (mentally/emotionally) inadequate. July 26 marks my FIRST YEAR of being fully natural. Just three years ago, if someone had told me I would be here like this, I would have laughed them out the COUNTRY!

I commend those who were GIVEN the chance to have been taught that relaxing is ONE of SEVERAL styling hair options. I ADMIRE and SALUTE those who were able to put the relaxer brush down and walk away.

And let me clarify that I do not and never did put anybody down for relaxing their hair. I just advocate that every person needs an authentic experience with their natural hair. Also, I believe little girls should not be automatically programmed or conditioned (no pun intended) into relaxing. And I don't know how effective a long-time relaxed mom can be in offering a balanced presentation of that. But that's another convo....

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

Mine too, I couldn't find the proper words to use earlier and she said it better than I could. I also know if and when I go natural I will definately with a shadow of a doubt BC, because once I make up my mind it is what it is or nothing at all.

You took the words right out of my mouth, I can't stand to read where someone puts another woman down because she chooses to Relax her hair, Hell most of then just came out of the Relaxer and now they are Sista Souljah on Hair! But that is another Topic!

 

[CurleeDST]

Yes negroes are a trip.

Hi NappyParadise...I know what you're saying is true maybe when I find a job that will be more acceptable I can be natural one day. My environment doesnt accept it. I work for someone who's made it clear that if we are to go natural we better press it. I dont see the point of being natural and just wearing a press. Yes she's black too and I find that its our own people who are more critical of our hair. Which is so sad.

 

[CurleeDST]

The term creamy crack cracks me up! Pun intended. I give a nevermind to nappy nazis. Until people who are newly nappy can do it without being addicted to hairboards and really step on out there then no one can tell me anything. Heck I went natural back in 1994 when all I had was a page or 2 in a hair magazine on the subject and interviewing for jobs after graduate school (received 4 offers in corporate america btw).

 

[SignatureBeauty]

The term creamy crack cracks me up! Pun intended. I give a nevermind to nappy nazis. Until people who are newly nappy can do it without being addicted to hairboards and really step on out there then no one can tell me anything. Heck I went natural back in 1994 when all I had was a page or 2 in a hair magazine on the subject and interviewing for jobs after graduate school (received 4 offers in corporate america btw).

Go head on Girl!!!!!!!! You Did the Damn Thang!!!!

 

[jtsupanova]

I was natural for three years and loved my hair but was not I to keen on my limit of styling options. So I texturized my hair and the initial shock really freaked me out (call me over dramatic) but now I'm realy diggin my relaxed hair. I know I will be natural again some day but there's no tellin when that day will be. One of the most valuable things I learned while being natural is how to manage kinky, coily hair. It has made a tremendous difference in the way that I handle my hair now that it is relaxed. I've also noticed that I prefer my hair with a little kink to it. It has life and body. So I doubt I will be relaxing bone straight any time soon.

 

[Evazhair]

I have been natural off and on all my life. This last stint, i grew my hair to midback. I mastered my natural texture , which has given me insight on trying to master it in the relaxed state. It is very liberating to know that I can always go back natural and later on in life or sooner if necessary and I will be "good." For me, taking care of my natural hair is easier.

 

[thegirltolove]

I vote YES. I see PinkSkates and how she rocks her BSL natural hair all flowin' and bouncy and I think "If she can do it without the creamy crack, then why can't I?"

I miss my natural hair being down my back when I was a child. I want that back. I am currently 20 weeks post and I am learning to deal with my hair now. I am wondering how long I can go before I need a hit.

Honestly, I am hoping that I won't have to go back at all. Ya'll pray for me...erplexed

 

[NantanYah]

Hi NappyParadise...I know what you're saying is true maybe when I find a job that will be more acceptable I can be natural one day. My environment doesnt accept it. I work for someone who's made it clear that if we are to go natural we better press it. I dont see the point of being natural and just wearing a press. Yes she's black too and I find that its our own people who are more critical of our hair. Which is so sad.

You know you can sue her, right? I would take immediate action against her if I were you.

 

[CurleeDST]

I am surprised H.R. didn't advise the owner otherwise. That is a lawsuit waiting to happen. Many corporate policies are against hair that is an unnatural color per se not worn in its natural state. Ridiculous.

You know you can sue her, right? I would take immediate action against her if I were you.

 

[tatje]

I wish I could, but I know once I go natural, I'm going to want to relax. I'm sometimes indecisive like that. Plus I just don't want to go through a "looking a real mess" phase. It's hard for me to just stretch to 3 months, much less transition. I would just have to cut and go bald for a while.

 

[prettypuff1]

I am struggling with this question. I am pretty sure that i want to transition, but in the same breath i know that i am close to my goals being relaxed so i dont know if i want to start all over again reaching goals of SL when i am almost apl. I regret not keeping natural when i first did it in 2005. I never really did any research with it. I know i can get it relaxer straight if i want to but i think i am more concerned about reaching my goals

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I don't care if I sound like a broken record. But I wore relaxers for 30 YEARS without any consciousness. I was a slave to it.

When does one stop being enslaved to it? When you can walk away and function without it and not feel like (mentally/emotionally) inadequate. July 26 marks my FIRST YEAR of being fully natural. Just three years ago, if someone had told me I would be here like this, I would have laughed them out the COUNTRY!

I commend those who were GIVEN the chance to have been taught that relaxing is ONE of SEVERAL styling hair options. I ADMIRE and SALUTE those who were able to put the relaxer brush down and walk away.

And let me clarify that I do not and never did put anybody down for relaxing their hair. I just advocate that every person needs an authentic experience with their natural hair. Also, I believe little girls should not be automatically programmed or conditioned (no pun intended) into relaxing. And I don't know how effective a long-time relaxed mom can be in offering a balanced presentation of that. But that's another convo....

Well reserve those words for YOU. Don't use it in conjunction to other women. I use the word ni@@a but I would never call a fellow sista that, even though I call myself that sometimes when joking. I know the negative connotation to it and i know everyone isn't cool with it.

Regardless of YOUR experiences, respect that other women don't like the word. Point blank. Just because you felt like YOU were a slave to it, does not give you the right to say the same for all women.

 

[Blu217]

I almost always wear a rollerset and when I don't I'm just hiding it till the next one, so I am not into the "straight" look--I don't like to wrap my hair. I'm transitioning now absolutely against my will in hopes my thinning will subside. I dislike transitioning and am doing it only because so many people have told me to never relax again. I miss relaxing something fierce because I miss the manageability. But if my natural hair were easier to manage--no kinks, no knots, would comb easily from root to tip whenever I wanted to--I would be very happy to never relax again. That's not the case, so it's an adjustment for sure.

 

[Country gal]

Creamy crack doesn't bother me. I consider it to similar to the words coffee addict and crackberry. There are some relaxed folks don't really see it on this board that act like they can't be seen with out a freshly relaxed head. I knew someone that relaxed their hair every 4 weeks.

I have read some rantins of militant naturals. It's really not that serious. I am not going to put down other folks for choosing to style their hair with a relaxer. For me, I had decided a long time ago to stop relaxing. I didn't want to go into old age relaxing my hair for most of my life. I had started seeing naturals that were working the heck out of their hair. For now, I feel I will stay napptural for longevity.

 

[Whimsy]

Whimsy your hair is so thick and healthy!

Is that how your hair looks with the texturizer?

I'm natural and i'm thinking eventually I may want to texlex.

(looks can be deceiving! LOL)
Thanks - this is my texlaxed hair in a wash n go scrunched w/ mousse but the day after i did it.
Don't texlax! lol (kidding, do you) I'm now transitioning back to natural (savvy, i cannot make up my daggone mind!)

Let us know what you decide!!

 

[PaperClip]

Well reserve those words for YOU. Don't use it in conjunction to other women. I use the word ni@@a but I would never call a fellow sista that, even though I call myself that sometimes when joking. I know the negative connotation to it and i know everyone isn't cool with it.

Regardless of YOUR experiences, respect that other women don't like the word. Point blank. Just because you felt like YOU were a slave to it, does not give you the right to say the same for all women.

Briefly, a couple of things:

--the comparison of the n-word to "creamy crack" is weak and insulting. The n-word takes things to an entirely different level.

--I do respect that other women don't like the word and I'll even at admit that when I first started all of this, I was a bit "militant" about it (my screen name IS RelaxerRehab) and my time here at LCHF has softened that stance as I have observed how some people can handle the chemical and not allow it to overtake them, as I did.... It is a process for me!

But if I was natural for 20 YEARS or 20 MINUTES, I have the courage of MY CONVICTIONS. I'm cool with being part of this evolving movement to dispel the myths and combat the NEGATIVE CONNOTATIONS of wearing naturally textured hair. So add me right in to the SISTA SOULJIA RELAXERREHAB!!!