Why lock a fotki????

[Prettyeyes]

Iris I know it would be hard ofr you to keep up cause people were so crazy over your hair. I have a few hundred comments and I may never be able to reply to them all.

I HAVE DECIDED TO JUST TO TAKE THE VISIT AS A COMPLIMENT AND LET IT GO! I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO FEEL OBLIGATED TO COMMENT!

 

[hopeful]

Iris I know it would be hard ofr you to keep up cause people were so crazy over your hair. I have a few hundred comments and I may never be able to reply to them all.

I HAVE DECIDED TO JUST TO TAKE THE VISIT AS A COMPLIMENT AND LET IT GO! I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO FEEL OBLIGATED TO COMMENT!

Please do, your hair is beautiful.

 

[Irresistible]

Please do, your hair is beautiful.

yes it truly is ms beautiful eyes!

 

[FlowerHair]

I never thought it was necessary for me. But I updated today and received tons of visits from this forum and my other forum but I got very little feedback. This has never happenend to me before.

I don't really know how I feel about it. I'm happy that so many checked out my progress and I know that people are busy BUT for so many to not leave a comment is kind of strange.

Should I take it as people being unfriendly or just be glad by all the visits. IDK, I don't always leave a comment when I'm stalking but when someone updates I try to comment.

IS THIS WHY SOME LOCK THEIR FOTKI????????AND JUST SHARE WITH HAIR FRIENDS??????

This is not the reason why some of my albums are locked. I just want to decide who to share pics with... Especially pics of my face.
Some members have received very weird/negative pm's or comments, or even had their pictures copied and used at other sites erplexed under someone else's name.

You can always turn off the comment alternative so you don't have to worry about it. I know I'm guilty of never leaving a comment and I've looked at so many fotkis over the years Sorry!

 

[discodumpling]

My fotki is made for ME to track MY progress. If others care to see the pswd is available through several methods. Sometimes people visit by accident sometimes my pics are not worthy of commentary

 

[imani97]

I checked out your fotki earlier today. I almost commented that your hair from the back looked similiar to DLewis, but I didn't, idk why. I was also a bit overwhelmed by your fotki because there were so many pics and i couldn't figure out which were the new pics you referred to in your post. Also, I tend to leave messages when people claim a length, recently bc'd or are sharing that they overcame a hurdle, etc.

Yeah, I would be inclined to comment for those reasons as well. I can understand how receiving comments can serve as encouragement, but if there really is nothing new to note I don't expect to receive many comments. Besides, my hair isn't down my back, so I don't expect to get the volume and comments of people with more "interesting" hair.

 

[Pheonixx]

I never leave comments and I look at Fotkis all the time.
>>>shrugs<<<
Never felt obligated because I never knew it was an obligation.
It's just really not even that serious to me...

I don't visit random fotkis. I have about 10-15 in my bookmarks. But when I do go to a new one it's usually because I saw a sig pic and I really liked the hair. So I look to see how the individual cares for her hair, type of products they use, hairstyles, etc...
Also I wouldn't bounce out of a Fotki page because someone's hair isn't 'worthy of mention'. I've hardly ever been in a fotki where a woman's head look like pure ****, know what I mean. That's a little harsh.
I know when I sometimes see a pic in a sig I'll pop in and bounce out because the hair is not what I thought it'd be, i.e., the texture/style/etc.... Meaning it bears no resemblance to my own hair. I usually leave because of hair texture.
I don't have 3a, 3b, 4b or 4c,type hair.
But that doesn't mean the hair doesn't look nice. I'll admire the pics but there's no point in me sticking around.

Leaving comments..?
>>>shrugs<<<
LOL
1. Uhhh.....I'd assumed I needed an account for that. I don't use Fotki so why I'ma set up an account? For what...just to leave some comments? Why--when all I want to do is look at hair pics?
2. Usually I have several tabs open at once looking at different things. Don't always want to take the time to be typing notes.
3. Half the time ppl are leaving comments already. Everyone else pretty much sums up what I think:

• Your hair is gawgeous...
  
• I love your texture.
• Beautiful texture
• I'd kill for your length
• I wish I had your volume
• You got some thick hair
  
• You hair is beautiful

.....and how many times--different ways-- or different ppl does it take to express the same basic thoughts? What else is there to say?
4. 'Rudeness' swings both ways. Sometimes you got ppl asking questions and the Fotki owner don't even holla back... Now THAT can be seen as rude too. I don't consider it rude. It's whatever. I mean hell--ppl got thangs to do. Maybe the owner is too busy to get back with them. >>>shrugs<<<
5. How can ppl be considered rude for not following some madeup unofficial guidlines when they're not even aware of these 'Fotki Etiquette Rules' in the first place...?
6. Honestly, I thought ppl put together Fotki albums for THEMSELVES? That's the only reason I'd put one together. I would assume that visitors were coming for inspiration, hair ideas, styling ideas, etc.... Or because they really like my hair. Good enough for me. I'd be happy if they left comments but I'd be morseo flattered that they were coming.

 

[productjunkie814]

I probably have really bad fotki ettiquette anyways, but I really don't leave comments too often. I did in the beginning, but now I look at entirely too many albums and I'm sure most people already know that they are working with a beautiful head of hair. Usually most of the previously posted comments have already summed up what I would have typed anyhow.

And it doesn't bother me if people don't leave comments for me. I guess I just use fotki to track my progress. As long as I see my progress, I'm fine, but I understand that comments are nice once in a while.

ITA with this post. Also, I lock my Fotki b/c I caught some nasty people looking around...I quashed that immediately

 

[freshlikemoi]

Sometimes, I go to fotki's to admire. Perhaps, I should leave more comments. ---Because, I too, like to see them so I should do it to others.

 

[plastic]

And sometimes people could honestly just not be impressed enough to comment. I mean no one would leave a comment saying "well, your hair really isn't all that" LOL. (not meaning you, just generally speaking)

what i was going to say

 

[RegaLady]

I have browsed fotkis, some I leave comments some I don't. It depends on how I am feeling at the moment. Sometimes I am tooooo tired to leave anyone anything, no matter how beautiful a person's hair is. I just don't feel like writing. It's like when you are on the board in lurking mode, and someone has had great progress, or someone BCd. It is NEVER personal, at least, to me. I do tend to respond more anyway, to people who I can identify with, like they went from ER to SL and beyond, or they have my hair texture and they made it work. But, alot of times when I am browsing, I am saying to myself, "Wow, her hair looks great!" I had no idea we had to comment on everyone's fotki!

 

[BostonMaria]

I definitely don't comment on every Fotki. Sometimes I just like to browse from person to person and enjoy the pictures and read the progress. I just think it would be strange or hypocritical to post on absolutely everyone's page if I don't necessarily think their hair is fabulous or they did anything special. I will usually just sign the guestbook, especially if they did the BC or transitioned or some kind of milestone. I especially do not go to a Fotki if they leave me a comment asking me to see their page, its kinda annoying and immature. I dunno.

Don't take it personal. Its just Fotki. I understand if you do leave comments for everyone you want the same back, but you can't force people to do that.

 

[Ms Lala]

I visit fotki's and don't leave comments. Sometimes I don't really feel like it or I am just checking out a pic of something that someone posted about on here. It doesn't bother me when people don't leave comments on mine. I locked my albums so avoid wierdos viewing my albums and I don't need random people knowing I post pics of my hair on the web, my face is in my pics.

 

[Eisani]

I never leave comments and I look at Fotkis all the time.
>>>shrugs<<<
Never felt obligated because I never knew it was an obligation.
It's just really not even that serious to me...

I don't visit random fotkis. I have about 10-15 in my bookmarks. But when I do go to a new one it's usually because I saw a sig pic and I really liked the hair. So I look to see how the individual cares for her hair, type of products they use, hairstyles, etc...
Also I wouldn't bounce out of a Fotki page because someone's hair isn't 'worthy of mention'. I've hardly ever been in a fotki where a woman's head look like pure ****, know what I mean. That's a little harsh.
I know when I sometimes see a pic in a sig I'll pop in and bounce out because the hair is not what I thought it'd be, i.e., the texture/style/etc.... Meaning it bears no resemblance to my own hair. I usually leave because of hair texture.
I don't have 3a, 3b, 4b or 4c,type hair.
But that doesn't mean the hair doesn't look nice. I'll admire the pics but there's no point in me sticking around.

Leaving comments..?
>>>shrugs<<<
LOL
1. Uhhh.....I'd assumed I needed an account for that. I don't use Fotki so why I'ma set up an account? For what...just to leave some comments? Why--when all I want to do is look at hair pics?
2. Usually I have several tabs open at once looking at different things. Don't always want to take the time to be typing notes.
3. Half the time ppl are leaving comments already. Everyone else pretty much sums up what I think:

• Your hair is gawgeous...
• I love your texture.
• Beautiful texture
• I'd kill for your length
• I wish I had your volume
• You got some thick hair
• You hair is beautiful

.....and how many times--different ways-- or different ppl does it take to express the same basic thoughts? What else is there to say?
4. 'Rudeness' swings both ways. Sometimes you got ppl asking questions and the Fotki owner don't even holla back... Now THAT can be seen as rude too. I don't consider it rude. It's whatever. I mean hell--ppl got thangs to do. Maybe the owner is too busy to get back with them. >>>shrugs<<<
5. How can ppl be considered rude for not following some madeup unofficial guidlines when they're not even aware of these 'Fotki Etiquette Rules' in the first place...?
6. Honestly, I thought ppl put together Fotki albums for THEMSELVES? That's the only reason I'd put one together. I would assume that visitors were coming for inspiration, hair ideas, styling ideas, etc.... Or because they really like my hair. Good enough for me. I'd be happy if they left comments but I'd be morseo flattered that they were coming.

Agree w/the bolded. I visit all the time but don't always comment, and I'm not bothered by those who visit mine and don't comment. I don't consider it rude, nor do I need validation of my accomplishments/progress. It's just like looking at any other photo album IRL...you flip thru the pics, comment on certain ones and K.I.M. You don't have to say something if you don't want to, it doesn't mean you don't like what you see. I take visits, especially repeated ones, as a compliment. Now if you're stopping by frequently, you should at least give a heads-up. Prettyeyes, I looked at your album the other day and saw your lovely pics, but didn't leave comments because I was cooking @ the same time. I'm glad you've decided to just take the visits as a compliment and not worry so much about the comments.

Slightly OT, but does it seem like people look for validation quite a bit around here? Not speaking of th OP, but I notice a lot of times ppl will post pics of their hair sayin "looky such n such" and if no one comments, they bump it. WTF?! Or is just me that feels the WTF bug when I see this? Don't get me wrong, I love to support, but I don't coddle. Maybe it's just my moody self...

 

[prospurr4]

For a long time, I didn't even have a fotki because the Internet is so public, and I'm such a private person. I visit lots of fotkis...sometimes I leave comments, sometimes I don't. I've never considered it to be rude when I didn't. When people visit my fotki and don't leave a comment, it doesn't bother me; in fact, I may not even notice that no comment was left. My main reason for coming out of my "privateness" and establishing a fotki is because I was seeing a lot of women, with my hair type (4b), struggling to make progress with their hair. God has blessed me with some progress, and I hope to inspire others.

You have lovely hair (and pretty eyes), and I certainly wouldn't take "no comments" as a negative.

Now that I have a fotki, I lock it because it makes me feel comfortable.

 

[Neith]

Agree w/the bolded. I visit all the time but don't always comment, and I'm not bothered by those who visit mine and don't comment. I don't consider it rude, nor do I need validation of my accomplishments/progress. It's just like looking at any other photo album IRL...you flip thru the pics, comment on certain ones and K.I.M. You don't have to say something if you don't want to, it doesn't mean you don't like what you see. I take visits, especially repeated ones, as a compliment. Now if you're stopping by frequently, you should at least give a heads-up. Prettyeyes, I looked at your album the other day and saw your lovely pics, but didn't leave comments because I was cooking @ the same time. I'm glad you've decided to just take the visits as a compliment and not worry so much about the comments.

Slightly OT, but does it seem like people look for validation quite a bit around here? Not speaking of th OP, but I notice a lot of times ppl will post pics of their hair sayin "looky such n such" and if no one comments, they bump it. WTF?! Or is just me that feels the WTF bug when I see this? Don't get me wrong, I love to support, but I don't coddle. Maybe it's just my moody self...

I know! I can understand if someone is excited because they hit a goal, or found a new product or new technique or even have a really good hair day... but sometimes it does cross over to attention seeking behavior!

I opened my fotki mostly out of boredom but it really has helped ME.

I feel better about my hair now. I would feel that my hair is thin and not that healthy looking... now I know it's neither. It's healthy, thick and when it gets longer it's going to be even more impressive. It helps to see your hair the way other people see it

 

[blkbeauty]

Well I hope I don’t sound too harsh. I’ve been in this forum since 2004 and learned the entire concept of Fotki albums. I am probably considered “the lurker” and that is because in the last couple of year I would post comments and or ask questions and did not receive much feedback. When I post here on LHCF most times I do not get feedback. Not to pull anyone in my pool of water, but I notice some members will create a post, do several bumps and still do not get any feedback.

On the contrary, some members will post (imo post that are irrelevant) but get pages after pages of replies.

I feel that this forum is somewhat biased and there are many cliques. It wasn’t always this way and I do miss many of the old members as they had adventured to other sites

Neverthelesss it is great that women can come to a place and share friendship, but for those who are not apart of these “cliques” are sometime left out on the point of why we are here - to ask and receive answers on better hair care and practices. Because of this of this rejection, I just mainly read or do searches to find my answers. I try not to post here or on Fotki unless necessary! To the OP, perhaps this is the same reason why some just view and do not post comments.

Sorry if I offended anyone!

 

[SUZIEq]

I agree with the bolded it is evident. Your post probably offers another prospective to the questions asked by the OP.

Well I hope I don’t sound too harsh. I’ve been in this forum since 2004 and learned the entire concept of Fotki albums. I am probably considered “the lurker” and that is because in the last couple of year I would post comments and or ask questions and did not receive much feedback. When I post here on LHCF most times I do not get feedback. Not to pull anyone in my pool of water, but I notice some members will create a post, do several bumps and still do not get any feedback.

On the contrary, some members will post (imo post that are irrelevant) but get pages after pages of replies.

I feel that this forum is somewhat biased and there are many cliques. It wasn’t always this way and I do miss many of the old members as they had adventured to other sites

Neverthelesss it is great that women can come to a place and share friendship, but for those who are not apart of these “cliques” are sometime left out on the point of why we are here - to ask and receive answers on better hair care and practices. Because of this of this rejection, I just mainly read or do searches to find my answers. I try not to post here or on Fotki unless necessary! To the OP, perhaps this is the same reason why some just view and do not post comments.

Sorry if I offended anyone!

 

[Neith]

I dunno... Maybe it's a case of me not paying close attention (it usually is )

I don't notice any cliques.

Some members are more popular than others because their hair is just so long and drop dead gorgeous... some members are very helpful (post vids and tutorials, product reviews... etc.) and they are more popular.

I don't think anyone is intentionally leaving people out. All of my threads get answered and I don't bump them up... sometimes they take a long time to get answered, but they almost always do get answered.

 

[Christa438]

I have a fotki but I use it the same way I use myspace or other sites I may have joined (I check LHCF way more than I even check my own email ), Sometimes I check them and a lot of times I dont. I do love browsing fotkis looking at pictures, progress, updates, products, helpful techniques....dont have all the time/ or dont always feel like commenting on everything though... I stay on LHCF more than anything because I love it that much so most of my comments will be right here in these threads than in fotki.

 

[plastic]

Agree w/the bolded. I visit all the time but don't always comment, and I'm not bothered by those who visit mine and don't comment. I don't consider it rude, nor do I need validation of my accomplishments/progress. It's just like looking at any other photo album IRL...you flip thru the pics, comment on certain ones and K.I.M. You don't have to say something if you don't want to, it doesn't mean you don't like what you see. I take visits, especially repeated ones, as a compliment. Now if you're stopping by frequently, you should at least give a heads-up. Prettyeyes, I looked at your album the other day and saw your lovely pics, but didn't leave comments because I was cooking @ the same time. I'm glad you've decided to just take the visits as a compliment and not worry so much about the comments.

Slightly OT, but does it seem like people look for validation quite a bit around here? Not speaking of th OP, but I notice a lot of times ppl will post pics of their hair sayin "looky such n such" and if no one comments, they bump it. WTF?! Or is just me that feels the WTF bug when I see this? Don't get me wrong, I love to support, but I don't coddle. Maybe it's just my moody self...

IMO people post pics so they can get feedback on it , i guess they have every right to bump it up to get comments .. but if they bump at 5:52 , 6:00, 6:05 and 6:10 then yeh .. i would be like WTF too... If i post pics and noone comments then im like *** you and I take them down.. i dont do the bumping thing

 

[blkbeauty]

I dunno... Maybe it's a case of me not paying close attention (it usually is )

I don't notice any cliques.

Some members are more popular than others because their hair is just so long and drop dead gorgeous... some members are very helpful (post vids and tutorials, product reviews... etc.) and they are more popular.

I don't think anyone is intentionally leaving people out. All of my threads get answered and I don't bump them up... sometimes they take a long time to get answered, but they almost always do get answered.

Some members are popular because of their hair, THAT is the reason I am here. Infact, the ones with long gorgeous hair are the ones who usually respond to those who ask questions in aid of better hair care. But what I am talking about is something totally different and it has nothing to do with hair.

I've notice that the ones who are popular are popular not because of their hair (some do not even show their hair), but because of their personalities, whether it is comical, interesting, cynical or witty! These are the one who will post an irelevant post or something that has previously been mentioned and receive 100 page posts and then some members who others are unfamilar with, you will get the response from others to do a search to find the answer to their questions. This approach to me is very rejecting.

I do not understand this attitude as I try to give my feedback if I know the answer whether the poster is Jane Doe or Amy Doe and whether they are funny, new or etc. I try to share my light if I can.

 

[Eisani]

IMO people post pics so they can get feedback on it , i guess they have every right to bump it up to get comments .. but if they bump at 5:52 , 6:00, 6:05 and 6:10 then yeh .. i would be like WTF too... If i post pics and noone comments then im like *** you and I take them down.. i dont do the bumping thing

That's what I'm talking about.

 

[sprungonhairboards]

Agree w/the bolded. I visit all the time but don't always comment, and I'm not bothered by those who visit mine and don't comment. I don't consider it rude, nor do I need validation of my accomplishments/progress. It's just like looking at any other photo album IRL...you flip thru the pics, comment on certain ones and K.I.M. You don't have to say something if you don't want to, it doesn't mean you don't like what you see. I take visits, especially repeated ones, as a compliment. Now if you're stopping by frequently, you should at least give a heads-up. Prettyeyes, I looked at your album the other day and saw your lovely pics, but didn't leave comments because I was cooking @ the same time. I'm glad you've decided to just take the visits as a compliment and not worry so much about the comments.

Slightly OT, but does it seem like people look for validation quite a bit around here? Not speaking of th OP, but I notice a lot of times ppl will post pics of their hair sayin "looky such n such" and if no one comments, they bump it. WTF?! Or is just me that feels the WTF bug when I see this? Don't get me wrong, I love to support, but I don't coddle. Maybe it's just my moody self...

Well it's my moody self too then

I think I've left a comment on a fotki once or twice EVER. I dont make small talk in person or say stuff just to say it. For me to comment I'd have to really be impressed or blown away. Not many people's hair inspires me enough to comment I didn't know it was expected.

When I finally do open my fotki I'm not having comments enabled at all. I don't want to deal with the negative comments and BS people say happens and I dont need validation, kudos, co-signers or really care what strangers think about my hair good or bad. If I need advice I'll search the forum. I'm the same way with this forum in general. I'm not here for comraderie or to make friends or to join the ever growing number of cliques. I think people have different motivations and expectations so what's rude to one is nothing to another.

 

[MizaniLocs]

I only comment to people who comment back. I will not comment on your fotki if you have 50-11 people asking you questions, in which you haven't responded to.

I've commented or asked questions to some people and they'll never write back. But let somebody say something negative on their fotki, they'll write back in a new york second.

 

[aloof one]

I think we live in a society of fake sincerity, where people are caught up in the idea that you should say something nice to people just to be saying something nice. So we expect others to do the same. It's kind of selfish to expect people to compliment you for the sake of complimenting, especially since the alternative is that they could straight up diss you, or worse, be lying when they compliment you (and really not mean it at all). I understand the whole "karma" idea, in the sense that if you are commenting that others should do the same... but not everyone thinks the same thing you know?

ETA: Lemme put it this way: I would rather someone not say anything than lie to me.
I would also rather someone KIM if they have to sit down and think up a way to compliment me (because it wouldn't be sincere)
If its anything other than a sincere compliment, I don't want it.

 

[Neith]

I think we live in a society of fake sincerity, where people are caught up in the idea that you should say something nice to people just to be saying something nice. So we expect others to do the same. It's kind of selfish to expect people to compliment you for the sake of complimenting, especially since the alternative is that they could straight up diss you, or worse, be lying when they compliment you (and really not mean it at all). I understand the whole "karma" idea, in the sense that if you are commenting that others should do the same... but not everyone thinks the same thing you know?

I land somewhere in between you and the OP.

I don't believe in being fake and insincere, but I also do/say things to be nice. If we all did/said everything without thinking about how it affects others the world would be 10 times more screwed up than it already is Sometimes it's just nice to be nice... but it shouldn't be totally fake.

However, I can't understand it really being that serious about having comments in a fotki or expecting people to comment a lot... but I can understand wondering why there are so little comments when there have been many before.

 

[SEMO]

Well I hope I don’t sound too harsh. I’ve been in this forum since 2004 and learned the entire concept of Fotki albums. I am probably considered “the lurker” and that is because in the last couple of year I would post comments and or ask questions and did not receive much feedback. When I post here on LHCF most times I do not get feedback. Not to pull anyone in my pool of water, but I notice some members will create a post, do several bumps and still do not get any feedback.

On the contrary, some members will post (imo post that are irrelevant) but get pages after pages of replies.

I feel that this forum is somewhat biased and there are many cliques. It wasn’t always this way and I do miss many of the old members as they had adventured to other sites

Neverthelesss it is great that women can come to a place and share friendship, but for those who are not apart of these “cliques” are sometime left out on the point of why we are here - to ask and receive answers on better hair care and practices. Because of this of this rejection, I just mainly read or do searches to find my answers. I try not to post here or on Fotki unless necessary! To the OP, perhaps this is the same reason why some just view and do not post comments.

Sorry if I offended anyone!

Aww boo, I'm sure it's not on purpose. Some members just have very memorable screen names, siggies or avatars. Or they are opinionated and stick out in people's minds.

I'm not apart of any clique, but there are members who I recognize by name and so when I see them post I usually pop on in. But I also make it a habit to post responses in threads that don't seem to be getting much attention.

 

[blkbeauty]

Aww boo, I'm sure it's not on purpose. Some members just have very memorable screen names, siggies or avatars. Or they are opinionated and stick out in people's minds.

I'm not apart of any clique, but there are members who I recognize by name and so when I see them post I usually pop on in. But I also make it a habit to post responses in threads that don't seem to be getting much attention.

Thanks for your understanding. I do not take it seriously though, but I have noticed this change in the last couple of yrs on the forum.

 

[SEMO]

Thanks for your understanding. I do not take it seriously though, but I have noticed this change in the last couple of yrs on the forum.

I mostly hang in Off Topic or some of the other forums so I don't know how it goes down on the haircare forum nowadays.

But one thing I have noticed is that timing is very important if you want a lot of responses. You are much more likely to get a response to your thread if you post at 10am during the week, than if you posted at 1:30am. And many times people only read the first 2 maybe 3 pages of topics, so if your thread gets bumped down past that then the odds for getting a response go way down.