Ayeshia said:i can relate...I get the "why dont you straighten your hair?" comments all the time. I just brush it off.
glossyxlipz said:This comment bothered me.
Yesterday I went to a family party and saw my friend I havent seen in a few months. One of the first things she mentioned when she saw me was how soft and long my hair was now. I thanked her but then she went on and said "Why dont you do anything with your hair? If I had your hair I would be looking fly and doing all sort of things with it..." I was alittle insulted but I didnt want to show it so I just gave a half smile and changed the subject.
I mean it is true, I am not to skilled at styling my hair. Whenever I try, it never last through the day. I was thinking about getting bangs. But anyway why MUST I style my hair? Why cant it just grow and be a covering for my head like it was intended. I dont want to make my hair a piece of art or anything. I think this bothers me because she is not the first person who has said this to me. What gives?
Ok now I feel better I typed this out.
Anyone else feel their hairstyles are not as FLYYY as it could be?
Mook's hair said:My next question would have been..."hmmm, like what? What would you do with this hair?" Just to get the clear picture from her. And then her answer probably would have made me mad and I'd have told her some things.
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I was about to ask her that but I stopped because ( she is my friend and I am wrong for this) she got very short with her hair breaking and I wasnt too interested in what style she had in mind. Imma give her a bottle of emergencee though when I see her this week.
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I really wont be doing anything to my hair soon because I am on a hair challege and I am trying to grow it to waist length. But you know I do get tempted when I see all the lovely styles you guys got. So much so I feel like a plane jane!!
glossyxlipz said:Mook's hair said:My next question would have been..."hmmm, like what? What would you do with this hair?" Just to get the clear picture from her. And then her answer probably would have made me mad and I'd have told her some things.
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I was about to ask her that but I stopped because ( she is my friend and I am wrong for this) she got very short with her hair breaking and I wasnt too interested in what style she had in mind. Imma give her a bottle of emergencee though when I see her this week.
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I really wont be doing anything to my hair soon because I am on a hair challege and I am trying to grow it to waist length. But you know I do get tempted when I see all the lovely styles you guys got. So much so I feel like a plane jane!!
Your hair is fantastically beautiful. I love your siggy pic. I don't see how you can ever feel plane with that head of beautiful hair. Girl, you are blessed!! And it looks thick and full too!! Girl, don't sweat it. I really think we (as blk women) have been conditioned to think that hair is not "styled" if it isn't full of curls or something.
Ms Lala said:I don't mean to make this a race issue but I notice that alot of black women have this mindset in particular of needing to have the hair "styled" all the time. I remember in highschool alot of the girls wore all of these complex styles and cuts but then always wondered why they didn't have hair. I think overstyling is one reason why alot of women I know don't have hair. Many of the styles they wore seemed damaging in the long run and my mother was a cosmetologist and wouldn't dare let me get those kind of styles. I noticed when I went to college that alot of the young ladies who were white and hispanic wore their hair hanging and up in a ponytail or bun and that was about it. .
HoneyDew said:I have had people tell me that. Actually the very things they think I should "do" would possible damage my hair.
Like everyone says don't even let it bother you. I just say "Thanks, but I'm happy with my hair and they way I chose to wear it".
glossyxlipz said:I was about to ask her that but I stopped because ( she is my friend and I am wrong for this) she got very short with her hair breaking and I wasnt too interested in what style she had in mind. Imma give her a bottle of emergencee though when I see her this week.
MizAvalon said:HA, I KNEW IT!!! People that make that "why don't you do something with your hair" comment almost always have SHORT(and usually undesirable) hair. It boggles my mind that they never put it together that the reason that their hair doesn't look like yours is because of all that crap they do to it.
Do something to my hair? So it can look like yours? No thanks, boo. I'm gonna let you have the market on short, hard looking, ugly hair. Come and see how long my "boring" hair has gotten in a few years while yours still looks the same.
Pure. Comedy.
MizAvalon said:HA, I KNEW IT!!! People that make that "why don't you do something with your hair" comment almost always have SHORT(and usually undesirable) hair. It boggles my mind that they never put it together that the reason that their hair doesn't look like yours is because of all that crap they do to it.
Do something to my hair? So it can look like yours? No thanks, boo. I'm gonna let you have the market on short, hard looking, ugly hair. Come and see how long my "boring" hair has gotten in a few years while yours still looks the same.
Pure. Comedy.
Ms Lala said:Girl don't pay them any mind. I don't mean to make this a race issue but I notice that alot of black women have this mindset in particular of needing to have the hair "styled" all the time. I remember in highschool alot of the girls wore all of these complex styles and cuts but then always wondered why they didn't have hair. I think overstyling is one reason why alot of women I know don't have hair. Many of the styles they wore seemed damaging in the long run and my mother was a cosmetologist and wouldn't dare let me get those kind of styles. I noticed when I went to college that alot of the young ladies who were white and hispanic wore their hair hanging and up in a ponytail or bun and that was about it. Sometimes my white roomate would get her hair done and I honestly couldn't tell unless she actually cut it. THere wasn't this need for so much styling unless it was a special occasion. I wonder why this is.
Ms Lala said:Girl don't pay them any mind. I don't mean to make this a race issue but I notice that alot of black women have this mindset in particular of needing to have the hair "styled" all the time. I remember in highschool alot of the girls wore all of these complex styles and cuts but then always wondered why they didn't have hair. I think overstyling is one reason why alot of women I know don't have hair. Many of the styles they wore seemed damaging in the long run and my mother was a cosmetologist and wouldn't dare let me get those kind of styles. I noticed when I went to college that alot of the young ladies who were white and hispanic wore their hair hanging and up in a ponytail or bun and that was about it. Sometimes my white roomate would get her hair done and I honestly couldn't tell unless she actually cut it. THere wasn't this need for so much styling unless it was a special occasion. I wonder why this is.
KiniKakes said:My sister gets on me sometimes, because she says that all i ever do is wear it down, straight, in a plain wrap style. She is just teasing me, but in a way also lives vicariously thru me, because she wears her hair in beautiful, natural locs. She would like to see me wear more curls, updo's, etc.... just some variety in general.
But heck, im like you! Im a simple girl. My regular style (down) is just fine with me. Since i bun so often anyway, it feels "special" to me. Truthfully, im just not creative, and im kinda lazy........... Plus, im not a fan of braidouts on me, and curls make my hair look short. Im really fine with wearing it straight.... the most i might do to change it up is throw in a clip on both sides.... or change the part (middle or side). After that, ive used up all my creative energy.
Sequoia said:Hi all,
ITA with most of you- i also get the same question because my hair is almost always in a ponytail. when i feel adventurous, i switch my side pattern; anything else seems like a major feat- i'm scared of hair tongs/ straighteners and my attempts at rollersetting are so pitiful, you'd think i had no thumbs.
Pre-lhcf (i'm one of the long time lurkers that finally became official ), it bothered me quite a bit but looking back, i've been protective styling w/o knowing it.
It's also funny that i mostly get suggestions to cut off the hair that i've been trying to grow for so long. Forget that.
You have gorgeous hair by the way- you all do.
Not to hijack this thread, but thank you!klb120475 said:Welcome!!!!!