dream13
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My MIL is toxic, manipulative, narcissistic, and a liar. She has caused many problems in my marriage, and in my husband’s life in general. He has threatened to to cut her off many times over the years, but she just plays the victim, and then badmouths him to anyone that will listen. This includes his ex (mom to his kids) and her family, out of state friends, other family members, and even on social media. They won’t speak for a few months at a time, and then he’ll slowly let her back in...until she does something else.
Generally DH and I agree on most things, but as the holidays are fast approaching, we aren’t seeing eye to eye on how to deal with her.
We just bought a new home, and I want to host Christmas dinner this year. But he wants to invite her, and I don’t want her in my home. I like my peace and I need my boundaries to be respected. My MIL has acted out at EVERY event we have invited her to. And I don’t want her or her bad energy ruining the holidays for everyone else. My husband says that if his family is not invited, he doesn’t want to host at all.
Who is being unreasonable here?
Generally DH and I agree on most things, but as the holidays are fast approaching, we aren’t seeing eye to eye on how to deal with her.
We just bought a new home, and I want to host Christmas dinner this year. But he wants to invite her, and I don’t want her in my home. I like my peace and I need my boundaries to be respected. My MIL has acted out at EVERY event we have invited her to. And I don’t want her or her bad energy ruining the holidays for everyone else. My husband says that if his family is not invited, he doesn’t want to host at all.
Who is being unreasonable here?