Who Doesn't Believe In Divorce?

[pookaloo83]

My cousin doesn't. That's craziness! I said girl people change. What if he switch it up on you? Would you want to stay with someone like that? She tombout, "Well that's what I believe. Whoever I'm gon be with it's for life."

There are some things you just can't work through. Point.blank. *sigh*

 

[MissMasala5]

And there are some who don't believe in marriage. Well, not legal ones, anyway. Dang, I wished I'd caught that thread before the clamp

 

[Mortons]

I can certainly appreciate her attitude about marriage.

 

[yardyspice]

As a child of divorce, I don't believe in it unless there's cheating, abuse, or the person is on drugs or crazy. Otherwise, deal with it.

 

[Kirei]

I don't believe in it.

Yes, there are time when it is absolutely needed. I'm not about to be slapped up sleeping with some druggy....

 

[chellero]

I am fine with divorce before children. After children the situation needs to be incredibly serious and beyond repair before you divorce.

 

[daydreem2876]

I need to know what he switched up... Is he gay? Did he change Gods? Is his behavior jeopardizing my well being and that of my children? Then yes... otherwise

 

[Tamster]

Meh. I believe in divorce. Stuff changes. It is serious with or without children. With children, if the parents are unhappy (kids can sense that) I'd rather they just keep it civil, divorce, and live. the kids will be happier that way.

 

[pookaloo83]

I can certainly appreciate her attitude about marriage.

I know! But she is very naive. Not everything is rosy, and happy honky dory. She's only had 1 boyfriend briefly for a few months. Never had one since then. Doesn't even date. She's 30 yrs old.

I need to know what he switched up... Is he gay? Did he change Gods? Is his behavior jeopardizing my well being and that of my children? Then yes... otherwise

People's behavior changes. Say he doesn't love you anymore. You can't force that on someone. You just can't.

 

[Jynlnd13]

I would only divorce someone if my life/family were in danger. Whether it means you tried to hurt me or you are sleeping with drug addicts/doing drugs, those are only the reasons I would divorce. I don't believe in it, but in some cases it is needed. I'm the kind who wants to be married to one person for life.

I think Colleen (sp) Rooney gets so much flack for staying with Wayne, but even though I despise cheating, I believe she did the right thing for her child by staying with wayne. He seemed pretty remorseful about the situation. Of course he will be paying for his actions for life. Im sure Colleen didn't want to give up her lifestyle either.

 

[pookaloo83]

I would only divorce someone if my life/family were in danger. Whether it means you tried to hurt me or you are sleeping with drug addicts/doing drugs, those are only the reasons I would divorce. I don't believe in it, but in some cases it is needed. I'm the kind who wants to be married to one person for life.

I think Colleen (sp) Rooney gets so much flack for staying with Wayne, but even though I despise cheating, I believe she did the right thing for her child by staying with wayne. He seemed pretty remorseful about the situation. Of course he will be paying for his actions for life. Im sure Colleen didn't want to give up her lifestyle either.

Jynlnd13 So you would lay up with a man that said he didn't want to be with you anymore? It's ok if he cheats as long as it wasn't with a drug addict?

Uh-uh. I ain't hot up for no man like that.

 

[moda]

I don't believe in it. It's cheaper to keep her (me)

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

I don't believe in divorce for me and I'd prefer to marry someone who feels the same way. If you go into a marriage thinking about divorce as an out, you're more likely to actually divorce. Barring abuse, infidelity or a significant lie, things can be worked out.

 

[Optimus_Prime]

I believe couples should approach their marriages as though divorce were not an option.

In "love matches" (not arranged and enforced by outside parties), I think divorce shouldn't be an option.

In arranged marriages where the couple didn't choose one another, per se, yes.

I think all couples should give it like 3+ years before they bring children into their relationship. In case things go sour, children don't deserve to be brought up in chaos.

 

[MizAvalon]

Unless there is cheating, abuse, or drug use then I don't believe in divorce. My SO doesn't either and we both come from nuclear families where divorce wasn't an option.

We have already decided that when we get married, that's it until death. We were just talking about this last night, how modern couples run at the first sign of trouble and just making it to 10 years is a big deal in this day and age.

 

[Jynlnd13]

Jynlnd13 So you would lay up with a man that said he didn't want to be with you anymore? It's ok if he cheats as long as it wasn't with a drug addict?

Uh-uh. I ain't hot up for no man like that.

No, for me it would depend on the situation. If kids were involved I would want to look at divorce as the last possible resort,but if I were being abused, or he were sleeping with the world. Then a divorce would follow. However, if he made a mistake and cheated once with someone who is not a prostitute, and we had kids I would have to think about it long and hard.
If no kids were involved, and he cheated then I would divorce him. Having a father in my kids life is just so important, that I could work through it , if it were a one time thing. Granted we would attend counseling and we would regularly test for STDs. I really can't give you a definite answer, because I'm not in the situation. This is what I think I would do.

 

[FoxxyLocs]

It's not about being hard up for a man. Assuming you didn't marry a crazy person, there is so much responsiblity that goes along with being married. Once you have children, you really owe it to them to do whatever you can keep your family together. That should go for both parties. If the husband is out sleeping around and isn't tring to stop, no I don't expect the wife to just sit at home and put up with it. That's an extreme case though. Stuff like not loving each other anymore or being tired of each other is not a good enough reason for divorce, IMO.

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[Poohbear]

My cousin doesn't. That's craziness! I said girl people change. What if he switch it up on you? Would you want to stay with someone like that? She tombout, "Well that's what I believe. Whoever I'm gon be with it's for life."

There are some things you just can't work through. Point.blank. *sigh*

I don't believe in divorce. Why do you think "that's craziness" that your cousin doesn't believe in it? If you can't work through something with someone or if there is something you just absolutely cannot tolerate period, don't get married to the person to begin with.

 

[pookaloo83]

I don't believe in divorce. Why do you think "that's craziness" that your cousin doesn't believe in it? If you can't work through something with someone or if there is something you just absolutely cannot tolerate period, don't get married to the person to begin with.

But that's the thing. People change. That's all I'm saying. Not in all cases, but I was just telling her don't get your hopes up. She's a very emotional person and she gets her feelings hurt easily.

 

[CenteredGirl]

Me. I don't beleive it for myself and the kind of relationship I have with MY husband. We've been through some ish, but nothing worth getting divorced over. Some folks in our shoes would have parted long ago. We've just always been able to work it out.

 

[Poohbear]

But that's the thing. People change. That's all I'm saying. Not in all cases, but I was just telling her don't get your hopes up. She's a very emotional person and she gets her feelings hurt easily.

Not really. People are who they are. Most of the time in a relationship, a woman ignores how the man really is and then starts hoping that he changes into the man she wants him to be over time which usually doesn't happen.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

How can one not believe in divorce? It's not like Santa Claus. Divorce exists. It's a reality.

Nonetheless, I hope most people do approach marriage as if divorce is not the first option.

 

[Cichelle]

I don't understand this idea of "believing" or "not believing" in divorce. Really, I don't.

I don't think most people get married saying, "Well, this will just be temporary. We can always get a divorce." Most people say it will be "forever" or something of that nature.

Divorce is something that happens for a variety of different reasons, some quite serious. And in many cases, neither person imagined how it would all play out when they were walking down the aisle. Additionally, you can believe in divorce or not...either way, it doesn't mean you will or won't be getting one in the future.

I have never been divorced and I "believe" in trying my best to make my marriage work. I can't imagine parting with my husband. But to say I generally don't believe in divorce? That's something I would have said at a much younger age and before I'd ever been married. I've seen a lot of stuff in my years. Sometimes divorce is the best thing for all involved.

 

[RedVelvet310]

I don't believe in divorce. I feel that once you get married it's a lifetime commitment, yes there are "surprises" but that's the beauty of free will, we have the chance to get to know the person and prepare financially, emotionally, mentally.. whatever before you jump into marriage. I take marriage very seriously, it actually terrifies me because I've seen my parents in it (they've been married 24yrs) and my family members in it and it's not easy. It's imo the purest & most beautiful (human) example of selflessness & sacrifice.

If the institution of marriage was taken as seriously as it SHOULD be taken, the divorce rate would imo plummet.

 

[moda]

Not really. People are who they are. Most of the time in a relationship, a woman ignores how the man really is and then starts hoping that he changes into the man she wants him to be over time which usually doesn't happen.

I agree with this. Everyone I know that got divorced had the signs before marriage they just overlooked them. Many people expect marriage to change someone such as making them more responsible etc if he was an irresponsible boyfriend he will be an irresponsible husband.

 

[BostonMaria]

I don't believe in divorce, but if there is physical abuse then the person has a right to walk away

 

[tmhuggiebear]

I never really liked the term believe. I prefer to say I don't support it or I'm not an advocate for it.

But that's besides the point...

Carry on...

 

[Poohbear]

How can one not believe in divorce? It's not like Santa Claus. Divorce exists. It's a reality.

Nonetheless, I hope most people do approach marriage as if divorce is not the first option.

I never really liked the term believe. I prefer to say I don't support it or I'm not an advocate for it.

But that's besides the point...

Carry on...

naturalmanenyc - When someone is saying they do not believe in divorce, they are not saying "I do not believe divorce exist or is real." They're just simply saying they do not support or advocate divorce as tmhuggiebear has indicated. "Believe" may technically be the wrong word to use but I think it's just a figure of speech in this case.

 

[pookaloo83]

@naturalmanenyc - When someone is saying they do not believe in divorce, they are not saying "I do not believe divorce exist or is real." They're just simply saying they do not support or advocate divorce as @tmhuggiebear has indicated. "Believe" may technically be the wrong word to use but I think it's just a figure of speech in this case.

Thanks. People wanna get all technical. You know what the hell I mean,

 

[LiftedUp]

I don't believe in divorce either. I think that great effort should be made to work things out. However, there are some deal breakers such as infidelity, abuse, addiction etc.