White/Jewish guy asked me today: When are you going to comb your hair?
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Blaque*Angel
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kweenameena
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Don't be coming in here talking bout thick and luscious twistouts without posting pics.
I think he was looking for an opening...a reason to talk to you, and he just picked an inappropriate way to do it. So he is known as the office joker? Well get to know people before you make comments like that!
I would have said the same thing as someone else said "Well are you going to take a bath today?" and just rolled out. But you definitely made your point and he got it!
I would have said the same thing as someone else said "Well are you going to take a bath today?" and just rolled out. But you definitely made your point and he got it!
firecracker
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She doesn't have pics that coworker guy combed out her texture
Don't be coming in here talking bout thick and luscious twistouts without posting pics.
ladylibra
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blasianbeauty
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I agree. I would have been upset too, and don't know if I would have been as calm. He probably told other people what he said and how she reacted and they told him he better go apologize.
firecracker
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you're so wrong!!!
you know I'm joshing but I am not joshing about wanting your lovely head of curls dangit!
cocosweet
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Love it!Some people play too much though. Dude has no filter. Afro hair is seen as a joke to too many people which is probably why he felt like he could say that even though he doesn't really know you.
Sigh.
Mitre
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People often say offensive "stuff" that is way over the line and afterwards come back and validate their behavior by saying: I didnot mean it, you are to sensitive, it was only a joke.
I believe that people often mean what they say, they just want to see how much their can get away with, how much their can push you. I have learnt that you should should agree with them and state why you agree.
Make a statement like " you know what you are absolutely correct I am sensitive especially when my rights are being violated I am concern about it. This tactic will knocks the wind out of their sails.
Donot remain quiet he will repeat that behavior again and next time he may do it in front of a crowd. Again agree with his excuse for his behaviour and follow up with why you agree with his excuse for his comment. " You what Mr X you do have a reputation for joking but ...............
I believe that people often mean what they say, they just want to see how much their can get away with, how much their can push you. I have learnt that you should should agree with them and state why you agree.
Make a statement like " you know what you are absolutely correct I am sensitive especially when my rights are being violated I am concern about it. This tactic will knocks the wind out of their sails.
Donot remain quiet he will repeat that behavior again and next time he may do it in front of a crowd. Again agree with his excuse for his behaviour and follow up with why you agree with his excuse for his comment. " You what Mr X you do have a reputation for joking but ...............
Je Ne Sais Quoi
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Don't be coming in here talking bout thick and luscious twistouts without posting pics.
I'm telling you how offended i was and you asking about a pic I didn't think I'd ever hear a comment like thatYou'd think people in the workplace would know better.
smdh
I'm not trying to make waves, i've been there less than a year and he is a mangager
erplexedBut alas it was Sera, alas it was
I think you hit the nail on the headI agree. I would have been upset too, and don't know if I would have been as calm. He probably told other people what he said and how she reacted and they told him he better go apologize.
I agree, i so agree
Some people play too much though. Dude has no filter. Afro hair is seen as a joke to too many people which is probably why he felt like he could say that even though he doesn't really know you.
Sigh.
Je Ne Sais Quoi
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tocktick
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i don't think he meant any real harm. his comment was stupid but he has pretty much been given free-reign in terms of taking the piss in the office it seems. i'm guessing a lot of the jokes he makes are of a personal nature when it comes to what he says to his co-workers.
sometimes some people don't understand that there are comments that are loaded and offensive to us. regardless, he shouldn't have joked with you in that manner, especially considering you did not have that type of relationship.
sometimes some people don't understand that there are comments that are loaded and offensive to us. regardless, he shouldn't have joked with you in that manner, especially considering you did not have that type of relationship.
beautifulisaunderstatment
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Why not just tell him, "Not today."
Harmony0221
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SMDH but you handled it well..... I have already warned my co workers about making ANY hair jokes. Especially about relaxers and ish..
but you handled it well..... I have already warned my co workers about making ANY hair jokes. Especially about relaxers and ish..
Harmony0221
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WORTHY 
trinigul
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only mommy is allowed to say that to me lmfao
nodisrespect
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lot of overreacting in this thread...
A lot of white people just don't know better. He realized he had made a mistake and apologized.
Jesus this forum be TRIPPIN.
Kiki82
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Where is my combat boots, we are going to war. Imma need a photo of this guy at 23:00 hours, dont worry he wont be at work talking crap Monday. LOL
lol imma be there with ya!!!
Neith
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I don't think it's overreacting...
I probably wouldn't have gone to HR either, but it is upsetting.
He's Jewish, right? How appropriate would it be to ask him when he's going to get a nose job? You know what they say about Jews and their noses...
It's implying that her African kinky/coily texture has not been combed. Would he have said the same thing to a white person with straight hair? or curly hair for that matter?
It wasn't funny or appropriate at the workplace especially. Especially with him being a manager.
btw, my bf is Jewish, I'm not racist in the least, just trying to make a point.
Although, looking at him right now I do notice his nose is DEFINITELY bigger than mine and pointy as hell
I probably wouldn't have gone to HR either, but it is upsetting.
He's Jewish, right? How appropriate would it be to ask him when he's going to get a nose job? You know what they say about Jews and their noses...
It's implying that her African kinky/coily texture has not been combed. Would he have said the same thing to a white person with straight hair? or curly hair for that matter?
It wasn't funny or appropriate at the workplace especially. Especially with him being a manager.
btw, my bf is Jewish, I'm not racist in the least, just trying to make a point.
Although, looking at him right now I do notice his nose is DEFINITELY bigger than mine and pointy as hell
LayneJ
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I don't think it's overreacting...
I probably wouldn't have gone to HR either, but it is upsetting.
He's Jewish, right? How appropriate would it be to ask him when he's going to get a nose job? You know what they say about Jews and their noses...
It's implying that her African kinky/coily texture has not been combed. Would he have said the same thing to a white person with straight hair? or curly hair for that matter?
It wasn't funny or appropriate at the workplace especially. Especially with him being a manager.
btw, my bf is Jewish, I'm not racist in the least, just trying to make a point.
Although, looking at him right now I do notice his nose is DEFINITELY bigger than mine and pointy as hell
Exactly. He's a grown-*** man, not a toddler. He knew better.
I think you handled it well, OP.
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