White Adoptive Mom of Two African Little Girls

[JaneBond007]

I don't really see the problem since they are well cared for with healthy heads of hair. It might be that the mother likes their hair short or that she doesn't know how to style it when it's longer, which is common for white people.

My hair was always kept short as a child. I didn't mind, even though my sister had long hair.

Her children are 100% Habesha. She should at least make sure those kids know something about their culture. It's easy to have healthy hair if it's cut back every single week. Trust me, any other Ethio children their ages raised by their own parents or Ethio relatives practice their culture. I think that's what the issue is. It's not their particular or general culture although there are some traditional cultures who partially shave the kids (but it's seen as something practiced of the poor or back country).

 

[Mz.MoMo5235]

I dont see an issue. Even in India birth place of weaves the little girls keep their hair darn near faded until they are about 8 it seems.

I personally would do it if I had a daughter. Why have them fussing with hair so young when there are so much other things to do?

 

[LongCurlyLocks]

She shouldn't have adopted Ethiopian children. Case closed. #DoYourHomeworkFirst

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[JaneBond007]

Anybody here have/had young daughters outside those countries where they shave heads ? I think, and I reiterate, the point is to provide the children with their own culture and not just teh culture of the adoptive parents.

 

[Curlywurly10]

Surely the most important thing is that she has provided these girls with love and a home. Something that they didn't have before. Whilst I can see the importance of having the hair they want, they will have plenty of time to grow out their hair when they become old enough to look after it. There are plenty of women black, white or whatever that wouldn't take these girls into their homes yet she has, so I really don't know how she can be described as selfish. As long as they are looked after does it really matter how long their hair is for the first decade or so of their lives? I'd sooner choose a life with a loving family than have long hair any day.

 

[FlowerHair]

Her children are 100% Habesha. She should at least make sure those kids know something about their culture. It's easy to have healthy hair if it's cut back every single week. Trust me, any other Ethio children their ages raised by their own parents or Ethio relatives practice their culture. I think that's what the issue is. It's not their particular or general culture although there are some traditional cultures who partially shave the kids (but it's seen as something practiced of the poor or back country).

They are Habesha, but they are not living with any Habesha people for various reasons. You really cannot teach what you aren't.

I'm sure when they look back they will be very happy that they had someone who wanted to take care of them and raise them. Hair is not that important IMO - which may sound strange coming from a hair lover like me

Health, happiness, education and love are much more important. The most important thing is that they are not in an orphanage anymore. They have lots of time to grow their hair long and beautiful in the future.

They will never know their original culture, that's just a fact that we'll have to live with. They can learn about it like an outsider, but not like someone who grew up with it.