naijamerican
Well-Known Member
I dont know if you have hear of this song. But there is an old Oscar Brown, Jr. song called “The Snake.” It is about a woman on her way to work on a winter morning. She is walking through the park on her way to the bus stop when she comes across a half frozen, almost dead snake. She feels sorry for the snake. She takes him home and nurses him back to health. Every day she rushes home from work to see how the snake is doing. One day she comes home to find the snake all laid back in the easy chair listening to some soft jazz and sipping some lemonade. She is so glad to see that the snake is well. She picks him up and hugs him close and tells him how happy she is. Just then, the snake opens his mouth and bites her. She screams at the snake and asks him how he could treat her this way after all she has done for him. “You know your bite is poisonous and I will surely die,” she says. “Oh, shut up silly woman,” the snake said with a grin. “You knew darn well I was a snake before you took me in!”
I am so sorry for what you're going through. It's natural to feel angry, confused, bitter, faithless, upset, and the whole range of emotions flowing through you right now. I think that everyone's advice was excellent but what MsHoneyu said takes the cake. Please heed the words of this tale. In the midst of your tears, remember what this man showed you - that he does not care for you, that he does not put you or your needs first. To be honest with you, he may still care for you - but so what? He is so selfish to try to contact you, telling you how much he misses you. He has a baby on the way with another woman, a child conceived while you two were still in a relationship. Cling to the cold hard facts so that, even when you cry, you won't feel so weak as to go back to him.
And don't be surprised that he's still calling you and texting you. After all, he should miss you, because you're obviously an ambitious, discerning, beautiful woman. You had the gumption to open up to people in your life and to seek advice. Humility is a quality that cannot be purchased. In time, I know that you will be healed of this pain.