LadyCee
New Member
Hey ladies,
I am just in a quest for some advice. I was with my ex-boyfriend for two years and everything was pretty good. By pretty good I mean we did have ups and down. But I figured who doesnt? Right? Well some of the issues were that I am in college and he graduated High School and didnt go to college at the time. When we first started dating I was really happy. He was basically my first official boyfriend and he meant sooo much to me. Well anyways he started to do things that I didnt like or even understand. Like I know everyone says once the person cheats that should be the end of it. But I was soo in love and I forgave him. To say the least it happened more than once. He would also constantly go out clubbing with his friends and I didnt really mind but then it got to me and I would ask to go with him and most the times he would say I dont want you there its a bad place for such a good girl like you and stuff then there would be times he would say I could come with him and his frnds but then it never happened.
There were times that I would give him money because I knew he needed it and even though I didnt have the best job and was getting a lil fin. aid I would give it to him thinking that I was doing the right thing as a gf. There was even an event where he got into trouble w. the law and I was there for him. Not even his parents want to help him out. So I used my credit card and helped him out I mean I was his gf. So anyways I started getting really tired of him. He would not pay me any attention like he use to in the beg. and it just felt soo weird. In the past he broke up with me. Right before our two yr anniversary I decided to break up with him in hopes of him seeing that he needed me and would try hard and make an attempt to work on our relationship.
Well after our breakup he called me and asked me to meet me at his job. So right after class I drove to his job anxious and excited at the same time. Well come to find out he had some serious news for me. He was seeing another girl while we were still together!!???
To make it worse he got this girl pregnant..
When he told me this my world dropped. How could the person I love so much do this. The person I got so use to and gave so much too even think about doing that. It hurt so bad to find out this happened. Well at first he said that he wanted to be with me and that the girl didnt want the kid. Then things changed she wanted the kid and he told me that he wasnt just going to stop talking to her he had to take care of her bc tat was his child. He would even tell me that he wasnt going to say what happened was a mistake but he had to do what was right?? What about me? Was I nothing anymore? After 2 years?
At first I hid this from all my friends and even family but as time went on I couldnt hold it in anymore. I finally broke down and told my closest friends. I still decided to keep it from my sisters. At the same time my sisters knew something was up. He would basically use my sisters against me saying that he was so cool with them because they didnt know what happened bw us. Eventually I told my sisters and I decided to not talk to him anymore. I met him for the last time in hopes of him confessing his love to me even though of the circumstances. He didnt do that but instead asked me a very peculiar question. He wanted to know what a girl would want for her birthday. I was amazed and thought he was trying to get me something nice until I realized my birthday wasnt for months. I asked why and as a response he said the girls birthday was coming up and wanted to get her something.That hurt so bad and I finally realized that I was no longer in the picture. I havent spoke to him in a while and it hurts so bad.
I find my self being bored sometimes and I really miss the way things use to be. Its so hard trying to forget about someone that you cared about so much. My sister went out some time ago and guess who she saw. Yes she saw him and of course he happened to b with that girl. It is such a nasty feeling that is inside of my heart. I feel so lost, confused, hurt, and most of all deceived my the one I never ever expected to deceive me so badly.I feel like Ive been replaced. As if I want good enough. Like I meant nothing at all. Feels like I wasnt worth fighting for. Even if I decided to forgive him why didnt he try to win me back? Is it bad that I still feel sad about it that sometimes I wish bad on them both.?
There are sometimes that he still calls me like earlier today and I fight hard and I dont answer. I feel I have tried just about everything to forget about him. Ive written evil letters and torn them, Ive cried, Ive eaten too much lol, and nothing still helps. To make things worse I am in such a bad financial situation right now and when we were together he promised that he would help me pay things back. Now that we arent together will I ever get this money baq that I need so bad. I am soo afaird to even talk to him for it so I asked my frnds to ask him and he saying he has alot of issues to and that he will never forget about me bc I did so much for him. Its always been about him him him. Wat ab the "US" So I decided to write to yall and see what you all think about it. What did you ladies do that have experienced such a bad break up? Well this has helped me in some way. Thanks ladies for hearing me out.
I am just in a quest for some advice. I was with my ex-boyfriend for two years and everything was pretty good. By pretty good I mean we did have ups and down. But I figured who doesnt? Right? Well some of the issues were that I am in college and he graduated High School and didnt go to college at the time. When we first started dating I was really happy. He was basically my first official boyfriend and he meant sooo much to me. Well anyways he started to do things that I didnt like or even understand. Like I know everyone says once the person cheats that should be the end of it. But I was soo in love and I forgave him. To say the least it happened more than once. He would also constantly go out clubbing with his friends and I didnt really mind but then it got to me and I would ask to go with him and most the times he would say I dont want you there its a bad place for such a good girl like you and stuff then there would be times he would say I could come with him and his frnds but then it never happened.
There were times that I would give him money because I knew he needed it and even though I didnt have the best job and was getting a lil fin. aid I would give it to him thinking that I was doing the right thing as a gf. There was even an event where he got into trouble w. the law and I was there for him. Not even his parents want to help him out. So I used my credit card and helped him out I mean I was his gf. So anyways I started getting really tired of him. He would not pay me any attention like he use to in the beg. and it just felt soo weird. In the past he broke up with me. Right before our two yr anniversary I decided to break up with him in hopes of him seeing that he needed me and would try hard and make an attempt to work on our relationship.
Well after our breakup he called me and asked me to meet me at his job. So right after class I drove to his job anxious and excited at the same time. Well come to find out he had some serious news for me. He was seeing another girl while we were still together!!???
At first I hid this from all my friends and even family but as time went on I couldnt hold it in anymore. I finally broke down and told my closest friends. I still decided to keep it from my sisters. At the same time my sisters knew something was up. He would basically use my sisters against me saying that he was so cool with them because they didnt know what happened bw us. Eventually I told my sisters and I decided to not talk to him anymore. I met him for the last time in hopes of him confessing his love to me even though of the circumstances. He didnt do that but instead asked me a very peculiar question. He wanted to know what a girl would want for her birthday. I was amazed and thought he was trying to get me something nice until I realized my birthday wasnt for months. I asked why and as a response he said the girls birthday was coming up and wanted to get her something.That hurt so bad and I finally realized that I was no longer in the picture. I havent spoke to him in a while and it hurts so bad.
I find my self being bored sometimes and I really miss the way things use to be. Its so hard trying to forget about someone that you cared about so much. My sister went out some time ago and guess who she saw. Yes she saw him and of course he happened to b with that girl. It is such a nasty feeling that is inside of my heart. I feel so lost, confused, hurt, and most of all deceived my the one I never ever expected to deceive me so badly.I feel like Ive been replaced. As if I want good enough. Like I meant nothing at all. Feels like I wasnt worth fighting for. Even if I decided to forgive him why didnt he try to win me back? Is it bad that I still feel sad about it that sometimes I wish bad on them both.?
There are sometimes that he still calls me like earlier today and I fight hard and I dont answer. I feel I have tried just about everything to forget about him. Ive written evil letters and torn them, Ive cried, Ive eaten too much lol, and nothing still helps. To make things worse I am in such a bad financial situation right now and when we were together he promised that he would help me pay things back. Now that we arent together will I ever get this money baq that I need so bad. I am soo afaird to even talk to him for it so I asked my frnds to ask him and he saying he has alot of issues to and that he will never forget about me bc I did so much for him. Its always been about him him him. Wat ab the "US" So I decided to write to yall and see what you all think about it. What did you ladies do that have experienced such a bad break up? Well this has helped me in some way. Thanks ladies for hearing me out.