When Your Children Hate Your Partner.

[NappyNelle]

I'm glad my stepfather let me be rude until I learned to accept him. Thankfully, his kids liked my mom from the beginning, though they lived with their bio moms.

I don't want to be a stepmother; I've tried it - and the kids were great - but I don't want to deal with multiple people and their families TBQH.

 

[Browndilocks]

I'm glad my stepfather let me be rude until I learned to accept him.

See...this would never fly with me. I'm not about proving myself for respect from anyone at any age. We can both start with a clean slate, but if you're going to be a devil, you're going to see a devil.

 

[NappyNelle]

See...this would never fly with me. I'm not about proving myself for respect from anyone at any age. We can both start with a clean slate, but if you're going to be a devil, you're going to see a devil.

Maybe rude isn't the right word... but I was definitely standoffish once I understood what was happening. I became distant again as a teenager, but for other reasons.

I think coming in with the "respect me" attitude is what made me dislike him. I didn't know enough about him to respect him, and then I was supposed to "fall in line" when my mom's rules and expectations were different. I also think being a Scorpio made me more suspicious and closed off.

 

[Zaynab]

5-6 years later if they're not being abused and everything else is ok, I fault bio parent. Children shouldn't be allowed to manipulate the situation just because they don't like it.