Duchesse
Well-Known Member
Hey all!
This is just a friendly reminder to everyone who may be feeling down and out about being single, or is finding themselves dateless and wondering why. Let me tell you from personal experince..shift your energy and your phone will be ringing off the hook.
I've been on a personal mission, amongst many other missions, to get out there and date...leading to meeting my future beau/husband/love of my life. I have been known to be the queen of singledom, the eternal third wheel, the one who self prophesied to be a spinster for life and fooled herself into thinking that this was the way it was supposed to be, and better yet, that I preferred being single. Using words like untethered, 'free to be me', and too busy, I effectively squashed the natural urges in me for romance and companionship.
Many months ago, I realized that the ONLY reason why I was single was because of ME and only ME. How was I expecting to meet someone while I'm feeling depressed, bored and boring, bitter, unfocused and unkempt. Yes I did date a couple of folks during this period, but believe me, they all echoed those same attributes, and were not worth my time.
Lately I have been actively changing my focus on life, actively thinking positive thoughts, actively pursing my future career goals, and just feeling sexy and pleased with myself. Instead of stressing over a guy who recently let me down, I brushed my shoulder off and kept it moving. The old me would just get depressed, and bemoan the whole dating scene and probably lambast the entire male world (jerks, loosers, dogs, freaks, idiots..anyone with a penis would get called out) And of course the next guy that I met would be a jerk, loser, etc. That darn cycle.
I have a date with a nice, funny guy this weekend, who has been actively pursuing me for the past 3 weeks. (despite my passive attempts to ignore him) He is not my physical "type", but he has many good qualities that I look for in a man. And today this(gotta say fine, gotta say tall, gotta say older, and I can tell has a good job..woosah) man got on my bus off the train just to get my number..we'll be going out next week. And when my other friend decides to mature a bit (aka man up) hey, we shall see.
Sorry for this long post/rant and I hope it's not too rambling. I just want to encourage all my fellow sisters who are/have been where I've been to keep doing you(rule number 1..shoot that's the only rule), and don't waste your precious energy/life force/spirit worrying about no maan!
I ain't saying that one of these men are going to be my future baby daddy (with the ring on the finger next to my left pinky..cause Duchesse don't play that) but I do feel that by putting myself out there, I'm making it easier for me to meet that man.(I mean, if man from the bus is him..well
)
There is so much abundance in the universe (Thanks Wayne Dyer "Power of Intention"..plug and Jesus.. another plug) and I deserve a big ole' hunk of it!(shoot..we all do)
This is just a friendly reminder to everyone who may be feeling down and out about being single, or is finding themselves dateless and wondering why. Let me tell you from personal experince..shift your energy and your phone will be ringing off the hook.
I've been on a personal mission, amongst many other missions, to get out there and date...leading to meeting my future beau/husband/love of my life. I have been known to be the queen of singledom, the eternal third wheel, the one who self prophesied to be a spinster for life and fooled herself into thinking that this was the way it was supposed to be, and better yet, that I preferred being single. Using words like untethered, 'free to be me', and too busy, I effectively squashed the natural urges in me for romance and companionship.
Many months ago, I realized that the ONLY reason why I was single was because of ME and only ME. How was I expecting to meet someone while I'm feeling depressed, bored and boring, bitter, unfocused and unkempt. Yes I did date a couple of folks during this period, but believe me, they all echoed those same attributes, and were not worth my time.
Lately I have been actively changing my focus on life, actively thinking positive thoughts, actively pursing my future career goals, and just feeling sexy and pleased with myself. Instead of stressing over a guy who recently let me down, I brushed my shoulder off and kept it moving. The old me would just get depressed, and bemoan the whole dating scene and probably lambast the entire male world (jerks, loosers, dogs, freaks, idiots..anyone with a penis would get called out) And of course the next guy that I met would be a jerk, loser, etc. That darn cycle.
I have a date with a nice, funny guy this weekend, who has been actively pursuing me for the past 3 weeks. (despite my passive attempts to ignore him) He is not my physical "type", but he has many good qualities that I look for in a man. And today this(gotta say fine, gotta say tall, gotta say older, and I can tell has a good job..woosah) man got on my bus off the train just to get my number..we'll be going out next week. And when my other friend decides to mature a bit (aka man up) hey, we shall see.
Sorry for this long post/rant and I hope it's not too rambling. I just want to encourage all my fellow sisters who are/have been where I've been to keep doing you(rule number 1..shoot that's the only rule), and don't waste your precious energy/life force/spirit worrying about no maan!
I ain't saying that one of these men are going to be my future baby daddy (with the ring on the finger next to my left pinky..cause Duchesse don't play that) but I do feel that by putting myself out there, I'm making it easier for me to meet that man.(I mean, if man from the bus is him..well
)There is so much abundance in the universe (Thanks Wayne Dyer "Power of Intention"..plug and Jesus.. another plug) and I deserve a big ole' hunk of it!(shoot..we all do)
)
I was feeling just like you about 3 weeks ago... 
The problem is when those guys turn out to be jerks, or just not what you're looking for (like they do, 99% of the time... 
Not saying that I've given up, but... I'm not in that "happy place" right now when it comes to men... 
You're my kind of chick. Kudos to you for doing you and staying positive. Good things are definitely headed your way. 
