Blaque*Angel
Well-Known Member
Well,Well,Well where shall I begin?
My friend had a heart to heart with me last night about her SO.
I’m quite shocked, as from the outside looking in, they seem to have a lovely relationship.
he appears to be a great father, and a nice man to have a relationship with.
She tells me, he makes $900 weekly, he gives her $600 straight up, i reply “ok…that’s not bad at all, a lot of people would be happy with that!?”
She says, he is a nice guy to be with.
He works 10 hours a day,he also does overtime when they need extra money!
He is a excellent father to the twins, he brings them on vacation, loves spending his “free time” with his family.
So I then ask “well then…..what is the problem?!”
She says the only fault she has with him his smoking excessive cannabis.
When he gets in from a hard day at work, he doesn’t smoke 1 nor 2 but three joints!
Most days, he can handle it and still does his duties in the house but a lot of the days? He is very exhausted and crashes out after smoking, leaving her to do a 24-7 "shift" with the twins.
She feels depressed, she has asked him to “cut back” but he refuses,he says that is one of the only things he does for himself.
He confessed to her that he spends $100-$200 on it weekly!!!!!! And that really shocked her as he usually is good with money.
She says when they met five years ago, he told her he did not smoke, then one day, a year after they met they had their first disagreement he took out a joint and began smoking it, saying he is “stressed” she told him, she has nothing against it but she would prefer he does that stuff away from her.
He did not go into work one day last week, so spent the whole day, afternoon and evening with his friends. She tried to call him several times but he did not answer. One of his friends answered the phone and said they all had been drinking hennesey and smoking all day so her SO was “knocked out” sleeping on the chair, they were trying to wake him but he seemed like he was in a coma.
He called her back a few hours afterwards apologising, saying he cannot handle alcohol…blah blah blah…and he’ll be home shortly.
He came home with roses, chocolates and perfume for my friend and told her he will take over looking after the kids.
So she had a bubble bath and had a early night……
She says she loves him so much and is still going ahead with the wedding/marriage next year but she is going to tell him to change his ways or she will leave him, she says she is very depressed and doesn’t have the strength to really leave him. She needs help with the children, more help than he is offering. Her family live in a different city, so she only sees them occasionally.
She is askling me what should she do? But I do not know what to advise.
They both love each other a lot, raise the kids and manage the house well….
but she's obviously unhappy with the amount of cannabis he is consuming.she says when the twins were smaller he was looking after one while she was upstairs asleep with the other,when she came downstairs the baby had fallen on the floor
and he was crashed out on the sofa. she couldn't wake him, he was in his"coma sleep"
If she was your friend/relative what would you advise her to do?
My friend had a heart to heart with me last night about her SO.
I’m quite shocked, as from the outside looking in, they seem to have a lovely relationship.
he appears to be a great father, and a nice man to have a relationship with.
She tells me, he makes $900 weekly, he gives her $600 straight up, i reply “ok…that’s not bad at all, a lot of people would be happy with that!?”
She says, he is a nice guy to be with.
He works 10 hours a day,he also does overtime when they need extra money!
He is a excellent father to the twins, he brings them on vacation, loves spending his “free time” with his family.
So I then ask “well then…..what is the problem?!”
She says the only fault she has with him his smoking excessive cannabis.
When he gets in from a hard day at work, he doesn’t smoke 1 nor 2 but three joints!
Most days, he can handle it and still does his duties in the house but a lot of the days? He is very exhausted and crashes out after smoking, leaving her to do a 24-7 "shift" with the twins.
She feels depressed, she has asked him to “cut back” but he refuses,he says that is one of the only things he does for himself.
He confessed to her that he spends $100-$200 on it weekly!!!!!! And that really shocked her as he usually is good with money.
She says when they met five years ago, he told her he did not smoke, then one day, a year after they met they had their first disagreement he took out a joint and began smoking it, saying he is “stressed” she told him, she has nothing against it but she would prefer he does that stuff away from her.
He did not go into work one day last week, so spent the whole day, afternoon and evening with his friends. She tried to call him several times but he did not answer. One of his friends answered the phone and said they all had been drinking hennesey and smoking all day so her SO was “knocked out” sleeping on the chair, they were trying to wake him but he seemed like he was in a coma.
He called her back a few hours afterwards apologising, saying he cannot handle alcohol…blah blah blah…and he’ll be home shortly.
He came home with roses, chocolates and perfume for my friend and told her he will take over looking after the kids.
So she had a bubble bath and had a early night……
She says she loves him so much and is still going ahead with the wedding/marriage next year but she is going to tell him to change his ways or she will leave him, she says she is very depressed and doesn’t have the strength to really leave him. She needs help with the children, more help than he is offering. Her family live in a different city, so she only sees them occasionally.
She is askling me what should she do? But I do not know what to advise.
They both love each other a lot, raise the kids and manage the house well….
but she's obviously unhappy with the amount of cannabis he is consuming.she says when the twins were smaller he was looking after one while she was upstairs asleep with the other,when she came downstairs the baby had fallen on the floor
and he was crashed out on the sofa. she couldn't wake him, he was in his"coma sleep"If she was your friend/relative what would you advise her to do?
He will not change after.
. Oh boy that was the end of that lil visit to happy land for a very very long time! 
I ain't gon lie and say its not calming and a stress plus pain reliever but I'm against habits of all kinds be it gambling, drinking, shopping etc. Thank God I stopped that mess oncetagain. Now cursing is a whole nother thang! 
