Reinventing21
Spreading my wings
I haven't talked to the friend yet, but this really got to me. Yesterday I covered my hair. Today, I did untwisted and teased. I wonder if that's what all the white people in my class are thinking!!!!!
No! NO! NO! Don't let insecurity set in. That is exactly what she would like to see happen. I am 1000 1/2% sure that 1) the comment was deliberate--she knew exactly what she was saying & how it was coming across & more importantly 2) her comments are laced with and dripping with jealousy.
You must be the 'stuff' to have this girl so worried that she tries to pick on known sensitive topics. Maybe she has seen guys checking YOU out when she thought they should have been checking her out. Some girls are highly competitive & some of these type in particular think they should always be the most desirable.
I wouldn't tell her I was hurt at all. I wouldn't show any anger AT ALL, but the next time it happened I would def. put her in her place by asking her why is she so insecure that she feels so compelled to make such rude, jealous comments.
This is the time you have to hold your head up even higher---put a giant flower in your hair, whatever & do you to the max. That is best revenge & the best way to make your point. Believe me, you already have it going on so much so that she is scared/jealous as heck. DON'T let her bring her down. Remember that the next time she opens her jealous mouth.