Hi all, I have a situation, I am in a relationship with a good guy, short though (4months). Iam also a single mother in which the father is not at all involved, he lives in another state. My current boyfriend comes over often, and says he spends time with my son, well now that i look at it he sits on the sofa watches tv and on the computer while my son runs around him (that is what he call spending time), but no real contact only when a couple of times when he helps with homework. he says he is not ready to take my son out yet. (My son is 3 1/2 ). Now my mom says that i have to let my son know his father, but his father nevers calls or shows that he want to be in his
life, not even child support. No birthday calls, no christmas calls, nothing. This hurts me very much. I think subconsiously with my current boyfriend i am looking for a replacement dad, which is why i feel that he should take my son out and do fatherly things. Im lost, I dont want my son to be hurt by his dad not being in or not showing intrest in his life, and it hurts when i see that my BF never really plays with him, he talks alot about the three of us, but he has nevr actually gotten down to PLAY with my son. Im menatlly exhausted thinking about this. Sorry for the longpost.
Am i being to obssesvie over the current BF to be father figure?
Should i let my son get to see and know his dad, even if his dad doesnt try?
Help!!!! BTW, sorry for so many mispelled words.
life, not even child support. No birthday calls, no christmas calls, nothing. This hurts me very much. I think subconsiously with my current boyfriend i am looking for a replacement dad, which is why i feel that he should take my son out and do fatherly things. Im lost, I dont want my son to be hurt by his dad not being in or not showing intrest in his life, and it hurts when i see that my BF never really plays with him, he talks alot about the three of us, but he has nevr actually gotten down to PLAY with my son. Im menatlly exhausted thinking about this. Sorry for the longpost.
Am i being to obssesvie over the current BF to be father figure?
Should i let my son get to see and know his dad, even if his dad doesnt try?
Help!!!! BTW, sorry for so many mispelled words.