Kimgirl50
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My boyfriend has been talking about marriage (in the future). I simply don't find it extremely different from a relationship just with a license. I am no way against it. I just do not understand all the hoopla around it.. Im only interested to be recognized by the government and get the added benefits, I also dont understand the reason to spend so much money and possibly even more if divorce.
I asked one women and she said
" There is no PRACTICE for marriage. I don’t care if you dated for 10 years, lived together, own a business together, got three kids, etc….
Marriage is a brand new situation and will slap you across the face once you get into the thick of it. Nothing prepares you for this..I SHOULD KNOW.
The only thing I say that MAY help is pre-marital counseling because then you may get a chance to prepare for the emotional change you’re about to experience and brace yourself. Continous counseling is a good idea too.
You can live with your mate for 20 years but the moment that person becomes your spouse, life changes! I mean this on both sides."
Do you agree? I just simply dont understand how much could change just from one licence. Thank you
edit: we have been abstinent for 2 years so that would also change after marriage
I asked one women and she said
" There is no PRACTICE for marriage. I don’t care if you dated for 10 years, lived together, own a business together, got three kids, etc….
Marriage is a brand new situation and will slap you across the face once you get into the thick of it. Nothing prepares you for this..I SHOULD KNOW.
The only thing I say that MAY help is pre-marital counseling because then you may get a chance to prepare for the emotional change you’re about to experience and brace yourself. Continous counseling is a good idea too.
You can live with your mate for 20 years but the moment that person becomes your spouse, life changes! I mean this on both sides."
Do you agree? I just simply dont understand how much could change just from one licence. Thank you
edit: we have been abstinent for 2 years so that would also change after marriage
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