Yeah I washed it out and asked her if she had any conditioner n she said no but I did offer her my wide tooth comberplexed
You did the best you could. Don't be so hard on yourself. I didn't know you were 18 yourself.
Yeah I washed it out and asked her if she had any conditioner n she said no but I did offer her my wide tooth comberplexed
The problem is, that isn't your/our kid. We don't know anything about these people and the OP does. Obviously she felt she couldn't say something and there's probably a good reason why.
Um, first...she didn't stand by and watch the 16 year old "mess up the baby's hair." She came upstairs after the girl called her up there and saw it. That part of the damage was already done.
Second, I wouldn't blame yourself for what the other girl did. She honestly had no business putting a relaxer in that child's hair, and her mama had no business letting her do it even if it was to get the kids out of the house. What I -will- say, is that I completely agree with the other posters that said you should have informed her of the correct way to do it. There are ways to talk to people in a non-confrontational manner, even if they're the type who are quick to get defensive. She's around your age, so you could approach her as a friend-type and just tell her it was nice of her to do the baby's hair for the mom, but suggest she not put the relaxer on anything outside the new growth. Then clearly explain -why- to her. People...especial teenagers(no offense, OP), generally don't like to be told things like this without being given a proper reason. If she doesn't want to hear it, it's not your fault either, but you at least know you gave it your best shot. I'd say you achieved that from asking for conditioner and changing the comb, but I don't think you'd post on here doubting yourself if you did.
Just yourself and apply it in the future so you have no regrets.
The point isn't necessarily to change her opinion, but just to put the information out there. And she was 16, it's not like she's a grown woman. If I see a child (who shouldn't be allowed to have chemicals in the first place) doing something wrong, I say something if it's appropriate. In this situation, it definitely would have been appropriate.
And since she asked you to wash the relaxer out you could have taken that time to say "where's some conditioner? it's really important to condition the hair after it's relaxed and it makes combing much easier". And then you could have showed her how to condition and detangle the little girl's hair.
If you had said something to her, maybe she would have changed her mind, you never know. When you know better, you do better.
The mother of the child needs to be horse whipped!