SurferBabe
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...and a minimum of thirty minutes thereafter." (and longer the older you are)
I'd like to specify that this rule applies to any man you have just met before he has taken you out.
This is the name of a chapter in the newest The Rules book titled Not your Mother's Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
This particular rule has been receiving quite a bit of attention from book reviewers--much of it negative. Those who oppose it feel that making a man wait an extended period of time for a reply to a text is playing games. Some ladies who absolutely adore The Rules have cast this one rule out for this reason. Why the controversy?
I actually purchased the e-book because I love The Rules and I needed something new to read. After reading this chapter I must say that I completely agree with the authors' reasoning. Texting has created an expectation of instant gratification. Before cellphones, if a man wanted to reach out to you he either had to wait until you got home from work, school, dinner, volunteering, etc... to call you on the landline OR he had to set a date and time to see you in person. Now all it takes is a minute or two to send you a text and he has your full attention throughout the day. This rule encourages women to stop treating their cellphones like a 24/7 instant messenger. If he's chatty, he should ask you out and talk about all of that stuff in person--preferably over lunch/dinner . Too much texting gives a man free all day companionship and entertainment .
What say you ladies? Is it playing games or setting standards?
BTW, I can post a basic breakdown of that chapter if interested, just didn't want this post to be too long. The rule doesn't require you to actually count 4 hours from the first text--but to text back at particular times during the day depending on when he sends the first text. Sounds complicated but it actually makes a lot of sense for people who prefer physical human interaction to sending paragraphs back and forth all day.
I'd like to specify that this rule applies to any man you have just met before he has taken you out.
This is the name of a chapter in the newest The Rules book titled Not your Mother's Rules: The New Secrets for Dating
This particular rule has been receiving quite a bit of attention from book reviewers--much of it negative. Those who oppose it feel that making a man wait an extended period of time for a reply to a text is playing games. Some ladies who absolutely adore The Rules have cast this one rule out for this reason. Why the controversy?
I actually purchased the e-book because I love The Rules and I needed something new to read. After reading this chapter I must say that I completely agree with the authors' reasoning. Texting has created an expectation of instant gratification. Before cellphones, if a man wanted to reach out to you he either had to wait until you got home from work, school, dinner, volunteering, etc... to call you on the landline OR he had to set a date and time to see you in person. Now all it takes is a minute or two to send you a text and he has your full attention throughout the day. This rule encourages women to stop treating their cellphones like a 24/7 instant messenger. If he's chatty, he should ask you out and talk about all of that stuff in person--preferably over lunch/dinner . Too much texting gives a man free all day companionship and entertainment .
What say you ladies? Is it playing games or setting standards?
BTW, I can post a basic breakdown of that chapter if interested, just didn't want this post to be too long. The rule doesn't require you to actually count 4 hours from the first text--but to text back at particular times during the day depending on when he sends the first text. Sounds complicated but it actually makes a lot of sense for people who prefer physical human interaction to sending paragraphs back and forth all day.
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