Serenity_Peace
Genius never dies!
I consider myself a very progressive woman in my politics, but in my personal life, I believe that chivalry is NOT dead. I also believe that in many instances a man should take charge, making decisions when I can't or won't, and just handle the business where I'm not as adept.
So ladies, as I told my story before, I am hanging out with this guy who is very sweet, very nice and treats me well. I know that he loves me and wants to be with me, but I've told him many times that I don't feel the same. Well, after having many conversations with him we are just hanging out as friends, but some things have happened over the course of a few weeks that have reaffirmed the fact that I don't want him, am not interested in him, and confirmed that he's not the one for me. Let me tell you about several things that happened:
A few weeks ago, I moved into a new home. I asked him and another friend to help me move some heavy furniture. Well, for nearly the entire time, he just sat there on boxes and wouldn't help. I had to help my other friend move some heavy boxes. My other friend (also a male) asked me why he (my friend) wouldn't help. I couldn't figure it out. So I ended up paying the other friend all the money that I would've split between the two of them. I told my friend that I didn't appreciate the fact that he didn't help much with the move and that it would be the last time that I would ask him to do anything.
So this past weekend, I am house sitting for some friends of mine who are vacationing in England for a few weeks. Well, one night I invited my friend over and we had pizza. I thought I heard some noise upstairs and that someone was in the house. (It's a huge house!) So I ask him to kind help me scope out the house. We got knives, bats, etc. Well, don't you know he was a scaredy cat!?!! Yes, that's right. He walked right behind me, acting like he was too frightened. I was pissed! So essentially I was behaving like the man, the protector, and he was acting as if he were the damsel in distress. After checking the house, we finished the pizza and I sent him home.
Passive-aggressive behavior: as I reflected on the events of that day, I had thought about his passive behavior. I made eggs and toast for breakfast once for him. Now, I might not be Rachel Ray, but I know that my arse can cook! Well, he didn't eat 1/2 of his eggs. I asked him if he liked the meal. He said that the meal was good. After pressing the issue several times, he confessed that he didn't like the eggs because I had seasoned them with pepper. He doesn't like pepper. So essentially not only did he lie, I would have been making meals that he didn't like because I love to use many different types of seasonings in my foods. I freakin' hate passive-aggressiveness! This guy wasn't even man enough to tell me the truth about how he felt.
So ladies, basically this is my vent. I learned more about myself and what I really want out of a man dealing with this guy. I have no tolerance for passive men, no matter how nice they are. I get the feeling that I do want the man to be more aggressive and self-assured. I wonder if I'm alone out there...
So ladies, as I told my story before, I am hanging out with this guy who is very sweet, very nice and treats me well. I know that he loves me and wants to be with me, but I've told him many times that I don't feel the same. Well, after having many conversations with him we are just hanging out as friends, but some things have happened over the course of a few weeks that have reaffirmed the fact that I don't want him, am not interested in him, and confirmed that he's not the one for me. Let me tell you about several things that happened:
A few weeks ago, I moved into a new home. I asked him and another friend to help me move some heavy furniture. Well, for nearly the entire time, he just sat there on boxes and wouldn't help. I had to help my other friend move some heavy boxes. My other friend (also a male) asked me why he (my friend) wouldn't help. I couldn't figure it out. So I ended up paying the other friend all the money that I would've split between the two of them. I told my friend that I didn't appreciate the fact that he didn't help much with the move and that it would be the last time that I would ask him to do anything.
So this past weekend, I am house sitting for some friends of mine who are vacationing in England for a few weeks. Well, one night I invited my friend over and we had pizza. I thought I heard some noise upstairs and that someone was in the house. (It's a huge house!) So I ask him to kind help me scope out the house. We got knives, bats, etc. Well, don't you know he was a scaredy cat!?!! Yes, that's right. He walked right behind me, acting like he was too frightened. I was pissed! So essentially I was behaving like the man, the protector, and he was acting as if he were the damsel in distress. After checking the house, we finished the pizza and I sent him home.
Passive-aggressive behavior: as I reflected on the events of that day, I had thought about his passive behavior. I made eggs and toast for breakfast once for him. Now, I might not be Rachel Ray, but I know that my arse can cook! Well, he didn't eat 1/2 of his eggs. I asked him if he liked the meal. He said that the meal was good. After pressing the issue several times, he confessed that he didn't like the eggs because I had seasoned them with pepper. He doesn't like pepper. So essentially not only did he lie, I would have been making meals that he didn't like because I love to use many different types of seasonings in my foods. I freakin' hate passive-aggressiveness! This guy wasn't even man enough to tell me the truth about how he felt.
So ladies, basically this is my vent. I learned more about myself and what I really want out of a man dealing with this guy. I have no tolerance for passive men, no matter how nice they are. I get the feeling that I do want the man to be more aggressive and self-assured. I wonder if I'm alone out there...