prettygrl
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After 2 years, my divorce hearing is set for next week and I am still uncertain.
I married my high school sweetheart. We are both in our early 30's now with one toddler.. I could easily go back, but I'm not sure I should...
We got married 5 years ago. He is a police officer and has a crazy schedule...working nights. We saw very little of each other and when he was off he wanted to hang out with his friends and drink. I don't believe he was cheating, but don't know for sure.
His hanging out caused some big fights.. I got physical with him and he moved out. He said that I was going to cause him to lose his job and he was afraid that he would hurt me. During the two years we have still seen each other. I have suggested counseling, but although he said he would go that never happened. We had one appointment scheduled a few months ago and got into an argument the day of and never went.
Right before we separated my grandfather passed away and he did not attend the funeral. I was really hurt that he didn't come and my close Aunt was also upset. A week later, the Aunt who was so upset that he no showed at my grandfather's funeral passed away. He did no show up to her funeral either. I felt very alone. At that point I felt that our marriage wasn't going to make it. I have always suffered from a lot of anxiety issues which he never understood and going through that without him--made things so much worse.
It's very difficult to end a 17 year relationship. I have prayed for a clear answer. I want to make the right decision....not necessarily the easy one. I'm afraid if everything is finalized next week my anxiety is going to increase 10fold!
Any words of wisdom???
Thanks in advance.
I married my high school sweetheart. We are both in our early 30's now with one toddler.. I could easily go back, but I'm not sure I should...
We got married 5 years ago. He is a police officer and has a crazy schedule...working nights. We saw very little of each other and when he was off he wanted to hang out with his friends and drink. I don't believe he was cheating, but don't know for sure.
His hanging out caused some big fights.. I got physical with him and he moved out. He said that I was going to cause him to lose his job and he was afraid that he would hurt me. During the two years we have still seen each other. I have suggested counseling, but although he said he would go that never happened. We had one appointment scheduled a few months ago and got into an argument the day of and never went.
Right before we separated my grandfather passed away and he did not attend the funeral. I was really hurt that he didn't come and my close Aunt was also upset. A week later, the Aunt who was so upset that he no showed at my grandfather's funeral passed away. He did no show up to her funeral either. I felt very alone. At that point I felt that our marriage wasn't going to make it. I have always suffered from a lot of anxiety issues which he never understood and going through that without him--made things so much worse.
It's very difficult to end a 17 year relationship. I have prayed for a clear answer. I want to make the right decision....not necessarily the easy one. I'm afraid if everything is finalized next week my anxiety is going to increase 10fold!
Any words of wisdom???
Thanks in advance.