Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

GettingKinky said:
I wish I had gone natural 3 years ago instead of texlaxing. By the time I'm fully natural I will have been transitioning for 6 years. 3 years to texlax and then 3 years to natural. What a waste of time. Sigh...
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This was me! I transitioned to texlaxed because it was the "best of both worlds" :look: wrong. For me, it was the worst of both worlds combining processed hair and textured hair. I ended up getting a corrective eventually to be bonelaxed and now I'm going natural.

But it feels right this time because I'm doing it for all the right reasons.
 
pearlific1 said:
GettingKinky Girl, about 5 years :nono: I took several detours along the way. Now, I know how to care for my hair so I will definitely get to the promised land :lol: I was was just thinking I could have been natural and MBL by now if I had stuck with the plan the first time. Texlaxed hair was a step in the wrong direction.
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The only thing that makes me feel better is that if I hadn't texlaxed, I might have never considered going natural. So maybe it was good for something. But still. I could be BSL-MBL natural.
 
I trimmed in Sept and again at the end of Oct. I may just keep trimming frequently. I won't be able to grow my hair long but at least I'm purging the chemically damaged hair.
 
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Nazaneen said:
I trimmed in Sept and again at the end of Oct. I may just keep trimming frequently. I won't be able to grow my hair long but at least I'm purging the chemically damaged hair.
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You have to get rid of the damaged hair to see the fruits of your labor. Keep trimming and soon you will be able to grow your hair long :yep:
 
Nazaneen said:
I trimmed in Sept and again at the end of Oct. I may just keep trimming frequently. I won't be able to grow my hair long but at least I'm purging the chemically damaged hair.
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I joined that no trimming challenge.. So I am really working on my ends, while transitioning to fully texlaxed.
 
I was due to big chop last Friday but the shrinkage stopped me. I feel really guilty but I'm gonna try my hand at long term transitioning. I currently am 4 months post and have 2 inches of new growth. I am rescheduling my big chop for late April/early May at 9-10 months post relaxer.

i'm in a sew in between now and then.
 
Nazaneen said:
I trimmed in Sept and again at the end of Oct. I may just keep trimming frequently. I won't be able to grow my hair long but at least I'm purging the chemically damaged hair.
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When I first started transitioning, I cut A LOT. For no good reason, really, just cuz it was bothering me. :lol: I stayed SL for a looong while. I didn't really notice because I wear it up all the time. I stopped cutting this past spring, I think, only one trim since then... iirc. Hmm. Anywho, I'm past APL now, just by stretching with my fingers. I need to straighten but I'm being lazy. Maybe I'll do a flexi set.

I'm soooo tired of transitioning, but I'm in the middle of the 'awkward phase' with my natural hair and I refuse to do it. :nono2: I've done it twice and I'm good.
 
Hi everyone, I've been transitioning for 18 months and find that when I straighten my hair, my hair sticks/tangles at the line of demarcation after flat ironing. Does anyone know what I'm doing wrong? I blow dried first.
 
Eboni801 unfortunately that is the nature of transitioning hair. The nature hair and relaxed hair will fight each other. I had horrible tangles during my transition. It did not resolve itself until I cut all the relaxer off. My natural hair does not tangle. How much longer do you plan to transition? After 18 months you probably have a lot of natural hair. Once I have more natural hair than relaxed it got easier and once I started cutting random pieces off so I could see my curls I knew it was time to bc. Congratulations on making 18 months.
 
stephanie75miller said:
Eboni801 unfortunately that is the nature of transitioning hair. The nature hair and relaxed hair will fight each other. I had horrible tangles during my transition. It did not resolve itself until I cut all the relaxer off. My natural hair does not tangle. How much longer do you plan to transition? After 18 months you probably have a lot of natural hair. Once I have more natural hair than relaxed it got easier and once I started cutting random pieces off so I could see my curls I knew it was time to bc. Congratulations on making 18 months.
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Thanks for responding. Errr, I was hoping I could learn to flat iron my hair like my stylist. Lol. I am planning to go 30 months if I can, "chopping" next October. In the back I only have about 1-2 inches of relaxed hair left but more than that on the top. I've learned that my top grows a bit slower.
 
Eboni801 said:
Thanks for responding. Errr, I was hoping I could learn to flat iron my hair like my stylist. Lol. I am planning to go 30 months if I can, "chopping" next October. In the back I only have about 1-2 inches of relaxed hair left but more than that on the top. I've learned that my top grows a bit slower.
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your welcome. Good luck. My stylist was a huge help throughout my transition I was not very savvy with styling my transitioning hair. I wore a lot of twisted and cornrowed styles. I workout a lot and straight styles were not practical for me.
 
Eboni801 said:
Hi everyone, I've been transitioning for 18 months and find that when I straighten my hair, my hair sticks/tangles at the line of demarcation after flat ironing. Does anyone know what I'm doing wrong? I blow dried first.
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Eboni801 make sure your hair is moisturized prior to flat ironing because dry hair doesn't do so well and transitioning dry hair is the devil. Also try the comb-chase flat ironing method if you're not already. It works wonders with the two textures :yep:
 
pearlific1 said:
Eboni801 make sure your hair is moisturized prior to flat ironing because dry hair doesn't do so well and transitioning dry hair is the devil. Also try the comb-chase flat ironing method if you're not already. It works wonders with the two textures :yep:
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Thank you. Yes I did try the comb chase method. It may be simpler once I am fully natural. I will also try deep conditioning for longer next time, maybe that will help.
 
Eboni801 said:
Hi everyone, I've been transitioning for 18 months and find that when I straighten my hair, my hair sticks/tangles at the line of demarcation after flat ironing. Does anyone know what I'm doing wrong? I blow dried first.
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My hair does this whenever I don't stretch it enough before flat ironing.
 
I'm 17 weeks into my transition and I'm feeling very optimistic for a long term transition! Yesterday I tension blow dried my hair and all my textures felt ridiculously soft... BUT now my NG Is reverting already (probably due to hear sweating in my sleep) and feels a little dry. I was rushing to hurry and get out and vote before I picked my DD up from school, so maybe I didn't dry it completely.. I'm also thinking I need to start sealing my NG with a butter, my oil mix ain't cutting it anymore.

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naija24 said:
I was due to big chop last Friday but the shrinkage stopped me. I feel really guilty but I'm gonna try my hand at long term transitioning. I currently am 4 months post and have 2 inches of new growth. I am rescheduling my big chop for late April/early May at 9-10 months post relaxer.

i'm in a sew in between now and then.
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LOL...don't feel guilty, girl!! I have absolutely NO INTENTIONS of big-chopping. Currently 11months since my last relaxer in December 2013, and I'm just gonna transition forever!! :lachen::lachen:

I will trim these ends sparingly as time goes by. Eventually I'll look up and be a full natural head. Shrinkage is so real!!
 
baddison said:
LOL...don't feel guilty, girl!! I have absolutely NO INTENTIONS of big-chopping. Currently 11months since my last relaxer in December 2013, and I'm just gonna transition forever!! :lachen::lachen:

I will trim these ends sparingly as time goes by. Eventually I'll look up and be a full natural head. Shrinkage is so real!!
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THANK YOU!!!:grin::grin::grin: baddison how long is your hair altogether/just natural?

I want to just trim as I go but a part of me would LOOOOOVE to have super long hair in a year with both natural and relaxed parts of my hair. I'll be one year post in July and I would have another 5-6 inches of hair. That would put me at APL or beyond easy if I retain everything so I feel like by 2015's end I'd be full CBL or closing in on APL natural anyway so I might as well retain and not chop. I don't know!!! My feeling is that since i'm neck length now, to BC at 10 months my hair will be about the same length stretched.

Straight haired natural sounds fun but I hear so much from people about heat damage. I may just end up being a press and curl natural once my hair is APL.
 
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It's so frustrating how I can get my roots so straight on wash day, but I have the hardest time stretching the length of my hair.

I tried to make it to Sally's the other day to buy rollers but they were closed. I'm going to try again today because I really fell in love with these ladies rollersets
 

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PlainJane said:
It's so frustrating how I can get my roots so straight on wash day, but I have the hardest time stretching the length of my hair.

I tried to make it to Sally's the other day to buy rollers but they were closed. I'm going to try again today because I really fell in love with these ladies rollersets
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What kind of rollers will you be using? I bought perm rods but have yet to use them for a full set.
 
I was just so tired of knots, tangles & fooling with my relaxed ends! So instead of breaking out the scissors & doing something I know I would regret...I straightened. I stretched first with flexi rods & sat under my hooded dryer. I'll be 3 years post in a few weeks.

baddison Not only is shrinkage real...that ***** is kicking butt & taking names
 
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Last pic! *promise*

Wishing you Transitioning Divas much luck on your journey....and mine too...I need it at this stage! I'm tired & ready to focus on something else!
 
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