Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

SqrpioQutie said:
What is it that you're doubting?
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That I want to be natural. I don't want to destroy my hair with heat constantly to get it straight and my hair is thick with fine strands. Im thinking I'd rather relax every 6mths than use heat weekly or biweekly to get my hair straight. I do not believe in heat training at all. All it is, is damaging your hair with heat. I'm not willing to put my hair through that and it thrived relaxed and retained length. I haven't touched that box of cream just thinking out loud.
 
I just washed my hair and applied some CON conditioner, the extra moisturising one. I was amazed at how slippery it was. My hair stretched like I've never seen it do with a conditioner before. I'm waiting patiently for when I wash it out to see how different my hair feels. I'm hoping for good things.
 
PinkSunshine77 said:
That I want to be natural. I don't want to destroy my hair with heat constantly to get it straight and my hair is thick with fine strands. Im thinking I'd rather relax every 6mths than use heat weekly or biweekly to get my hair straight. I do not believe in heat training at all. All it is, is damaging your hair with heat. I'm not willing to put my hair through that and it thrived relaxed and retained length. I haven't touched that box of cream just thinking out loud.
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Can you pinpoint why you are feeling this way? Is it that you prefer to wear your hair straight? How far into your transition are you? I just asked that because you may feel differently as it gets longer and you can see the length more easily even if you roller set or blow dry on a low heat and then style.

ETA: That said Allandra, one of our mods, actually transitioned and kept her hair straight with heat styling so it can be done. I don't think she suffered any heat damage but you'll have to get the specifics from her on how she did it. She may have started a thread on it.
 
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HoneyA said:
Can you pinpoint why you are feeling this way? Is it that you prefer to wear your hair straight? How far into your transition are you? I just asked that because you may feel differently as it gets longer and you can see the length more easily even if you roller set or blow dry on a low heat and then style.
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I prefer it straight maybe 1x monthly. I honestly don't need it straight all the time. If I were to put it in a percentage, I'd say about 40% of the time, I like it straight if that makes sense. I am 26 weeks post relaxer today. I hate roller sets because I hate sleeping on hard rollers and it always comes out looking poofy and awful. Even when I relaxed my hair, my hair never came out fully bone straight. I would always have to flat iron it afterward to get it straighter. I do want to try to blow dry it straight. Somehow I haven't gotten that technique down. I have not buckled at all. I think it's normal to feel this way during the transition. I just know how my hair is and too much heat is not good for my fine strands. I won't chance damage because I'm a recovering heat addict and "heat training" is most definitely not for me. I had less damage relaxing so that isn't enticing to me. Thanks for you advice. I'm going to try that blow dry when I want it straight next time.
 
So I prepooed with Ojon treatment. Slept over night with it. I am always pleased. Washed with "As I Am Coconut Cowash" which will be a repurchase. Nexus emergencee treatment, sitting with a moisture masque (that wasn't really needed). Will leave on for 1 hour then rinse. By then I should know what I want as far as styling is concerned for the week. My hair was kinda dry yesterday morning before moisturizing, which is unusual. Hmmmmmmm.
 
I washed with Kera Care Natural Textures Cleansing Cream and conditioned with LeKair Cholesterol mixed with oils under my heat cap.
 
I would not worry to much about it. When I was natural I generally used heat once a month(hotcomb warmed up by gas stovetop) and my hair was healthy with no heat damage whatsoever. No I didn't use heat protectant either.

Straightening one a month should be fine, just make sure you DC with a protein conditioner and when your ready to wash your hair again using protein DC. Never blowdry on high heat and keep temps below/at 350 degrees and use a heat protector.
 
PinkSunshine77 said:
That I want to be natural. I don't want to destroy my hair with heat constantly to get it straight and my hair is thick with fine strands. Im thinking I'd rather relax every 6mths than use heat weekly or biweekly to get my hair straight. I do not believe in heat training at all. All it is, is damaging your hair with heat. I'm not willing to put my hair through that and it thrived relaxed and retained length. I haven't touched that box of cream just thinking out loud.
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i say ultimately, you need to make the best decision for your life and lifestyle... so if that means relaxing, then that's what it means.... so many people have done natural, texlaxed, relaxed several times in their life... there's no one right way to treat your hair no matter what anyone who firmly sits in any of the camps say.... :yep:
 
SqrpioQutie said:
i say ultimately, you need to make the best decision for your life and lifestyle... so if that means relaxing, then that's what it means.... so many people have done natural, texlaxed, relaxed several times in their life... there's no one right way to treat your hair no matter what anyone who firmly sits in any of the camps say.... :yep:
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You're right :) I just have to figure out what I want. If you ladies see me scarcely here, you'll know what my decision was. Thanks for the support. I appreciate it and wish everyone HHJs
 
69 wks post. Thought that would sound more fun than 16 months post. Feels like I've been 16 months post forever. :lol:
 
23 weeks post; 24 on Wednesday.

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This is today. Still not sure what my hair wants to be but it's an interesting journey so far. :lol:
 
Still hanging in there. I decided to make my own moisture mix, since my hair been so dry.

I dumped some V05 MM conditioner in a jar of Coconut Oil . My hair feels really good and moisturizer and shiny.

I went to a stylist and got my ends trimmed. She asked was I transitioning, I said yes. She stated my natural hair was in good condition and moisturized. However my ends was horrible and the damage was moving up. I know it was from that dang on sock bun, I been doing for the last three weeks.

I guess I will have to bun my hair around itself. Like I used to do before. It's just so short and don't look as neat. As when my hair was longer.

My hair is now Collar bone length. Also I'm officially natural in the lower back of my head. I had her to cut it in a bob. Its not styled or anything.

I will probably go back in 6 months to get another trim.
 
40 weeks yesterday. I could have had a baby by now, lol. I wish I had transitioned during either of my last two pregnancies. I'd be natural by now.

Lately, I've been so in love with my hair. Thing 1 and Thing 2 don't bother me as much. Almost makes me want to cut the relaxed ends off but I know better. In fact, I saw one of my cousins last night. She's natural but was in braids. When I asked her why, she said her hair was an awkward length for styling. So that ended up being a sign that I should stay the course. She told me that she tried to transition but her hair would mat and dread badly so she had to BC. I figure, if I was meant to BC, my hair would do the same. Just going to try to enjoy this transition even though I have no idea how long it's going to last.

I have decent products but haven't found my HG staples yet and/or HG techniques and styles.. I'm on my last paycheck before I become a SAHM so that worries me a bit. Guess I'll have to use up my stash and make them work for me. I'm tempted, however, to try Nature's Gate, As I Am, and an online product. I still haven't found a moisturizing deep conditioner I love (on the ground), so I'm thinking of ordering something from Oyin or someplace else.

Enjoying my wet buns even though my hair doesn't cooperate fully. I think that's why I'm enjoying my hair. I'm still mentally transitioning though, so I follow natural folks on Instagram so I'm not tempted by straight hair I see in real life or the HAM natural hair I see out here.

Sorry so long. How's everyone else doing?
 
God bless you all for hanging in there soooo long w/o a relaxer and transitioning freely w/o the help of wigs, weaves, braids.

I'm about 18 weeks post with a sew in. When I wash my weave the front part of the leave out I notice tangles very easily and just looks crap compared to the thickness of my newgrowth. When I take this weave down in about 3-4 weeks I don't look forward to all the detangling with the two different textures yet you guys deal with this daily. I think at best - the most I see myself going is 1 year before I big chop but since my natural hair prob won't have the length I like, I'll prob big chop and wear curly weaves for a few months while my hair grows and gains some length.
 
Dang, I went to ULTA, and I found the Giovanni Leave in. I'm mad cause I went there two weeks and asked her if they sell it? She said No. Next time I will just look myself.

They also have a sell buy one get one 50% off on Giovanni products. If you have the coupon an additional 3.50 off when your purchase is 10.00 or more.
 
That CON extra moisture shampoo and DC along with the Cantu Shea butter made my NG extra soft and manageable. That is MAJOR at this stage in the transition. Those are my staples for the next 2 years and beyond. Great stuff! I'm going to try the conditioner as a leave-in at some point and see how it works. May lightly oil my scalp with castor oil tonight.
 
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I defaulted back to a bun after my twist n curl needed to be restyled after a few days. It was a toss up between cowashing or trying to make it to the 1 week mark...and I made it to the week mark. Im trying to decide wheter to wash/cowash twice a week (makes my scalp happy) or once a week (might make my hair happier bc less manipulation and not having to detangle more than once a week).

I just started using Shea Moisture Organic Yucca and Baobab Thickening Moisture Mist last week and I think Im in love. I think it will make a great refresher and even when my hair is really dry in the morning, for example if I was too tired to tie it up (I sleep on a satin pillowcase, but usually still cover my hair bc it retains moisture better when I cover it). A light mist of this all over and sealed with EVCO and my hair feels amazingly soft root to tip. Im pretty amazed a mist can do such a good job. Amazingly my hair feels just as soft if not softer than when I use the Shea Moisture Smoothie or hair milk. Love it for the am before work, saves me a few minutes--a few minutes I can instead spend on styling or makeup lol.
 
I used silk elements moisturizing conditioner yesterday to deep condition with and my hair loved it except my crown. My crown has a mind of its own and is a totally different texture than the rest. Is there any truth to scab hair cuz I'm wondering if that's what's going on in my crown

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I used the Giovanni Triple Tea Tree Threat shampoo and I like it alot. It's more clarifying than moisture. As soon as I pop the top the Frangrance took over my senses. The smell is lovely. It also tingle my scalp and my hair felt clean.

The Giovanni TTT conditioner for my hair, is more of a protein boost to me.

Overall I like them both.

My hair was shiny and easy to manage.
 
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I took my box braids out yesterday and am getting cornrows put in tonight. However, for every two box braids I took out, I made a twist with my own hair. So, I have chunky twists in my hair right now, and with the amount of new growth I have, they look pretty decent. Anyways, today I wash and get cornows put in, I'll post a couple of pics tomorrow.

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MissMusic said:
I took my box braids out yesterday and am getting cornrows put in tonight. However, for every two box braids I took out, I made a twist with my own hair. So, I have chunky twists in my hair right now, and with the amount of new growth I have, they look pretty decent. Anyways, today I wash and get cornows put in, I'll post a couple of pics tomorrow.

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Can't wait to see pics.
 
I am not planning to grow my hair past whip. I was tail bone relaxed in the beginning of the year and that seemed to be a bit much. I cut my hair back to MBL and it is much easier. My new growth is just there, I want to take vitamins. Just too lazy. But that should be starting soon. I bought a juicer and will incorporate it all into my addition to my life style.
 
Today is my one year anniversary! Yay! :yay: I can't believe I've made it this far. I've had braids for about 3 months now because I can't do a dang thang with my real hair. But for some reason I have zero interest in a relaxer. I wish I would've done this a long time ago.
 
JJamiah said:
I am not planning to grow my hair past whip. I was tail bone relaxed in the beginning of the year and that seemed to be a bit much. I cut my hair back to MBL and it is much easier. My new growth is just there, I want to take vitamins. Just too lazy. But that should be starting soon. I bought a juicer and will incorporate it all into my addition to my life style.
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I was just thinking about the bolded. However I know it will just sit there and be a waste of money.
 
Meemee6223 said:
Today is my one year anniversary! Yay! :yay: I can't believe I've made it this far. I've had braids for about 3 months now because I can't do a dang thang with my real hair. But for some reason I have zero interest in a relaxer. I wish I would've done this a long time ago.
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Congrats on your one year! Do you have any pics. Starting from the beginning until now. It will be motivation for the rest of us.

Also at the bolded, well you here now and thats all that matters.
 
JJamiah said:
I am not planning to grow my hair past whip. I was tail bone relaxed in the beginning of the year and that seemed to be a bit much. I cut my hair back to MBL and it is much easier. My new growth is just there, I want to take vitamins. Just too lazy. But that should be starting soon. I bought a juicer and will incorporate it all into my addition to my life style.
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I have been juicing for a bit now. and i love it! i have been doing a juice feast since august 1 and the results are amazing!:grin: come over the the natural living section and check us out.

Meemee6223 said:
Today is my one year anniversary! Yay! :yay: I can't believe I've made it this far. I've had braids for about 3 months now because I can't do a dang thang with my real hair. But for some reason I have zero interest in a relaxer. I wish I would've done this a long time ago.
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HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

The Princess said:
I was just thinking about the bolded. However I know it will just sit there and be a waste of money.
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this is how i felt...i bought a $30 Black and Decker juicer from Amazon to get me started. that way if i didn't use it, i wouldn't have wasted too much money. so far i love it and my hair has been so much softer and shinier since i started juicing. so that is a bonus!
 
Rae81 said:
I used silk elements moisturizing conditioner yesterday to deep condition with and my hair loved it except my crown. My crown has a mind of its own and is a totally different texture than the rest. Is there any truth to scab hair cuz I'm wondering if that's what's going on in my crown

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Rae81 How far are you into your transition? I believe in scab hair, my crown was the same way, but now it is doing much better (for about the past month) and is retaining moisture well. Im not sure if it was time, consistent deep conditioning, finding better products that happened to work well, or a combo of all three...but with patience it no longer feels like a brillo pad!

MissMusic said:
I took my box braids out yesterday and am getting cornrows put in tonight. However, for every two box braids I took out, I made a twist with my own hair. So, I have chunky twists in my hair right now, and with the amount of new growth I have, they look pretty decent. Anyways, today I wash and get cornows put in, I'll post a couple of pics tomorrow.

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MissMusic cute! How did you get your twists to hold? Id like to do chunkier twists bc they are cute and take less time than thinner twists, but I can barely get the skinny ones to hold so Im certain chunky ones wont. Any tips? Also let me know if these get you through a week or more :)

Meemee6223 said:
Today is my one year anniversary! Yay! :yay: I can't believe I've made it this far. I've had braids for about 3 months now because I can't do a dang thang with my real hair. But for some reason I have zero interest in a relaxer. I wish I would've done this a long time ago.
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Meemee6223 Wootwoot! Congrats on making it 1 year post! Cant wait til I can say the same! Im excited to make it past the 6 month mark and my hair is cooperating well so far!


Today was gonna be wash day, but Im meeting a friend for lunch and have to sit in on a class this evening at my job, so I dont think I can squeeze in any tlc today. I would need at least 3 hours to prepoo, wash, dc, and style lol. Quick default high bun will be the style today and maybe Ill do my hair late tonight if Im not too tired.

Does anybody use Shea Moisture Curling Souffle? Im gonna try it out next. I swear I have yet to NOT like a Shea Moisture Product. Im glad I found a line that works on my hair that can be bought on the ground.
 
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