Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[havilland]

@havilland
Thanks chica! I hope you didnt break down and relax already! What are the reasons behind you transitioning? I understand not wanting to cut bc your hair is beautiful. Im not very attached to my hair bc I had some thinning and breakage from neglecting it for a long time coupled with going from texlaxed to bone straight...it just looked yuck. I had some scraggly thin APL in the back ends and it was seriously starting to look like a mullet lol. When I chopped it to neck length it looked much better and so far Im enjoying my transition and my hair actually looks much better than it did before my mini chop. Im having fun with it...but I wish I was all natural already so I didnt have to try to blend two textures all the time. -----

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LOL @ mullet. no, i am actually home sick with a summer cold today....so i am way too weak to relax anything. i slapped some deep condish on my hair and applied it heavy like it was some relaxer and kept it moving.

to answer your question, i am going natural because i want to grow my hair to mid back or waist length and because my hair is fine and fragile, it just doesn't want to get there with chemicals. so i can either max out where i am now, or stop relaxing and allow my hair to recover and be a bit stronger. i feel that eliminating my exposure to chemicals will help me retain length better.

my first year, i wore protective styles, stretched relaxers and transitioned from bonelax to texlax.

my second year i stretched even longer --- 6+ months.

i still protective style, avoid heat, deep condition, moisturize, trim as needed......blah blah blah still not at waist length, soooooooo
now 5 years into my healthy hair journey, i realize that no matter what i do, my ends will just suffer ultimate "weakness" if i don't stop relaxing.

 

[Guinan]

This is my before and after shots lol

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I dont mean to laugh I have the same problem. I always keep a big clip w/ me. In my siggie is a favorite still I wear when the weather outside destroys my perfect braidouts.

 

[Rae81]

I dont mean to laugh I have the same problem. I always keep a big clip w/ me. In my siggie is a favorite still I wear when the weather outside destroys my perfect braidouts.

I was laughing when I looked in the mirror after I got to work

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[CandiceC]

I'm mildly tempted to cut my hair sometimes. It's only been 35 weeks and my natural hair doesn't have much length.

I need a plan.

I'm getting kinky twists next month so that'll be a nice break from this stupid bun. DH likes my hair pulled back, but I know he's got to be tired of this bun too.

I may cut my hair after taking the twists out. Then go back into twists or get braids if I'm not feeling the twa. :scratchch

 

[PinkSunshine77]

Just darn near finished my huge jar of Silicon Mix Bambu. I don't think I'm going to be buying it again. I mean I don't notice all that much difference with my Hair. I have on my plastic cap, and a silk scarf over it and will keep it on overnight. I checked the ingredients and I didn't see any added Proteins and I'm familiar with all the names for Proteins, so I guess it's all good.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

Just darn near finished my huge jar of Silicon Mix Bambu. I don't think I'm going to be buying it again. I mean I don't notice all that much difference with my Hair. I have on my plastic cap, and a silk scarf over it and will keep it on overnight. I checked the ingredients and I didn't see any added Proteins and I'm familiar with all the names for Proteins, so I guess it's all good.

i bought that for the first time yesterday and used it this morning... i didn't immediately like it like i do the regular silicon mix, but after i detangled and rinsed it out and finished up in the shower, my hair was pretty awesome!!.... felt stronger but not dry.... my bun dried bigger today too...

 

[Rae81]

Just darn near finished my huge jar of Silicon Mix Bambu. I don't think I'm going to be buying it again. I mean I don't notice all that much difference with my Hair. I have on my plastic cap, and a silk scarf over it and will keep it on overnight. I checked the ingredients and I didn't see any added Proteins and I'm familiar with all the names for Proteins, so I guess it's all good.

I recently tried the regular silicon mix and that smell was very overwhelming.

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[PinkSunshine77]

I recently tried the regular silicon mix and that smell was very overwhelming.

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Yeah people claimed "it smells so good" in the reviews I read. It doesn't stink but it sure is strong. I'm now on the hunt for a thick, light Protein DC I can use weekly & the exact Giovanni leave in Hair Crush on YT uses.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

i bought that for the first time yesterday and used it this morning... i didn't immediately like it like i do the regular silicon mix, but after i detangled and rinsed it out and finished up in the shower, my hair was pretty awesome!!.... felt stronger but not dry.... my bun dried bigger today too...

Alright! Sounds good, maybe ill give the regular Silicon mix a try.

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

Don't you hate working on the last section of your hair only to run out of product? I thought I could stretch my Oyin Handmade Spritz. Nope. Uh-uh. It didn't happen. Off to order some more. Don't tell my husband, though.

Oh, and my mom, who's visiting from Philly, told me that she doesn't see any relaxed ends (from afar, of course). I told her I still have a little bit and I'm not cutting them. Well, she informed me that I look completely natural.
You have to love Mom's seal of approval.

 

[MissMusic]

Yeah people claimed "it smells so good" in the reviews I read. It doesn't stink but it sure is strong. I'm now on the hunt for a thick, light Protein DC I can use weekly & the exact Giovanni leave in Hair Crush on YT uses.

Have you tried Aubrey Organics GPB? Its definitely friendly for weekly use

 

[Napp]

Yeah people claimed "it smells so good" in the reviews I read. It doesn't stink but it sure is strong. I'm now on the hunt for a thick, light Protein DC I can use weekly & the exact Giovanni leave in Hair Crush on YT uses.

you might like africas best organics hair mayo. i really like this DC! its only 3 dollars and change. i also like vitale hair mayo and silk elements hair mayo. the latter two are more moisturizing.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

Have you tried Aubrey Organics GPB? Its definitely friendly for weekly use

No but ill be trying it now thanks

 

[PinkSunshine77]

you might like africas best organics hair mayo. i really like this DC! its only 3 dollars and change. i also like vitale hair mayo and silk elements hair mayo. the latter two are more moisturizing.

Thanks ill get those too so that I can see which one I like best

 

[Lanea87]

Cowashing today and back into my bun until Friday.....

I did not cowash like I was suppose to Tuesday. But tomorrow is wash day so I will see yall tomorrow night.

 

[Lanea87]

Walked from my house to the bus stop and my braid out turned to a poofy mess Smh. I don't have anything to pull it back with

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girl, you gotta keep a stash of pins, bands, pony holders and scrunchies (and i keep a small jar of gel) in your bag.......

i'm sorry that happened. i hate when that happens.

Rae81
Go to Sallys and buy yourself a little jar and put some Eco-Styler or whatever kinda gel you like in there. WalMart has mini boar bristle brushes that are about the 5 inches long that you can carry in your bag. I keep stuff like this in my purse daily. I am the go-to girl when ppl need stuff LOL. You cant go wrong with a textured bun.....

This is my before and after shots lol

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Before was beautiful and uniform, after was . Glad momma brought you a brush.

 

[Leslie_C]

this is what i want to get back to:

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and

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(not the body, just the hair... )

pretty hair! My hair was similar when it was texlaxed at its prime lol...a couple inches shorter though.

@havilland

Thanks chica! I hope you didnt break down and relax already! What are the reasons behind you transitioning? I understand not wanting to cut bc your hair is beautiful. Im not very attached to my hair bc I had some thinning and breakage from neglecting it for a long time coupled with going from texlaxed to bone straight...it just looked yuck. I had some scraggly thin APL in the back ends and it was seriously starting to look like a mullet lol. When I chopped it to neck length it looked much better and so far Im enjoying my transition and my hair actually looks much better than it did before my mini chop. Im having fun with it...but I wish I was all natural already so I didnt have to try to blend two textures all the time. ------


LOL @ mullet. no, i am actually home sick with a summer cold today....so i am way too weak to relax anything. i slapped some deep condish on my hair and applied it heavy like it was some relaxer and kept it moving.

to answer your question, i am going natural because i want to grow my hair to mid back or waist length and because my hair is fine and fragile, it just doesn't want to get there with chemicals. so i can either max out where i am now, or stop relaxing and allow my hair to recover and be a bit stronger. i feel that eliminating my exposure to chemicals will help me retain length better.

my first year, i wore protective styles, stretched relaxers and transitioned from bonelax to texlax.

my second year i stretched even longer --- 6+ months.

i still protective style, avoid heat, deep condition, moisturize, trim as needed......blah blah blah still not at waist length, soooooooo
now 5 years into my healthy hair journey, i realize that no matter what i do, my ends will just suffer ultimate "weakness" if i don't stop relaxing.

havilland, I totally get that. I maxed out at APL a couple inches shy of BSL and never could get past that...then I had a setback and breakage and thinning hit me hard. My hair is still noticably thinner on the left side but it wont matter since those ends are on their way out sooner or later.
I didnt have anything to lose by transitioning bc I would have needed to cut half my hair off to recover from the setback. I couldnt wear it down and straight. Now it is healthier and thicker. I want to straighten it out of curiousity...maybe later in the fall or early winter.

I'm mildly tempted to cut my hair sometimes. It's only been 35 weeks and my natural hair doesn't have much length.

I need a plan.

I'm getting kinky twists next month so that'll be a nice break from this stupid bun. DH likes my hair pulled back, but I know he's got to be tired of this bun too.

I may cut my hair after taking the twists out. Then go back into twists or get braids if I'm not feeling the twa. :scratchch

Im so right there with you, but Im also fairly certain I would hate my hair short and hate not having the option to bun it if it looks crazy that day. Im 28 weeks...so sbout 1.5-2 months behind you.

Don't you hate working on the last section of your hair only to run out of product? I thought I could stretch my Oyin Handmade Spritz. Nope. Uh-uh. It didn't happen. Off to order some more. Don't tell my husband, though.

Oh, and my mom, who's visiting from Philly, told me that she doesn't see any relaxed ends (from afar, of course). I told her I still have a little bit and I'm not cutting them. Well, she informed me that I look completely natural.
You have to love Mom's seal of approval.

chrisanddonniesmommy You really do have skills bc I couldnt tell you werent natural either by your pics...I would have no worries about cutting anytime soon either if I were you bc you blend the two textures seamlessly! I want to be like you when I grow up.

you might like africas best organics hair mayo. i really like this DC! its only 3 dollars and change. i also like vitale hair mayo and silk elements hair mayo. the latter two are more moisturizing.

Napp, I need to try those...I use ORS Hair Mayo but it is a pretty penny, so if any of those work to my liking I would definitely switch...shoot thats more $ to spend on some other product lol.

@Rae81
Go to Sallys and buy yourself a little jar and put some Eco-Styler or whatever kinda gel you like in there. WalMart has mini boar bristle brushes that are about the 5 inches long that you can carry in your bag. I keep stuff like this in my purse daily. I am the go-to girl when ppl need stuff LOL. You cant go wrong with a textured bun.....



Before was beautiful and uniform, after was . Glad momma brought you a brush.

ZebraPrintLover good idea about the little container of gel and mini brush, Im gonna do that! All the other nurses I work with know who to come to if they need a bobby pin or hair band lol.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

today i tried the TJ Nourish Spa Shampoo and Conditioner and i really liked it.... then i blew it out and my blow out came out great!!.... i haven't flat-ironed yet though - i figure i'll wait til i'm about to go to bed...

 

[PinkSunshine77]

it's been about 5 weeks almost 6 and I have a function to attend this weekend, so after my long DC session today and wash, I'm flat ironing. I will probably see if I can preserve it for the week. I make no promises though. I am using my Kiss Red Silicon iron (3/4 & 1/2 inch) and my beloved CHI Iron Guard. I LOVE this stuff. I also used a little Grapeseed oil for added protection. Oh, and while I'm at it a good trim to keep my ends even. I know I know but even though I'm growing my hair out, while it's still on my head I need it to look uniform atleast.

 

[Leslie_C]

it's been about 5 weeks almost 6 and I have a function to attend this weekend, so after my long DC session today and wash, I'm flat ironing. I will probably see if I can preserve it for the week. I make no promises though. I am using my Kiss Red Silicon iron (3/4 & 1/2 inch) and my beloved CHI Iron Guard. I LOVE this stuff. I also used a little Grapeseed oil for added protection. Oh, and while I'm at it a good trim to keep my ends even. I know I know but even though I'm growing my hair out, while it's still on my head I need it to look uniform atleast.

PinkSunshine77 I think you must have meant 6 MONTHS right?

 

[Napp]

i cant seem to style my hair without my hair matting. i wish i could find a style that i could just leave it alone. i had the idea to make a wig so i purchased the hair and supplies. 4 hours later and now im stuck with a crappy wig that somehow doesnt fit my head. im so mad i wasted time and money just to have more to throw into the bin of fake hair that i dont wear! i could have gotten something nice with the money i spent! that will be the last fake hair purchase i make this year!

im just starting to get sick of my hair. i cant do anything with it with this weather. im tempted to just cut it off because i dont care anymore but it might just be a passing urge. the same thing happened last summer and thats when i got a relaxer. i dont care if im relaxed or natural or short or long. i just want to look cute and right now i am not feelin it!

 

[havilland]

i cant seem to style my hair without my hair matting. i wish i could find a style that i could just leave it alone. i had the idea to make a wig so i purchased the hair and supplies. 4 hours later and now im stuck with a crappy wig that somehow doesnt fit my head. im so mad i wasted time and money just to have more to throw into the bin of fake hair that i dont wear! i could have gotten something nice with the money i spent! that will be the last fake hair purchase i make this year!

im just starting to get sick of my hair. i cant do anything with it with this weather. im tempted to just cut it off because i dont care anymore but it might just be a passing urge. the same thing happened last summer and thats when i got a relaxer. i dont care if im relaxed or natural or short or long. i just want to look cute and right now i am not feelin it!

sometimes hair just won't cooperate. don't cut it all off or relax (unless you really want to) just ride it out. hair has bad days too.

my bad days are almost ALWAYS in summer.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

PinkSunshine77 I think you must have meant 6 MONTHS right?

my last flat iron? No that was July 9th.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

I got pics!

when this is all WL, the cutting will begin. Not before

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

There's nothing like cornrows in summer. My mommy helped me out and I feel good. I just wish this shrinkage could be nipped in the bud.

 

[MissMusic]

I just posted this on my blog, but I thought I would share here as well. So what had happened was...I was re-doing some braids as I do every two weeks, and I got curious. First, I was just looking at my curls:

Then, I wanted to see how long a twist would be, so I just braided up the new growth and left the relaxed ends out:

Finally, I wanted to check out my shrinkage, so I just chopped off the relaxed ends:

I need to STOP TRIPPIN ! I'm so ready to chop, but I will make it AT LEAST until the end of this year. Back into extensions that little twist goes.

 

[Napp]

i just threw out my relaxer out today. i was holding on to two jars, a base cream and a huge bottle of neutralizing shampoo. i decided to get rid of the temptation because i had some of the more beautiful texlax results from vitale ideal relaxer and i was thinking about texturizing

im going back to my press and curl and washing 1x a month. im going to do a few things differently this time around

here is my reggie for the next few months

-wash,dc w/heat for 1hr,blowdry/airdry(depending on time), flat iron
-use waterless shampoo in between washings
-no oils or grease
-moisturize nightly especially in breakage prone areas
-keratin treatment every other month,edges every month

so far the keratin treatment has reverted in the back from sweating but i just wet my edges with water and put my scarf on and they are bone straight like i had just pressed them! the curl pattern looks the same but it flattens much easier! i can work with this

also i still dont know what to do with all of my fake hair. i just gathered it all up and have 3 boxes full maybe ill stuff a pillow with it LOL.

 

[Napp]

MissMusic wow at your shrinkage! i wouldn't have guessed all that NG was hiding there! how many months post are you?

 

[MissMusic]

MissMusic wow at your shrinkage! i wouldn't have guessed all that NG was hiding there! how many months post are you?

Tomorrow will make 14 months + 4 weeks since my last relaxer. My hair is really coily, so it has a shrinkage life of its own erplexed

 

[PinkSunshine77]

Feeling some way about transitioning now..what an odd feeling. I'm having doubts. I need some strength.