Ticked At Spouse - Asked To Continue Working

[Transformer]

Right now I'm so mad at my spouse that I have more steam than a combustible engine.

Here's the deal. We are both scheduled to permanently retire from external work within the next 12 months. This NEGRO had the nerve to propose that I work another 6 to 12 months. WHY? TO FULLFILL HIS FANTASY OF BEING A HOUSE HUSBAND.

Get this. He has developed a schedule which consist of a gym workout from 6am - 9am. Then back home to clean house and cook dinner. Sounds like the perfect house husband role EXCEPT currently he only cooks COFFEE and Spaghetti using bottled sauce. That's it...the total of his culinary talents.

Pissed, hurt, disappointed doesn't describe how I feel right now. I have let him know that he can make plans for his life while I make plans for mine.

So who thinks I should engage in his FANTASY?

 

[jeanghrey]

Girl I would've let that roll in one ear and out the other.....no sense in upsetting yourself about it

 

[LeftRightRepeat]

i would have to take that as a joke, or a lame attempt at a joke.

doesn't even make sense and wth does he do in the gym for 3 hours?

 

[Black Ambrosia]

This is just weird. I think I'd be questioning how well I knew him if he's fantasizing about being taken care of. Is this something men secretly aspire to?

 

[chebaby]

before he even finished i would have told him he is gross and i am disgusted.

 

[LeftRightRepeat]

but to tell you the truth sometimes i take days off work when I know that dh is going to work. home by myself (no kids, no dh, no plans) is nice sometimes :shh:

 

[lisatamika]

Ashton Kutcher, come on out and tell us we're being punked!

 

[Black Ambrosia]

but to tell you the truth sometimes i take days off work when I know that dh is going to work. home by myself (no kids, no dh, no plans) is nice sometimes :shh:

I wouldn't compare this to what he suggested. We all need a break from time to time. He wants her to do the heavy lifting while he's not prepared to do house husband duties.

 

[LeftRightRepeat]

I wouldn't compare this to what he suggested. We all need a break from time to time. He wants her to do the heavy lifting while he's not prepared to do house husband duties.

ok. i can see myself saying something like this to dh
he wouldn't take me seriously though

 

[momi]

I'd tell him all about my fantasy too - a fantasy called the SINGLE life!

My respect meter would be down to -1.

Maybe he was just joking... is it April?

 

[Transformer]

Ashton Kutcher, come on out and tell us we're being punked!

I wish this was a joke but he is SINCERE in wanting to have the role of house husband. He really does enjoy the mornings I go to work and leave him bed.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

I wish this was a joke but he is SINCERE in wanting to have the role of house husband. He really does enjoy the mornings I go to work and leave him bed.

How did he respond when you told him to make his own plans? Was he bothered at all by your response?

 

[Transformer]

How did he respond when you told him to make his own plans? Was he bothered at all by your response?

Yes, he was bothered by my response because it means that his FANTASY won't be fulfilled. It is like I OWE this to him.

 

[Peppermynt]

Right now I'm so mad at my spouse that I have more steam than a combustible engine.

Here's the deal. We are both scheduled to permanently retire from external work within the next 12 months. This NEGRO had the nerve to propose that I work another 6 to 12 months. WHY? TO FULLFILL HIS FANTASY OF BEING A HOUSE HUSBAND.

Get this. He has developed a schedule which consist of a gym workout from 6am - 9am. Then back home to clean house and cook dinner. Sounds like the perfect house husband role EXCEPT currently he only cooks COFFEE and Spaghetti using bottled sauce. That's it...the total of his culinary talents.

Pissed, hurt, disappointed doesn't describe how I feel right now. I have let him know that he can make plans for his life while I make plans for mine.

So who thinks I should engage in his FANTASY?

Sounds like he's having a mid life crisis? (Ask me how I know )

Do you work from home or in an office?

 

[Transformer]

Sounds like he's having a mid life crisis? (Ask me how I know )

Do you work from home or in an office?

I go into an office.

 

[Transformer]

I have reminded him that the bed sheets are only changed when I change them and that I don't eat packaged Spaghetti with bottled sauce. He claims that he will get a cookbook.

By the way, he only shops for groceries if he is accompanying me. He will do laundry, clean bathroom and kitchen, and is really good at dusting light fixtures and ceiling fans. Takes out the garbage and oversees all yard maintenance.

But he doesn't cook or shop for ANYTHING.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

He said, “Imma quit, you keep working”?

I can’t...

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Call me petty but I'd stop coloring.

 

[Peppermynt]

I go into an office.

Been there, done (something similar to) that except I telecommute. And mine was a fantastic cook.

But he wanted to farm (still does and is doing so). So I said and

So it's slightly different. Lol.

 

[Bun Mistress]

So who thinks I should engage in his FANTASY?

shut up and he double hockey sticks no.

Plan B: you both retire and live separately then he can have the whole house to himself all of the time.

 

[Transformer]

He said, “Imma quit, you keep working”?

I can’t...

This has been part of our retirement plans for years.....we hit all our goals. This is just his FANTASY..... its like he wants to demonstrate skills he doesn't have.

I'm not telling him to continue working.....I've told him he can stop any day of the week, but he says he going to go with the plan........except he wants to change MY date.

 

[naturalgyrl5199]

Good luck.

 

[Miss617]

Good luck.

What she said. Cuz I'm over here like

 

[FoxxyLocs]

I don't see what difference it makes to him that you are going to work (vs if you left to go shopping or meet up with friends)? Is it that he wants the house to himself during the day?

 

[Pat Mahurr]

I’m really dumbfounded.

Can you just pretend to go to work every day for 6 months and let him greet you like horny cabana boy every evening? I mean let him know you’re not really going to work, don’t lie. But take classes, go window shopping, take day trips, etc.? He’d probably get tired of it before you would.

Oops. You beat me to it.

I don't see what difference it makes to him that you are going to work (vs if you left to go shopping or meet up with friends)? Is it that he wants the house to himself during the day?

 

[LeftRightRepeat]

i would ask him if he hit his head and ignore his request/fantasy.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

This has been part of our retirement plans for years.....we hit all our goals. This is just his FANTASY..... its like he wants to demonstrate skills he doesn't have.

I'm not telling him to continue working.....I've told him he can stop any day of the week, but he says he going to go with the plan........except he wants to change MY date.

I'm married to a Jew so he expects me to negotiate so I immediately read 6-12 months and said tell dude he will get 3 months of house husbandry or nothing at all. However, if you don't want to change your plans then don't dude shouldn't have sprung this on you at the last minute.

I don't want to be "that kinda poster" but him wanting a whole year to have you out of the house for at least 8 hours a day sounds like he's planning something. Ya'll have had the retirement dates set for a while, how all of a sudden when it's go time, here he come with some brand new fantasies that he ain't mentioned before? IONO, you know your man better than I do but this don't "smell" right to me.

 

[hunnychile]

I don’t see the big deal personally. Yall are all the tail end of retirement and very well off if your posts are any indication. Idk how long y’all have been together but I don’t see the problem in indulging what is likely to be a one off request. I would play along, but make it very clear you expect sheets to be washed and changed, clothes to be washed, dried, ironed and folded, breakfast, lunch, and dinner prepared along with every other household item that needs to be completed, in addition to being ready to feed and sex me by the time I got home. See how long his fantasy will persist then. I don’t see the issue with role reversal/roleplay but alas I am young and unmarried and therefore my opinion counts for naught in this space.

 

[naturalgyrl5199]

I'm married to a Jew so he expects me to negotiate so I immediately read 6-12 months and said tell dude he will get 3 months of house husbandry or nothing at all. However, if you don't want to change your plans then don't dude shouldn't have sprung this on you at the last minute.

I don't want to be "that kinda poster" but him wanting a whole year to have you out of the house for at least 8 hours a day sounds like he's planning something. Ya'll have had the retirement dates set for a while, how all of a sudden when it's go time, here he come with some brand new fantasies that he ain't mentioned before? IONO, you know your man better than I do but this don't "smell" right to me.....

THIS!

 

[Ganjababy]

Its not that serious! It’s a fantasy. Hubby paid his dues I am sure. He is not looking for financial support from wifey. He just wants to fulfill a fantasy.

Still a no though. Lol.